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Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:06:25 AM   
laurelsub


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Status: offline 		I think I may have screwed something up even worse than i thought about before i did it. I think I took a vanilla boy to sub-space and really don't know if I have done soemthing I can't handle the responsibility for.
 
I am a sub. This was with a long-time vanilla friend. while we were together I sorta explored a bit and noticed when I did *something* that his eyes would start looking like mine do when Sir makes me look in the mirror to see them. I went with it because it was kind of a charge to show someone in my regular life a bit of what i've been feeling.
 
but now, the morning after I am worried. I remember my frenzy time. I do not believe that this guy is really a sub. I do think that if he starts feeling that way i would be responsible for him - but he is only in town for the weekend, and then i probably won't see him for another 3 years. I have no idea what to do.
 
Also- I let him just stay in that floaty place. My dominate always took me back out after a while- but i honestly don't know if there is a reason for that or what... I just didn't know how to bring him out.
 
Please help. ANY advice would be appreciated.
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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:12:07 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		Why is it wrong for him to be like that. IT didn't do any harm to you?
It is still the same person....

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:13:01 AM   
mnottertail


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He was lost in a pleasant moment of reverie, forget it, no real damage done. 

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:16:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds like he's in a coma or something.
 
Slap him on the butt and make him do some jumping jacks.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:16:57 AM   
mastervalentine


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Status: offline 		Same person, new perspective. Trust that he's strong enough to take care of himself, and please, don't beat yourself up for sharing something so special with someone you care for. If it changes him, then it does so, and it is his decision to allow it to have that hold. As for you, if your lack of understanding bothers you, you may consider asking your dominate to explain things to you, the hows and whys.

Enjoy what you have, and what you share. It is my sincerest wish that it never becomes a source of pain for you.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:19:35 AM   
sirsholly


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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:22:39 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Hmmm, taking a vanilla to sub-space...?  Interesting....
 
I doubt you've caused him any physical harm but if the experience was something he enjoyed and probably got it uniquely from you, then you may end up getting more attention from him then you've bargained for.
 
The reason I specifically bring my girl out of sub-space is because she's generally unresponsive while floating happily.  Subs will swear blind that they do respond to commands while under but their words are rarely anything more than muffled gibberish.  Since I like my girl to enjoy that experience (sub-space), I refrain from talking to her unnecessarily but there comes a point where I want her focused on my needs, too, so I "bring her out"....  Plus it's just another way I get to demonstrate my control over her.
 
And I assume you weren't actually meaning to demonstrate control yourself?  Chances are your fan club just rose by one and nothing more, IMO. 
 
Focus.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:24:25 AM   
laurelsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mastervalentine

As for you, if your lack of understanding bothers you, you may consider asking your dominate to explain things to you, the hows and whys.


It is my lack of understanding that bothers me. This is not my normal screen name. Cannot ask my dominate. When I tell him about this he may not even see me again. I did not have permission for this. I know how messed up that is- but that really is a seperate issue for me to deal with. Right now I am just worried about messing with my friends head by accident...

Ron- priceless as always...

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:28:03 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

It's too late, he is going to die.

Lol, you've just gotta haze the newbies, ay?  Aren't there flies that need de-winging out your way?
 
Focus. 

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:31:12 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Unless the guy already has mental or emotional issues, he will be fine. I am guessing that the only one with issues about the whole thing right now, is you.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 5:39:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, don't make a mountain out of a molehill, OP.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 7:12:08 AM   
laurelsub


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Status: offline 		OK, I will stop the worrying then.... thank you all for your answers... Yes even you Ron since you made me snarf my soda... now must go deal with the real problems I've created with Sir... Sigh.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 7:14:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Good luck, laurel.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 8:53:21 AM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		While it is called sub space, he does not need to be a sub to achive it. Bottoms also go there, don't forget you can be a BDSM bottom without being a sub.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 9:14:01 AM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		 It's nothing he will not survive.  Someone made a great point before that bottoms and not just submissives go to subspace.  Heck, I start spacing if I run for a long(er) time and it feels almost exactly like subspace and my dominant is usually no where near me.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 9:15:04 AM   
domahpet


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Status: offline 		your OP made it sound like you turned him into a vampire or something!
what will the poor dear do so far from you when its time for his first feeding?

are you going to tell you Dom about this?

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 9:39:46 AM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		I think the Dom already knows, which is why she had to go and deal with that real problem.

Seriously, My only issue is you did something and didn't think it through. YES YES YES He is going to be alright, but what if he DID have some issue that you could not handle and had not really planned out? This situation could have gotten a LOT worse.

You got Lucky,

Now onto the other part, How vanilla cann this guy be to take a session in which he reached subspace? Think about that. And more over then that what can of worms have you opened if this guy feels you are the one who opened this part of him up and now wants to be shown the rest of the world you gave him a glimpse of.

I understand that none of this was your intention but it SHOULD be your responsibility.

Steel

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 9:48:20 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurelsub

My dominate always took me back out after a while

Dominant, not dominate

[quote but i honestly don't know if there is a reason for that or what... I just didn't know how to bring him out.

Please help. ANY advice would be appreciated.

Nice to see subs having to deal with the concept of being responsible for the actions they take while in authority.  Think about it next time before you start playing around.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/23/2008 11:28:02 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Well if you're not supposed to play with others, you could be in trouble. But really, if he just pulled up his shirt and you demonstrated what a flogger feels like, that's not what I would call playing. I guess it depends on what you and the d type define it as.

And yeah, the friend will be okay. Hopefully he had time to get his head together before he needed to get in a car though. But he's not going to stay in that state forever. And if he's discovered he likes a little play, he's learned something new. Just don't agree to play with him again in the future.

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RE: Have I done something wrong? - 3/24/2008 8:07:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do not feel you have at all from what you say.

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