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wantrealnotpro -> interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:13:23 PM)
interesting why when i chose new name of "wantrealnotpro" that no one has viewed my profile or contacted me.I've been searching for real natural Dominant Woman since i was 18 ie 25 years now and its very rare i find anything other than pros.There is a difference between real and those who just do it or are certainly mainly interested in money.Realised for ages this site as most bdsm sites are nearly 100% full of pros after money its very rare that you find someone real.I gave up while ago after serving over 100 pros cos they just didnt get it i always asked them to just do as they wish yet they almost always asked me b4 what did i want and afterwards was i happy, they had confused looks on their faces when i saaid just do as they wished.They werent aware of the concept that it was about their needs and not mine and it only mattered if they were happy after wed finished.But they werent natural dommes and didnt get it so they were just after money as most on here are wonder how many of them are natural dommes.So after countless thousands probably millions of hours searching for umpteen years 25 in fact i chose "wantrealnotpro" as test of site+ it just goes to show what i thought was true all along is spot on when had name "wantrealnotpro" no one has viewed account or contacted me lol.Why does domination have to involve money? Hope i don't depress any subs who are trying to find a real domme.Take care all best but if i was you dont waste as long as ihave searching especially on net give up now youre e unlikely to find anyone gen a natural domme which you need so much like me cos cos theyre only after £

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:15:09 PM)
searching for the real thing??? well you can buy coca cola in many places! edited: aint nothing like the real thing baby! (coca cola song)

atursvcMaam -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:18:06 PM)
i thought it said real hot pro. Never mind

chamberqueen -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:21:15 PM)
It sounds like you have a real case of the blues. Have you tried contacting Dommes? Subs far outnumber Dommes, typically about 10 to 1. I'm not surprised that a pro would check to see that you are all right and that your needs were met. They get return business by making sure that needs are met. After all, being submissive does not mean not having your own wants or emotions about it. There are lots of real women on here. I was a Domme until recently, and I was certainly real. I never asked for money or gifts. The most that I ever asked for was a box of Saran Wrap because I didn't have a car at the time to run out and get some for myself. (Makes a fun bondage tool.) Yes, the search may be difficult, but they are out there. If they aren't contacting you, you keep contacting them. If you are willing to pay for a pro then even a non pro that expects some type of homage might be right for you.

CalifChick -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:23:36 PM)
Maybe it's your lack of any interests on your profile, no picture, and your not-so-great sentence construction? As far as posting on this side, run-on sentences and large paragraphs make it a chore to figure out what you're trying to say. Cali

LadyHathor -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:28:41 PM)
well ok, you are new here ( 6 days) and there are a gizillion to one, subs to Dominas---and your profile says little----it says, you will serve, so well, uhm that means different things to different people---and perhaps a more--hmm explanation of what you hope to gain--?? *food for thought.*

kiwisub12 -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:48:40 PM)
Wantreal - I know a domme, and as part of her getting to know her toys, she asks what they like and want . Because there are so many different ways for us - the BDSM community - to express ourselves, this gives her a way to know if what she enjoys is part of what her toys enjoy. If Joe likes CBT and she likes flogging then someone is going to be disappointed. Give your dommes a break and assume that maybe they are trying to find a good fit for the two of you.

wantrealnotpro -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:54:42 PM)
Here is some proper setence and grammatical structuring. Yes I have contacted loads of Dommes and yes ofcourse I am aware why pros ask what their customers want and why they are happy afterwards and no I think it's best to avoid someone who says they are real who wants money because normally that is their first interest and concern and usually they'll turn ouit to not be a natural Domme either. I expected the respionse about not using proper sentence and grammatical structuring and you bored mew by replying with a predicatable response.Maybe my lack of proper structuring and grammar could be due to me being really piss ed off with not being able to find anyone genuine after all these years 25 yrs is a very long time. And I did say it was a new name I'd created to test out if this site was mainly made up of pros and if most were fake.I have a pic on another profile I have with lot of details about me.This was just a test to see if what i'd thought about this site was true opr not and to see what reaction I got when I had real in name and that wasnt looking for pro. By the way please dont send me predicatable response saying I dont sound submissive because I've said that someone bored me because she was so p[redicatable.I promise I was always very polite and obeduiwent before.But 25 years of searching and contacting people is bound to make you a bit annoyed with the falserness of vast majority on sites like these.It doesnt mean to say there arent very genuine Dommes out there too but they are very rare.Hope I haven't depressed anyone when proved that this site is mainly made of pros, but I think I've proved my point.Take care all best to all

Aileen1968 -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:56:51 PM)
Perhaps it's your bubbly, happy and positive personality that's keeping them away.

GreedyTop -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 4:59:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Perhaps it's your bubbly, happy and positive personality that's keeping them away. snicker

stella41b -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:00:29 PM)
Who are you? Describing yourself as a genuinely submissive male doesn't work. Quite a lot of Dommes have been caught out with that phrase before and the mental image it conjures up might not be what you think. To give you an idea if you were to describe yourself as a genuine mountain gorilla quite a few Dommes would be conjuring up the mental image of King Kong or Godzilla. People on this site are looking for other people. This is why I ask, who are you? Who are you as a person, not as a submissive male. The simple fact you describe yourself as a genuine submissive male and all you can write about is serving a real and natural dominant woman makes you appear very much like a 'do me' submissive. This may not be true, but people rarely read what you write on your profile, they read what they want to read and disregard the rest. Lastly your location - Huddersfield - might put them off. Huddersfield province in Canada might be a wonderful place. But people will be thinking about Huddersfield in the UK. It is not a holiday resort. Erm, how can I put it? If the world as a whole was into anal penetration, Huddersfield would be where the butt plug, dildo or vibrator gets inserted. Just some things to think about.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:01:21 PM)
i see atleast 15 or so spelling mistakes and another 10 or so typo's and added characters.

