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what do subs/slaves like? - 3/20/2008 8:40:31 PM

meandmymistress

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Hi everyone,

I'm kind of new to this and my slave and I are having alot of fun but now he wants to be pushed past the limits and have me totally control him. We are in a discreet relationship so public stuff is out of the question here.

Does anyone have any advice from their experiences? Greatly appreciated!

M

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/20/2008 8:58:27 PM

MistressVnus

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quote:

I'm kind of new to this and my slave and I are having alot of fun but now he wants to be pushed past the limits and have me totally control him. We are in a discreet relationship so public stuff is out of the question here.
Does anyone have any advice from their experiences? Greatly appreciated!

Well, this is very difficult to answer without knowing the "limits" he is at and wants to be pushed. Also, what is your situation so as to see what options you have for pushing certain limits for total control. Are you in 24/7? Is he in chasitity? Just what, exactly, are the limitis that need to be pushed. Can you clarify?

Also if things are in need of being done so discreetly, what is the situation that dictates that? Is he married? Are you married? Are there high profile occupations going on?

We need to know the "limits" before we can offer suggestions on how to push them. Again, please clarify.

< Message edited by MistressVnus -- 3/20/2008 8:59:53 PM >

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/20/2008 9:01:00 PM

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Agreed, Vnus. We cant give advice unless we know what we are advising. Public stuff is out, but is that just openly public, or is that any public at all? Are you two long term, or just play partners? Do you live together or just get together when you can? There are way too many variables you havent covered to know what we are dealing with yet.
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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/20/2008 9:48:47 PM

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I will make an assumption that you are a young person but in the event you are not young..i will tell you what i like and in fact desire.I wish to be loved and cherished and unequivocably desired by a Domina.It is more important than playtime as far as i am concerned.Maybe it is a quality of life thing as you get older but that is what i strive for more than anything.Real life happens to both parties far too often to just concentrate on one dynamic of a D/s relationship.I wish both of you well though.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/20/2008 10:22:33 PM

slaveboyforyou

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I assume you mean all the really juicy stuff, not the sentimental, mushy stuff......

-I like having my hair pulled back when a woman makes out with me.

-I like being grabbed by the balls and lead to the bedroom.

-I like standing naked in front of a woman that is fully dressed as she checks me out.

-I like it when a woman lightly but firmly taps me underneath the balls to get my attention.

-I like having my hands held down during sex. Bondage is great, but there is something special about struggling against a woman on top of you. It's yummy.

-I like being told where we are going to eat and what movie we will see, not being asked.

-I like keeping eye contact as I unlace a woman's shoes.

-I like the sensation when a woman suddenly but softly grabs the back of my neck.

-I like waking up next to a woman and seeing her with her hair all messy and remembering what we did the night before. It's a weird but delightful feeling.

-I like having my balls grabbed hard while driving or underneath the table at a restaurant for no other reason than she adores me.

-I like to laugh. So a woman with an appreciation for a juvenile sense of humor gets me every time.

Those are a few. I could keep going, but I thought I don't want to spoil all the fun for you. Figuring things out is part of the ride.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/20/2008 10:33:10 PM

Pyrrsefanie

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You'd be surprised at what you can get away with in public.

There are some male chastity devices out on the market that are relatively flat and can be easily hidden under a pair of jeans or slacks -- if he's looking for complete control then I'm sure he wouldn't argue with being told that now you control his cock.

A personal favorite of mine is to make them wear panties all day. To classes, to school, everywhere... trust me, they'll be thinking of you all day long. There are also some discreet plugs for anal play that can be inserted during the workday. Flirtatious phonecalls to him on his lunch break, if possible, to check up on him and see if he's being a good boy. Even something as simple as telling him, in no uncertain terms, what he's going to be doing that day and how he's going to be doing it. Don't ask -- phrase it as a command.

Above all, though... make sure that YOU, as the dominant, are comfortable with this new chapter in your play with him. If it squicks you out or makes you uncomfortable, do not give into him. You are the dominant. You are in control. He should be making concessions and pushing his own limits to please YOU, not the other way around.

