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stop352 -> Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 7:55:13 AM)

male sub here . i have been trying to look for a Mistress but havent found one yet . Some have given me sound advice which i intend to follow to achieve my goal. but am i trying too hard?



Madame4a -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 7:56:46 AM)

didn't you post this already?



stop352 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 7:58:27 AM)

Yes Mss but was removed becaue i gave my email address and contact details. Have reposted the thread to keep the discussion going.



MamaDomme1 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:00:24 AM)

Wow-- according to your profile, you have been released from your prior Mistress 2 days ago and you are searching for online only!  I can't believe some Mistress hasn't snagged you up yet!!



stop352 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:01:42 AM)

Miss ,
i was released a few days back but did not update my journal. i updated it two days back. sorry if i gave a wrong impression.



LadyHathor -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:05:50 AM)

that's why he is here----AGAIN---posting the same thread---I am sure hoping that some Mistress will simply fall all over him-
 
desparation IMHO is not a preferred submissive trait.



stop352 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:08:15 AM)

Miss ,
my previous thread was removed becaus i gave my contact ddetails in it . thus ths re-posting to continue the discusson.



MamaDomme1 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:17:46 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor


desparation IMHO is not a preferred submissive trait.


I agree totally!



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:47:33 AM)

epic lulz on the boards lately!



Madame4a -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 9:30:41 AM)

You got a bunch of answers last time.  Quit already.

You're trying too hard.



Shawn1066 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 11:28:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stop352
am i trying too hard?


Certainly looks like it.  You'd be better off if you didn't limit yourself to online interaction.

DV's Fox



Dnomyar -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 11:36:33 AM)

Don't listen to these people. You can never try hard enough. Push your self past their limits.



Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 5:11:40 PM)

In the words of Le Tigre, "GET OFF THE INTERNET."

Instead of cruising an internet forum looking for hot kinky love, you could be going outside and finding a woman.

Also, a tip: if you think you might be trying too hard, you probably are.



stop352 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 8:59:25 PM)

Miss,

all said is fine but should i not be actively seeking instead of waiting for things to happen?



Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 9:08:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stop352

Miss,

all said is fine but should i not be actively seeking instead of waiting for things to happen?


a.) Don't call me Miss.
b.) How is going out to clubs or normal meeting places and looking for a woman not "actively seeking?"

If anything I'm sensing that you have dependency issues and some self-esteem problems, in which case you need to work on them before jumping into a relationship.  The majority of us don't like needy submissives.  Stop grovelling and keep looking forward.



stop352 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/18/2008 9:10:24 PM)

Got it....



stop352 -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/20/2008 4:21:52 AM)

i havent got around to correcting my profile but will do it over the next week.

any one has any more ideas they are welomce..

stop352



AtlantaMistress -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/20/2008 7:08:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stop352

i havent got around to correcting my profile but will do it over the next week.

any one has any more ideas they are welomce..

stop352


I think there is a difference between trying too hard and desperation. Desperation is not an attractive quality, and most can smell it a mile away...especially most Dommes I know (since we are a bit more perceptive and intelligent than average [;)] lol). It is great to put yourself out there - making sure that you are showing what you have to offer HER  - whether in your profile online, messages to a Domme you are interested in, or meeting in person at Munches/clubs. I don't believe that you can try too hard to please your Domina, unless it becomes needy and annoying (which then is more about YOUR needs not hers).

Also, remember, it can be like the "watched pot not boiling" analogy - in that it seems harder to find what you are looking for the harder you are looking. You often find the best relationships when you are not looking so hard - just creating opportunity to meet people, and being yourself. Continue to stay positive, active, and simply open to meeting new people (for friendship if nothing else) and don't let the passage of time without finding "the one" force you into desperation.

Good luck!



petpete -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/20/2008 6:17:33 PM)

Get on your local listing and call the dial a Mistress hotline.. Place your request and she'll be nockin on your door shortly.. If you ring up quick you will get a special offer that comes with fetish wear of your likes...!!!



MistressDollys -> RE: Am I trying too hard? (3/20/2008 6:24:14 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: stop352

i have been trying to look for a Mistress but havent found one yet . Some have given me sound advice which i intend to follow to achieve my goal. but am i trying too hard?


Not enough to go by. What else are you doing?

quote:

ORIGINAL: stop352

Miss,

all said is fine but should i not be actively seeking instead of waiting for things to happen?









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