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lusciouslips19 -> RE: little bit lost (3/17/2008 5:55:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

He's being passive aggressive because he doesn't want to tell his wife that he doesn't want another man there. It's not ever going to get any better because he's trying to force you out without standing up to the plate and telling everyone the truth.

You deserve better than this. So does she for that matter.


Eh, Mhawk is a female...



xxblushesxx -> RE: little bit lost (3/17/2008 6:34:23 PM)

ooops...well, sorry, I didn't read the profile.

Still it does sound like passive aggressive behaviour, and jealousy at work here.

Sorry OP, I never read your profile.



DesFIP -> RE: little bit lost (3/17/2008 8:34:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


Eh, Mhawk is a female...


Oops, sorry for that. But I still think he's deliberately trying to push the op out without being brave enough to tell his wife that. And that's passive aggressive in my book.



mhawk -> RE: little bit lost (3/18/2008 5:28:55 AM)

i know it is.and not reading profile that's alright i rarely do myself to be honest.i knowit is on the passive agressive,i discovered that between talking to Him last night on the phone and again this morning.

it was widely discussed here last night between the phone and in person with my Mistress.we've all agreed to take the time this weekend and put aside the O's/s and see waht if anythign can be figured out for this to work out if something can't be agreed upon arrangements will be made.they know they are the world to me and we've almost made 6 months now so that is why we are going to set all else aside to see what can be done by everyone.



kiwisub12 -> RE: little bit lost (3/18/2008 6:16:03 PM)

Sounds like my ex - he was nasty as he could be, to get me to kick him out, so he could tell his family that it was my fault.   It took me a while to "get it".  Better out than in.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 3:25:11 AM)

The issue, at the core, as I see it, is your fulfillment from the relationship. You're not being fulfilled nor have you been able to have what you feel is meaningful communication about it. So, I'll share my mother's advice: Ask yourself two questions. 1) Would you miss him if he were gone? 2) Is being in the relationship healthy for you? If the answer to either is no, you need to look at getting out.

Master Fire



mhawk -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 5:31:36 AM)

very sound words of advice MasterFireMaam,

after some long talks the last couple of nights and continuing into the weekend when everyone is back home we all have agreed to sit down person to person together and really dig deep to find out what we can do about this. He's already agreed that there is also some erorr on His part as well for not really defining to well on some things.it was rather rushed in showing me when i got here.we had abot 2 days beofre He had to go back to work.

we've already started on a few things. and in asnwer to you questions.i can say this honestly,i miss Him alot during the week when He's at work as it is.it would honestly tear me up if He was gone.that's why this has bothered me so much.i even find myself,beside myself sunday nights knowing He has to be away the next morning.

we all want to work on this so it can be healthy for all of us.after all considering most have run when they see on of the health issues i have out of their own fear,when on this side of that,they both,Lord and Mistress have both witnessed my seizures and still have stayed right with me(disorder not epilepsy).

so if this does start to work that will be a very good thing but we have also all agreed if we can't find a level ground on everything that He will still make arramgements so i would have somewhere to go and not have to worry about finding a shelter that i can get a place and do what i need to. so there are somethings in  place should that happen. for once last night i really heard how deeply concerned He is about all of this.

don't know if that mad any sense,i just got up. 



xxblushesxx -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 7:38:43 AM)

I'm so glad. At least now everyone is on the same page, and there is communication. Plus, you have his promise for if and when it doesn't work out, to give you some security.
I really hope he lives up to that if it ever comes to that, because some people don't.
(experience speaking, not pessimism)
(((hugs)))



mhawk -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 9:16:48 AM)

yup know that one well from my first dominate. we've already invested a great deal in this so we will see how things go this weekend.



Dnomyar -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 10:57:12 AM)

I will keep my 2 cents out of this. I will be watching with interest to see how this plays out.



xxblushesxx -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 11:12:26 AM)

Now, I'm curious.

What does this mean?

Why post anything if you're just going to say, I'm not going to post anything?

I'm easilly confused though.[:o]



Dnomyar -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 11:15:46 AM)

Lol. It means I have my thoughts  but it may be better to keep them to myself for now. It makes people curious. It is nice to know that you want to hear what I have to say.



xxblushesxx -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 11:25:51 AM)

Yep, I'm like a cat with 9 tails and 2 lives left.[:-]



Dnomyar -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 11:34:11 AM)

I don't even have that. Im on the moderators last nerve.



mhawk -> RE: little bit lost (3/19/2008 11:42:39 AM)

i agree it doesn't make any sense to comment that you're not going to comment. go ahead and post whatever you like about this that's why i came here with this was so i could get some opinions



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