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angelbluewingsz -> RE: Your subs name? (3/23/2008 8:52:31 PM)

I pick something horribly mundane... norman, morton, wentworth, mortimur, leroy, baxter, heston... names you don't always hear but no one questions them.



addisonclarkgirl -> RE: Your subs name? (3/23/2008 9:11:28 PM)

My Dom used to call me julia, from "1984."  Not only did I love the name for namesake, but in some ways, the character really represented who i am.  She was very sexual, intuitive, and had a willful spirit.  Yet, she had to conceal it all to survive.  He really summed me up when he chose that name for me.



Drummerpunk7 -> RE: Your subs name? (3/23/2008 10:50:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Ok, I can't resist. If you're a drummer, how about calling her pearl? (Ludwig and Firth don't seem to go so well...)

Master Fire



I play DW drums, so the old company names are out, although I do like the idea of making one involving either my instrument or a fav song.

Perhaps I will call her muse



GiantSteps -> RE: Your subs name? (3/24/2008 4:16:12 AM)

Ok - for what it's worth, from my POV - your mileage may vary.

Personally, I never use their "Vanilla" name. I have always been of the opinion that, especially in the beginning phase of a relationship, I want a very clear division between the vanilla world and ours. Her mother calls her by that name - but she's not a daughter with me. Her boss calls her by that name - but she's not an employee with me. I don't want those connections muddying up her focus. Our relationship is unique and separate. There's an outside world and an inside world, and I keep them as far apart as possible, down to not wearing jewelry, clothing, etrc connected in any way to that outside world. A closed system approach.

As far as what name - personally, I have used the day of the week we began. It begins as impersonal, and becomes personal as the relationship blossoms.and "Tuesday" discovers her submissive self as an entity independent of her outside life. When she's "Beth," she's in one world, when she's "Tuesday" she's another. It also helps focus things up in public places.



Justme696 -> RE: Your subs name? (3/24/2008 4:57:55 AM)

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Personally, I never use their "Vanilla" name. I have always been of the opinion that, especially in the beginning phase of a relationship, I want a very clear division between the vanilla world and ours.


*black and white mode*
does that mean you play who you are?



addisonclarkgirl -> RE: Your subs name? (3/24/2008 7:05:10 AM)

Justme,

I would have to agree with that.  As I stated before, my Dom USED to call me julia.  After awhile, I realised the same thing you mentioned.  I am not julia.  I am tami.  I wanted him to accept who I am totally.  I am a daughter; I am a friend; I am a teacher; I am a submissive.  It almost made me uncomfortable and made me cringe when he called me julia.  It made me feel like he didn't want who I wholly am.  So, we discussed it, and he felt horrible for making me feel that way.  It was never his intention to deny the other parts of who I am.  So, we went back to Tami :)



ownedgirlie -> RE: Your subs name? (3/24/2008 10:12:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Justme696

quote:

Personally, I never use their "Vanilla" name. I have always been of the opinion that, especially in the beginning phase of a relationship, I want a very clear division between the vanilla world and ours.


*black and white mode*
does that mean you play who you are?



Maybe he has different facets of his life and he likes to compartmentalize them.  Maybe he wants the slave to remember she is not "vanilla" to him like she is with the rest of the world, but always his slave in any setting, and creating a slave name helps her to establish that mindset.

I ask this because I am very, very rarely called by my birth name.  I am not his equal, I am his slave.  When we are in "vanilla" settings, I am his slave. When I am managing other people in the work place, I am his slave.  When I am topping another submissive, I am his slave.  He does not call me what the rest of the world calls me because he does not see me as the rest of the world does.  This does not mean there are parts of my life he does not accept.  It means he separates our relationship out from the rest of our relationships.



