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Does your bottom need to top? - 3/18/2008 7:51:48 PM

Reigna

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My sub has switchy tendencies. I do not. This has caused minor but noticeable problems between us. Recently I came up with what's proven to be a great solution: I told him that if he ever feels like getting on top, he's welcome to hold me down and force me to have 50 or 60 orgasms. This solution is especially effective after he's endured a fairly severe caning.

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RE: Does your bottom need to top? - 3/18/2008 8:12:52 PM

Daddysredhead

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I have been a sub then slave to Daddy for nearly 5 years. He has noticed that I have switchy tendencies (though not with Him) as I am not naturally submissive (except with Him). He has told me that He felt I needed to have my Top skills honed so that I might get that "itch" scratched.

We have finally found a lovely lady who is a very skilled Top who switches and who has a strong bottom urge. Tonight, we had our first encounter with her and it was wonderful. She will not switch with me or Daddy, she will only bottom. It was so yummy to sensually Top her while Daddy did more of the impact play. I loved being the one who after we played, held her and stroked her hair and helped bring her down. It was very powerful to feel the trust that was given over by a beautiful, intelligent woman to me. The best thing was having her look up and smile at me as she regained her bearings, and I leaned over and kissed her forehead. That was just a rush.

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RE: Does your bottom need to top? - 3/18/2008 8:27:26 PM

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I have found that kitten has a switchy way about her as well...and have suggested that she work with a male sub, or female as she chooses...I have even started teaching her things via training her, and explaining to her what I am doing and WHY I am doing it....this seems to be helping her on all levels.

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RE: Does your bottom need to top? - 3/18/2008 8:31:15 PM

Reigna

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Right now, neither of us would be comfortable bringing other partners in. So we've got to work things out within the existing dyad. Good ideas, though.

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RE: Does your bottom need to top? - 3/18/2008 8:52:45 PM

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I have the urge to bottom about once or twice a year and luckily for me, my sub used to be a Master so he knows how to Top properly and safely. I've asked him on a few occasions if he ever gets the desire to top me(or anyone else) on his own . His answer was "No". He much prefers being my submissive and will serve as my occasional top as long as I desire it and command him too.

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RE: Does your bottom need to top? - 3/19/2008 3:58:17 AM

MasterFireMaam

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See? I KNEW someone would understand me when I said I like to bottom for sex! ;-)

Real answer: My girl has a Syr side. We're not sexually compatible, so it doesn't come out within our relationship. Actually, I haven't really seen it (we've been together for 3 years)...but I know it's there. If she ever feels the need, she can take a bottom or submissive, with the understanding that I have final say.

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RE: Does your bottom need to top? - 3/19/2008 7:25:05 AM

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Fox is a switch so a few times a year he tops someone -- usually a man but not always. I find that allowing and even encouraging him to express that part of himself helps him be a better slave and in fact I think it helps him appreciate what I do on a daily basis even more.

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