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It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 2:50:31 PM

sub4agonia

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So from a sub's POV it seems there are a lot of fake Mistresses/Dommes and I'm sure the reverse is also true.

But it really only hurts those who are real and offer no BS.

Today, for example a Mistress wanted me to be free for her tomorrow, though she could not offer an exact time when we messaged each other, she assured me she could when we talked on the phone, We messaged this mornig and talked via phone at 4pm central time.
And for what you ask.....to find out she was full of BS. So it does not only happen to Mistresses and Masters it also happens to subs.

God, I am so tired of the f...ing games people play...it ,makes me wonder why I try at all...

That's all, just venting......

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 2:59:01 PM

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It doesn't just happen to Subs or dominants, it happens to people in general. People suck in general.

I hope your venting helped. It's better to find somebody's a fake right off the bat then to actually invest something into them and find it out later.

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 3:05:24 PM

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I'll give you some advice....Do not limit your romantic life to dominant females. I understand your need for this; I have it too. But, I would be one lonely SOB if I only pursued dominant women. I love going out and having a good time, and I love having company when I do. I love dating all kinds of women, because you really get to learn about yourself and people in general. I think a lot of submissives place ourselves in corners because of our tastes. I think that is a real recipe for lonliness and I reject it. I would very much like to meet a dominant woman for a long lasting relationship, but I won't limit myself by only dating dommes. I have no idea who I will fall in love with, and that is what makes the courting process so fun.

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 3:16:53 PM

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I do not limit myself to this lifestyle, but when one offers and is trashed it sucks, will I get up again, Hell YES, but for all the BS's out there word gets out and you reap what you sow.

I offer no disrespect to true Mistresse's, Goddess or any other women

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 3:47:52 PM

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maybe you should stop putting so much faith in those you find online... just a thought

wait until you actually meet someone a few times before you form expectations they may never fulfill

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 3:55:56 PM

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I put very little into line anything.

But as they old saying goes;

Fool me once shame on you, Fool me twice, Shame on you!

So don't bitch Mistress'es when I ask if you are real

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 4:12:06 PM

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Yeah, but the fun part of that is ... I can say that I'm real, but you have to take it on faith that I am ... just like anyone else. And if you are asking a Domme to jump through hoops to "prove" that she is real - I can't see that working really well (and can still be faked anyway).

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 4:30:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4agonia

So from a sub's POV it seems there are a lot of fake Mistresses/Dommes and I'm sure the reverse is also true.

But it really only hurts those who are real and offer no BS.

Today, for example a Mistress wanted me to be free for her tomorrow, though she could not offer an exact time when we messaged each other, she assured me she could when we talked on the phone, We messaged this mornig and talked via phone at 4pm central time.
And for what you ask.....to find out she was full of BS. So it does not only happen to Mistresses and Masters it also happens to subs.

God, I am so tired of the f...ing games people play...it ,makes me wonder why I try at all...

That's all, just venting......

You never explained why she is full of BS. What exactly happened? Is she full of BS because she decided she did not want to dominate you? It's easy to come on here and complain because you did not get what you wanted. Maybe she just wasn't into you after talking to you?

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 4:30:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4agonia

I put very little into line anything.

But as they old saying goes;

Fool me once shame on you, Fool me twice, Shame on you!

So don't bitch Mistress'es when I ask if you are real

oh that is going to be priceless

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 5:00:33 PM

Pyrrsefanie

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Welcome to the Intarnetz(tm)!!!!

Seriously though, what about hooking up with some local groups and trying to meet people offline?

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 6:43:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4agonia

I put very little into line anything.

But as they old saying goes;

Fool me once shame on you, Fool me twice, Shame on you!

So don't bitch Mistress'es when I ask if you are real

Marvelous! Then you won't get upset when I ask if you are.

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 7:41:34 PM

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Yeah, it is tough out there. We have all been burned. It's discouraging because people who suck really screw stuff up for the rest of us. All I can say to you is the same thing I tell myself. Keep trying.

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RE: It's tough out there - 3/18/2008 9:22:11 PM

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I think anyone who meets someone face to face from an online source runs a risk of such a thing. It sucks, but it's the way it is. I've got some interesting stories from some of the people I've met.

Better luck next time.

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