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What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 6:23:39 AM   
shaobaihu


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Status: offline 		I have an interest in some activities, but I truely have no idea what they are. Please help me to understand what these things are and how they are used in training, or training for such items.

1. Chamber Pot Use
2. Personality Modification
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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 6:26:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		A chamber pot is a pot that was used for the toilet before there were toliets as there are now.
I would assume that personality modification is um modifying someone personality.


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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 6:49:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		colouredin said it simply and to the point, but i'll add a bit...

i have done the "chamber pot" thing, it isn't uncommon and there is a specific bowl that i chose that sits next to the toilet (so it doesn't get confused with the other bowls) and it is used only for peeing in....This can actually be a very centering activity for me, as it is very humbling,especially when i have had to do it in the living room in front of my Daddy.

Personality modification can be when someone wants to train, condition, instill different personality traits onto the sub/slave. This can happen without being made a big deal of, more of a molding type of way and then there it is (my Daddy has accomplished this with me on a big level)..He didn't say "I want to get rid of this trait young lady and so we will work toaccomplish that"and yet as i have followed him and the way he reacts or doesn't react tocertain things,my personality  just changed. Some of those changes are subtle, some more  all encompassing....some are only the personality traits that are evident when i am with my Daddy (like the parts are still there with me,but don't ever seem to come out in his company) and yet they aren't present with my family or friends in the same way. ....Some of the things now just ARE.


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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 7:03:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yup,

I would say chamber pots in a D/s can be used as cherry said a humbling object which sort of reiterates your standing

The modification of personality is basically what people mean when they refer to 'Training' a large part of many D/s relationships is the Dominant moulding the submissive into what they want, learning how they want things done and their quirks. Some want to totally change the person some just elements of them, for example I have to learn to curve my sarcastic streak, but not get rid of it completely, I personally wouldnt want to get into a relationship where a person would want to totally change everything about me, I kind of think I would rather be with someone who fundementally liked me and just wanted to change certain elements.


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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 7:05:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		To add a little to the personality modification, an easy way to start is with speaking habits.  For instance, you can choose to have your sub use a title when addressing you, or have them give up swearing (which can be a very difficult thing and you need to put a lot of thought into).  You can also do things to subtly build self confidence if that is lacking.  If the person tends to be self critical, which many subs are, simply using the word "stop" - softly but firmly when you here something self depricating, will get the person to stop verbalizing it.  They will remember this and soon they will also stop doing it in their mind.  (This process worked very well on me.  After all, my Daddy wants someone sparkling and confident, so it is for His benefit as well as mine.)

You can carefully cultivate the best traits while getting rid of some of the worst.  Does the sub talk too much, or too loudly?  Does she say thank you often enough?  Do you want her to show that she cares for you more?  By giving encouragement for things done well and letting her know areas to work on she will automatically start to change her personality.  It is up to the two of you how far you want to take it.


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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 8:34:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		How would you know you are interested in them if you don't know what they are? 

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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 8:49:20 AM   
shaobaihu


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Status: offline 		because they sound interesting, and i have had initial idea about what they were but was not certain.

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RE: What Are These?? - 3/19/2008 11:07:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ThunderRoad

How would you know you are interested in them if you don't know what they are? 

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For one who wishes for a slave as property and a servant and not a lover/girlfriend or boyfriend, the owner is interested in the property's submission and to what degree the slave/submissive is willing to succumb to the owner's desire and preferences.  Personality quirks are either accepted and incorporated into the property's slavery and service, or redirected.  The slave can still be cared for and enjoyed as a unique individual, but things like impatience, interrupting, anxiousness, distrust, lack of boundaries, etc., can be trained away.  Or, like in my case, issues like OCD can be channeled to good use.

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