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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 8:57:33 AM

plantlady64

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Hello There,
I personally am a wiggler, full of feedback, and a noise maker if I have a chioce.
I have some friends I play with that want me still and quiet, some that want me to make noise but not say ouch, some that love when I say ouch, some that want me to fully fight back, some that want me to squirm during some things but be still as a stone in others, some that love me to cry and others that back way off if I do.
I think each person has their own notions of what is sexy and it's up to the sub to be willing to try and behave the way the Dom/Domme wants them to. To me pleasing my Top/Dom/Master means I try to keep my responses in the limits of the energy they find sexy.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 8:59:50 AM

KatyLied

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So true, about everyone having their own notions. I am on the quiet side, even when experiencing pain, but I figure a flinch can mean a lot. It is difficult for me to let go and make a lot of noise.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 9:09:07 AM

WickedKev

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

I have no problem with moans of pleasure and delight , but if do find it becoming distractive....well, there is a gag, duct tape, and handkerchief that I can use very effectively, while playing and "echoes, in the sound of silence."

A chili pepper in the mouth before you put the gag on is very effective too.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 9:29:59 AM

KatyLied

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quote:

A chili pepper in the mouth before you put the gag on is very effective too.

arrgghhhhh

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 9:43:24 AM

perverseangelic

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A former partner of mine, non-bdsm, had this weird controll thing about sounds.

He only wanted me to say "yes" or "oh yes" no whimpers, no moans, no anything else. Just those two words. I was invovled with him after my discovery of mainstream BDSM, and was in the mind-set of "whatever pleases your partner" even though he wasn't an active top for me.

Still, it was really odd. He couldn't quite express why he liked those words and nothing else, but I admit it was strange and difficult for me.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 9:53:36 AM

Kinkypupper

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Vocal is good.
It further enhances and releases all the inner emotions and provides feedback.

Its sad to see a submissive "trained" to not respond vocally it can cause that submissive to eventually shut down all outer emotions.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 10:18:52 AM

littleone35

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I find that very odd, i am VERY vocal and my late Master used to do whatever he could to make me scream in pleasure. The louder i was the better he liked it.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 11:08:35 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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List of reasons people might want a stoic bottom:

1) setting a particular attitude about the scene

2) lack of distractions

3) not quite comfortable with the idea of knowing they are "hurting" someone

4) getting a kick out of enforcing that tight level of control on the other person

5) random irrational preference

6) something else completely

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 12:54:49 PM

LADYBOA

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

*shrug*
It is not at all uncommon for people to have difficulty coming to terms with their sadism, even if they intellectually know it's fine. This is especially true for newbies.

It is not at all uncommon for dominants to train their subs to be stoic during beatings, in fact it's almost mainstream in the UK. It's just a matter of preference of style and attitude.

My former Dom was not into any vocalization at all, not one peep or I would get into trouble.. Now my Dom friend now that I switch with.. well he is insistant on the vocalization...
Sometimes I think it is hard to learn one way.. be that way for years and then have to be the other way... But ahh well such is my life.. hehe
I on the other hand.. When I am Domme'n think it depends on the sub.. one of mine must not make a peep while the others they can go for it scream moan all they want...

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 1:15:53 PM

NYDiscipline

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I hate it when a sub is quiet!

Cry, whimper, moan, scream, BEG ME TO STOP....convince me....

Ok...hehehe...even when I'm not being a total sadist, I get off on a submissive's reactions. I want to hear how much she's enjoying it (or maybe not enjoying it...)

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 2:24:30 PM

Awakener

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

So true, about everyone having their own notions. I am on the quiet side, even when experiencing pain, but I figure a flinch can mean a lot. It is difficult for me to let go and make a lot of noise.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kinkypupper

Vocal is good.
It further enhances and releases all the inner emotions and provides feedback.

Its sad to see a submissive "trained" to not respond vocally it can cause that submissive to eventually shut down all outer emotions.

After reading through all these posts I realize that vocalization in specific, is really not the issue for me. I want who I'm with to freely give me her emotions, to let go, surrender and open to me fully. It's about penetrateing to her very soul. If, as when I watched the other afternoon, I see the master shushing her. Well it seems he is denieing himself the very thing I so dearly crave.
But as KatyLied said. A flinch may also show me that emotion and opening of onesself to me, that I seek. I have never liked hoods, and hate gags, and know I realize why. They deny me what I am seeking. But yes everyone is different and not everyone seeks what i do, or finds it the same way.
I have learned about myself and I just love that.LOL.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/29/2005 3:24:02 PM

EmeraldSlave2

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Let me also say that noises and vocalizations are not always the same as being open and soulful. Many a top has coaxed what he WANTS to hear...not exactly what the bottom is EXPERIENCING.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 7:03:13 AM

elfie

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this is new to me. finding out that Master likes tears. he loves to hear whats going on. but tears is a new one. and laughter... heheee

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ORIGINAL: greenie

a Dom that i'm involved with loves it when i cry. The more tears and the louder i cry out the happier He is.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 11:55:12 AM

CanisMajor

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"Full of feedback" is exactly what I like. Squirm, struggle, plead, gasp, yell, swear at me, whatever - I'm just not into cold fish. Ironically, I'm probably the least expressive person around when I'm trying to motivate someone to squirm, struggle.....

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 12:04:02 PM

susan123

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Hello,
How are you doing?...I willlike to know you better and have you as one of my good friend..hope you can go to my profile and read somethings about me...my email address is [email protected] ..I will be looking forward to hearing from you. Bye.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 12:06:54 PM

susan123

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Hello, how are you doing?...my name is Susan..I will like to know more about your self ..my email address is [email protected].

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 1:54:09 PM

tade

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I know that myself, sometimes I like to make a sub be quiet while we are playing, just because I know that they are in a vocal mood. And vice versa if she is being quiet. Depends on what i'm in the mood for. My wife on the other hand ALWAYS wants her subs loud and will increase the intensity until they comply. Diff'rent Strokes...
Tade and Bara

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 7:18:05 PM

Kindred2Evil

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Personally, I like it when they get loud and rowdy. I like it when they wiggle and squirm all over the place. Tears, ooooooh my...they make me giggle.

As a masochist, there are times when silence is needed and desired. My hubby gagged me once and told me if he heard a peep he would stop what he was doing...Let me tell you that made me focus very hard on my reactions and I absolutely hated it!! I'm a noise-maker as well. Anywho, I would have asked him about it (the fellow who shushed her) in a very polite way and after the scene had ended of course. I'm curious like that though lol

I think it comes down to personal preference though.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 9/30/2005 7:47:15 PM

Awakener

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hey uh susan123... maybe next time just send anyone you may be interested in a private message. I don't think putting your email address in a public forum is very wise.

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RE: To shush or not to shush? - 10/1/2005 9:48:11 PM

erebus

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There is always the neighbor factor as well. In the summer, I like to keep the windows open. I'm not interested in having my neighbors know what I do in the privacy of my house!

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