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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/20/2008 8:31:52 AM

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Puppy; have you been made aware of such situations as you've described, where they offered one thing but changed it when it happened? Or is this what you think happens?
I'm a bit confused.

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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/20/2008 9:52:50 PM

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My Lord and I have discussed this at length. We would eventually like to have a "slave" or third, with the precise purpose of them staying home. Their job would be to manage the household, deal with the shopping, and take care of errands, etc, that needed to be run. Our job would be to provide them with a secure home, the means to leave if they so choose, and the right to provide respectful input if it is requested.

We are deliberately waiting until we are in a financial situation that will allow us to do this.

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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/21/2008 7:10:03 AM

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I think most possible thirds would prefer to keep a job, and have a nest egg in case it doesn't work out.

Actually, most of the thirds that we've talked to want to stay home and eat Bonbons all day.

We have no issue with someone that wants to keep/have a job. We have no issues with someone that wants to be a housekeeper. (As a person who pretty regularly works 50 hours a week, I'd love to have someone keep house.) However, we seem to keep running into submissives who make it clear that they do not even want to do their share of the upkeep of the house

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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/21/2008 7:33:04 AM

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However, we seem to keep running into submissives who make it clear that they do not even want to do their share of the upkeep of the house

I personally have seen that a lot as well. Not just with thirds, but also with just every day D/s dynamics. "I'll just stay home all day and let Master provide for me, all I have to do is suck him off whever he says. What a deal for a pampered lazy life." If I had unlimited income, maybe, but otherwise I call it what it is - a leech.

On a purely personaly level, I'd rather have a submissive or third work, because professional skills are good to have, and disposable income allows for opportunities you might not have when you are a stay-at-home slave. You can't take vacations and buy new toys when you are stay at home, but if you work, you can always convert that time/money into hiring a housekeeper to come in once a week and then you can also have those other luxuries.

It is a balancing act. Having kids can completly change things when the costs of childcare might outstrip the income the stay-at-home person can bring in working, but in general terms, I think people are better off working.

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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/21/2008 7:47:57 AM

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We have had a Ad in collarme for about 8 months looking for a "3rd (or 3rd and 4th). Most of the competitive ads we see are offering a prospective slave wht it comes down to free room and board. My question is it unrealistic to expect a possable slave to work as hard as their Masters. We work for a living as many do and to have a slave (of any gender) expect to sit at home and wait for their Masters to come home and not assist in the family income just seems wrong. A few of the couples we know who do have a third that third after a short honeymoon is sent out to find a job. Yes there are those who make over 100k and can afford a luxury but what about us honest working class people who do not. Or do all those who place the ads for free submissives expect to just be offering them in with chocolate then when bonded to them put them in the workforce. ? How many of those looking for a couple actually expect the free ride and only the best wine.

ok... so you been looking for at least 8 months and you feel cheated by the people that make over 100K that can afford to live in luxury with a slave at at home. I fail to see what is wrong with this.... as someone that makes over 100k. Though I would ot call my life a life of luxury either... just an honest life.

So... how about you quit with the self-pity crap.....

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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/21/2008 12:31:45 PM

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If you only run into users, I have to wonder what attributes they have that attract you. Because if you're just focusing on youth and beauty, then you deserve what you get. There are lots of older subs out there with skills and intelligence and I doubt they would want to just eat bon bons all day.

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RE: Expectations or just offering chocolate - 3/21/2008 1:46:17 PM

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Oh, *I* do.
The really good ones though, like from Fannie May, or See's. None of that Hersheys crap.
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