CMRTyson -> RE: Your subs name? (3/24/2008 10:31:46 AM)

My names for her have never been casual but always had some meaning to thought behind it. Her name is Cynthia and so My cyn was an easy one and is probably the way I will always thing of her. (It how she is on ly speed dial) It is also a such an obvious pun which helped to give it sticking power. Several months ago I gave her the name My Galilah, which means beautiful in a native american language for reasons both complex and personal to explain here. It means beautiful.I have called her my precious and other things in conversations and I think she would be happy with almost any name that starts with "My."  Recently I have called her baby, not out of any Daddy/little girl thoughts, just as intimacy, but it doesn't feel right. I have no idea why, perhaps just not respectful enough. I have not called her anything negative or humiliating. That is just something I would never do, even in play. I have enjoyed giving her a name that is for me alone and she likes the concept as well.
Tyson



Justme696 -> RE: Your subs name? (3/24/2008 11:31:58 AM)

I don't mind the name thing. I did it myself, always to end..when the relation grow, to my girls real name. IF the "real"girl submits I am happy.
I am always who I am..i have no valilaa part or bdsm part...I am always the same person. That is why the question came up.
thank you for the interesting views.



GiantSteps -> RE: Your subs name? (3/25/2008 2:29:57 AM)

Thank you, ownedgirlie - you explained it beautifully, and in addition showed how close such a system bonds a couple. My compliments to you and your Master - may your bonds grow stronger daily.



epiphany -> RE: Your subs name? (3/25/2008 5:27:06 AM)

I guess we are a bit boring...

He calls me by my real name, sometimes "my baby" or "darlin'". I call him by his real name, or the same sort of endearments he calls me.

I feel completely opposite from many.  I guess for us, we just don't seem to feel the need to use "slave names" and I don't call him Sir or Master. I don't need to be reminded of what the relationship is, I went through quite a struggle in accepting just how deeply I am owned by him. It was a very personal and emotional experience, and was years in the making.

He knows I love and  respect him more than anyone else on this planet. He knows that I will deny him nothing, and that I have never said "no" in the six, almost seven years of our relationship. We are who we are and this is part of that experience.

The only place I use a nic is online to protect my privacy.

epiphany



ownedgirlie -> RE: Your subs name? (3/25/2008 7:26:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GiantSteps

Thank you, ownedgirlie - you explained it beautifully, and in addition showed how close such a system bonds a couple. My compliments to you and your Master - may your bonds grow stronger daily.


Thank you for your kind words.  :)



HalloweenWhite -> RE: Your subs name? (3/25/2008 7:55:59 AM)

You must have a nic name for her that makes her smile,giggle or what ever. One of My ex submissives liked when I called her My "sub-pet". Just call her names at random and see how she reacts.



MasterGreg43 -> RE: Your subs name? (3/25/2008 9:30:12 AM)

usually nick names are to protect the slave/sub personal life out side of the Lifestyle those that are still allowed to work, or have family in nearby community, so a scene name is created as well as the Master too will assume a name too, I just use My first name for I put the Lifestyle up front in most cases so just adding Master to Greg don't conflict much with anything else.



foxhole -> RE: Your subs name? (3/27/2008 11:19:51 AM)

fox here.
when this man was owned, for 7 years his name was the date of the voluntary enslavement, in the form of DD-MM-YY. he was happy and content with the name given, and identified with it.

PS: - this fox is not  DiurnalVampire's fox to be sure.



Rogueactivist -> RE: Your subs name? (3/27/2008 4:53:26 PM)

With my slave it was easy. Her name is Victoria and her friends often call her Tori. So I call her vicky, and always insist on it being lower case. It is still her name (or at least part of it) but it works to remind her of our unique relationship.



Drummerpunk7 -> RE: Your subs name? (3/27/2008 8:04:17 PM)

I have her name chosen, thank you all for your input.



LadyPact -> RE: Your subs name? (3/27/2008 8:24:46 PM)

I happened to be clicking around and saw that you've made a selection.  I'm glad.



MisterStrongWill -> RE: Your subs name? (3/28/2008 12:35:10 PM)

Well I like to use a pet name to "spark" a reaction or set a mood. It is also nice to split you life with the vanilla rolls we all have. So if a request is thrown out it maybe sweetie, if a demand is implied my pet, and dinner with the family..Bitch slut whore NOW> just kidding use her real name.



NakedOnMyChain -> RE: Your subs name? (3/28/2008 12:50:38 PM)

My husband and I, both switches, have a rounded ton of silly little nicknames for each other.  None of them have any special meaning, other than being cute and affectionate.  When it comes to the lifestyle, we just use our real names.  I also use my real name as my public name when it comes to local events and groups.



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