Masterssj -> RE: Help I need to know what I'm doing wrong (3/24/2008 5:41:41 AM)
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i was approached long ago to become part of a poly family , i could not do it nor entertain the idea . the Dom handled everything and answered for his sub , there was not an oppurtunity given to discuss things with her and talk to her one on one , i was told she was shy , lol , i was given a list of this is what i will be , what i will do and what i will give up , get rid of , be expected to give financially etc , the list was more of i give they take and i should be happy with that . i expressed what i felt were genuine problems for discussion and i was told it wasnt for me to worry about just do what i am told and it will be okay ... all i can say is those were red flag after red flag and my advice is if you find somone interested , even just curious , make sure its not all about you and your expectations and needs and wants , subs / slaves have basic human needs wants feelings too , and dont discount their fears , talk openly and do make them feel comfortable in talking from the onset and take your time , dont rush them ...
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