I wish you lots of luck in this. :)

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/21/2008 7:15:24 AM

MistressVnus

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quote:

-I like having my hair pulled back when a woman makes out with me.
-I like being grabbed by the balls and lead to the bedroom.
-I like standing naked in front of a woman that is fully dressed as she checks me out.
-I like it when a woman lightly but firmly taps me underneath the balls to get my attention.
-I like having my hands held down during sex. Bondage is great, but there is something special about struggling against a woman on top of you. It's yummy.
-I like being told where we are going to eat and what movie we will see, not being asked.
-I like keeping eye contact as I unlace a woman's shoes.
-I like the sensation when a woman suddenly but softly grabs the back of my neck.
-I like waking up next to a woman and seeing her with her hair all messy and remembering what we did the night before. It's a weird but delightful feeling.
-I like having my balls grabbed hard while driving or underneath the table at a restaurant for no other reason than she adores me. -I like to laugh. So a woman with an appreciation for a juvenile sense of humor gets me every time.
Those are a few. I could keep going, but I thought I don't want to spoil all the fun for you. Figuring things out is part of the ride.

Will you be moving to FL anytime soon? *chuckle*

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/21/2008 7:54:52 PM

slvemike4u

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What Slaveboyforyou said and a thousand other things that if you squeeze hard enough he'll tell you .And suffer deliciously as YOU make him admit his deepest darkest fantasy's

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/21/2008 8:06:01 PM

khem

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

quote:

-I like having my hair pulled back when a woman makes out with me.
-I like being grabbed by the balls and lead to the bedroom.
-I like standing naked in front of a woman that is fully dressed as she checks me out.
-I like it when a woman lightly but firmly taps me underneath the balls to get my attention.
-I like having my hands held down during sex. Bondage is great, but there is something special about struggling against a woman on top of you. It's yummy.
-I like being told where we are going to eat and what movie we will see, not being asked.
-I like keeping eye contact as I unlace a woman's shoes.
-I like the sensation when a woman suddenly but softly grabs the back of my neck.
-I like waking up next to a woman and seeing her with her hair all messy and remembering what we did the night before. It's a weird but delightful feeling.
-I like having my balls grabbed hard while driving or underneath the table at a restaurant for no other reason than she adores me. -I like to laugh. So a woman with an appreciation for a juvenile sense of humor gets me every time.
Those are a few. I could keep going, but I thought I don't want to spoil all the fun for you. Figuring things out is part of the ride.

Will you be moving to FL anytime soon? *chuckle*

Glad I'm not the only one drooling over him now...

I feel like a lech!

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 7:51:07 AM

slaveboyforyou

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quote:

Will you be moving to FL anytime soon? *chuckle*

*smiles* You know this winter was especially cold. I have been swearing I would move some place warmer. So you never know.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 8:01:29 AM

slaveboyforyou

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quote:

Glad I'm not the only one drooling over him now... I feel like a lech

*smiles* Thank you very much. You are just adorable. I don't say that to be patronizing. You really are deserving of adoration; you're a stunner. I wish I lived in California. Thanks again.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 1:40:51 PM

meandmymistress

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Clearly, I'm new to this! LOL

Thanks everyone for your replies but here is some background on me and my slave.

We have known each other on and off for about 3 years now. Played together last about a year and a half ago and now we are committing to play together from now on. We are both attached and only see each other when we can...about once a week. We've done the bondage and spanking...even anal penetration...some cock torture and smothering...he and I enjoyed this. Now, he has asked to be pushed past limits...make him cry...do things to him that if left up to him, he would not want. I want total control of him!

Not sure what else may be relevant :) Thanks everyone, this group is fantastic!

M

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 1:44:20 PM

khem

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

quote:

Glad I'm not the only one drooling over him now... I feel like a lech

*smiles* Thank you very much. You are just adorable. I don't say that to be patronizing. You really are deserving of adoration; you're a stunner. I wish I lived in California. Thanks again.

the charming ones, only 1500 miles away, of course.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 1:46:47 PM

AAkasha

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Totally OT: Anyone else think cutie slaveboyforyou looks like hockey player Kurt Sauer?
http://www.nhl.com/kids/youngstar/images/sauer_headshot.jpg

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 3:10:26 PM

slvemike4u

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Akasha it occurs to me You got a serious thing for hockey players

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 4:57:48 PM

khem

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Maybe. We should get them together in a room (perhaps hogtied) for proper comparison.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 5:08:29 PM

whipkicksmai

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How about nipple torture,caning, flogging, whipping, begging,

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 5:26:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Totally OT: Anyone else think cutie slaveboyforyou looks like hockey player Kurt Sauer?
http://www.nhl.com/kids/youngstar/images/sauer_headshot.jpg

Holy crap, that's just eerie!

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 7:11:33 PM

MasterFireMaam

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First, you need to find out what "total control" means? Is this a physical Top/bottom relationship or a mental Dom/sub relationship? When you know, you have a better place to start from.

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RE: what do subs/slaves like? - 3/22/2008 7:13:04 PM

MasterFireMaam

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I hope you checked with him first to confirm it's not him before you posted this, potentially outing him.

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