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LadyPact -> When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 2:01:44 PM)
Ok. The topic is really vague. I would greatly appreciate to hear some stories about when emotion overrides control. Yes, I'll be happy to hear anything from PMS to terminal disease.

Level -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 2:03:22 PM)
Should be interesting; emotion from the dominant, or submissive, or either?

lusciouslips19 -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 2:07:27 PM)
I'm the sub. I dont have to be in control of myself.[:D]

Leatherist -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 3:21:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Ok. The topic is really vague. I would greatly appreciate to hear some stories about when emotion overrides control. Yes, I'll be happy to hear anything from PMS to terminal disease. When a girl repeatedly cheated on me with people I really disliked. Then had the gall to act as if she didn't get why I was so upset. And why I was breaking up with her. I was pissed beyond belief. I became a lot more Draconian about defining my personal boundaries after that.

Constrictor1 -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 3:36:23 PM)
Years ago I was still a novice ( and sometimes feel that way even now) I made the mistake of losing my temper with my current slave. We had been together for about 3 years. I have no idea what sparked my angry outburst at her. No I was not physical, just verbal. she reacted in the most amazing (negative) way. she completely shutdown. Totally. Withdrew from contact for about 15 minutes. This made me even angrier because I felt she was ignoiring me. Even her body posture suggested withdrawal. Eventually , and some time later we were able to talk. she explained that she withdraws when attacked in any aggressive manner. she then said to me that if I could not control myself, how could I expect to control another? I try to remember that lesson whenever I become upset with anyone now and try to determine the cause or motivation of the behavior upsetting me. I have noticed this withdrawal behavior several times since in others subs/slaves both male and female when aggressively confronted by their dominants. Just an observation not a hijack. Constrictor1

chiaThePet -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 8:37:14 PM)
When in the day to day dance with the Dominants about me, I shall always sense that slack in the leash when they allow emotions to shift their steady foundations. Depending on my own revolving emotional state, I shall either soothe the beast before me, or take full advantage of the now loosened grip, venturing beyond boundries whilst realignment takes place. chia* (the pet)

kajirusilk -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 9:58:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Ok. The topic is really vague. I would greatly appreciate to hear some stories about when emotion overrides control. Yes, I'll be happy to hear anything from PMS to terminal disease. leather, yiou were cucked by a skank! you need to be more careful in whom, you associate with. As to the skank, "see you don't want to be you' is appropos. When a girl repeatedly cheated on me with people I really disliked. Then had the gall to act as if she didn't get why I was so upset. And why I was breaking up with her. I was pissed beyond belief. I became a lot more Draconian about defining my personal boundaries after that.

Vendaval -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 10:44:51 PM)
One of my slaves had been injured in a motorcycle accident, as I have posted here before. Eventually he wanted to scene again and we tried, but his pain tolerances were down to almost zero. He became emotional and a bit angry. He safe worded and I had to explain that the cane strikes were at a very low level compared to his previous tolerance. He calmed down after realizing that this was an after effect of the accident and that we needed to wait longer for his pain tolerance to go back to its normal levels.

Araven -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/21/2008 11:25:05 PM)
Not really sure if this counts or not, but... When Mistress tries to tickle me, or in some way put her mouth on me to make me laugh (zerberts). The emotion of laughing, giggling, and trying my damnest to let her do as she pleases and let her hands go where they want as well as her mouth to zerbert me, it overwhelms any sense of control I have in trying to take it for her.

DesFIP -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/22/2008 9:09:39 PM)
Two years ago I had the month from hell, first flat on my back with the flu followed by a botched root canal. Control wasn't something he could ask me to give him or something he could impose on me. I was feverish and then in severe pain. Wasn't much of anything happening except handing me some Advil and a box of tissues. Oh, and he slept in another room because he didn't want to catch it. Even afterwards I was still wrung out and needed a lot of coddling. None of which meant I could deal with being given strict orders or used unceremoniously. I just wasn't back in shape for a long time.

ownedgirlie -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/22/2008 10:19:22 PM)
Are you looking only for negative "out of control" stories or some of the more fun nature, like going wildly out of control in animalistic sex....heh. The only out of control negative stuff I can think of was when I would go into angry rages at my ex, who was royally screwing with my head. I almost went completely out of control when I walked into my home and found it emptied - virtually emptied of everything, as he looked smugly at me, telling me all my possessions were gone. But an inner strength had me walking out of the house immediately, because I knew if I didn't I would have crushed his little skull. [sm=boxer.gif] But then I think he wanted that.

LadyHathor -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/23/2008 12:03:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Ok. The topic is really vague. I would greatly appreciate to hear some stories about when emotion overrides control. Yes, I'll be happy to hear anything from PMS to terminal disease. It cost Me to make a decision on a boy I normally would not have, it allowed Me to be coerced, cajolded and convinced against My norms--the emotion was not caused by the boy, but as a means to provide anethesia to a gaping grief based wound. It cost Me 6 months of day to day hell and another 12 months of remorse--and yet today I am barely able to forgive Myself. *I will never lose My control again--I may end up alone, but I will not lose the grip on My expectations---ever again.*

Constrictor1 -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/23/2008 1:28:10 PM)
Lady Hathor, I offer you a respectful but compassionate hug. Constrictor

LadyPact -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/23/2008 6:58:05 PM)
I'll take anything folks have to offer. Bouts of crying due to depression. The effects of a change in emtional state due to physical limitations. Whatever applies to you.

Goddess2002 -> RE: When emotion overpowers control (3/24/2008 3:36:18 AM)
I'll be frank here...I hate the fact that I miss My slave when he's off working or traveling. I'm struggling with that issue as I type...how to balance my "vanilla" feelings of love versus maintaining control over my emotions.

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