AMaster -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:05:00 PM)
Stating that you are looking for a real person does seem to slow down the responses here. [:o] But keep looking there is someone for everyone.

CalifChick -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:06:15 PM)
I forgot to mention the run-on sentences. And I'm pretty sure trying to insult an entire site falls into the realm of "problematic." I'm just sayin'. Cali

slvemike4u -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:11:38 PM)
As someone who is also new here I couldn't disagree more.Yes the site is chock full of pros which is not necessarily a bad thing.There are also a load of warm hearted and sensitive people on this site.When I met a prospective non-pro Domme here and posted in my journal about an upcoming meeting I recieved more than a few well wishes,things didn't work out i recieved consoling messages.Right now i am trying to quit smoking ,recieved scads of encouragements ,These weren't pros theywere loving (if strict and sadistic)woman,who may or may not click with me (r/t wise)but still take the time to be concerned with the wellbeing of a virtual stranger.....By the way if i pay any one for any service and they don't inquire as to whether or not it works for me...i am one pissed customer

AquaticSub -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:12:00 PM)
There are number of us who don't consider pros fake. Even though it's rather unlikely I would ever become a pro domme, I would never play with or consider anyone as a partner who thinks pros are fake. It just turns me off too much. And then there is the other group of us who just hates the term "real". I would never consider anyone who had the term "real" in their name unless they sent me e-mails that completely knocked me off my feet with their intelligence and why we would work out. Plus... you are sub male looking for fem doms. You need to look at them, not the other way around.

peppermint -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:15:16 PM)
You say there are way more ProDommes on this site than lifestyle Dominant Women. I can't argue with that as i do not normally look for Dominant Woman professional or not. You don't spell well. You don't write well. So, it seems that internet forums are not your best place to locate and impress that special woman you seek. If you want to find real, then you go to where the real Dominant Women go. You attend munches. You attend lifestyle events, especially those events for Dominant Women and submissive men. You mingle among the lifestylers, offering your services and help, in the hope of impressing a special lady. If looking for lifestylers at lifestyle events and meetings is too much work for you then perhaps there is a reason why you've been searching for 25 years with little luck. Try the link in my signature to locate groups, munches, and events near you.

Real_Trouble -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:17:15 PM)
Your negative attitude, your lack of proactivity, and your abject immaturity in personal affairs that you have demonstrated so far are not exactly positive marks for you. I would suggest that if you are truly looking for someone, you need to do the following: - Stop whining. - Put together a profile that really makes clear why you, out of many, many male subs, should be the one a Domme picks. - Cut the adversarial attitude. Unless your goal is to become a pariah, your current course of action will leave you dissapointed.

LadyTeazer -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:18:49 PM)
Can't find a "real" Domme? Only a Rent-A-Domme? The other side of the coin is even worse. There is no such thing as a "rent-a-subby-boy", for those many, many times that I really needed someone to play with. I had searched for 8 years until I finally found My boy, and he had been searching for 10 years until he found Me. As others have said, your profile may be the problem. I read it. It says nothing about "you" as a person. What you like to do for (vanilla) fun, nor what your kink interests are. you said you have "no" fetishes. I don't believe that. I'm sure that you do -- you just do not know what they are yet, or, you are afraid for some reason to acknowledge them. your profile is your "Letter of Introduction" to a potential Domme. It is her first impression of you. Make it a good one. Make it stand out from all the others that she reads. A profile that is not descriptive of "you" as a person, has no details about your kinks/fetishes, and is poorly written does not make a favorable impression. It makes you easy to pass over for someone else. My personal opinion is that if a boy's profile is poorly written, then he really doesn't care about doing a good job, and his service to Me will reflect that -- it will be sloppy and careless as well. I do not expect perfection (there is no such thing), but I do expect -- and demand -- a certain level of competancy. I have noticed that you have only been on this site for a week. A week. Be patient. If you seek a r/l Domme, then look in r/l for one. Go to munches and meetings in your area. Attend play parties. Are there any "alternative" (kinky) toy stores near you? They might have a bulletin board with "personals" on them. A regular toy store, aimed at 'nilla couples, wouldn't be much help, I would think. These things I have said are meant as constructive criticism, to help you find a non-pro Domme. Hope it helps. Please, let Me know if it does. LadyTeazer -- proud Owner of [saberwolf34] and still a WOW -- Wonderful Older Woman

Sirandlil1 -> RE: interesting why i dont get any one viewing me when said im looking for real thing (3/24/2008 5:20:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wantrealnotpro interesting why when i chose new name of "wantrealnotpro" that no one has viewed my profile or contacted me.I've been searching for real natural Dominant Woman since i was 18 ie 25 years now and its very rare i find anything other than pros.There is a difference between real and those who just do it or are certainly mainly interested in money.Realised for ages this site as most bdsm sites are nearly 100% full of pros after money its very rare that you find someone real.I gave up while ago after serving over 100 pros cos they just didnt get it i always asked them to just do as they wish yet they almost always asked me b4 what did i want and afterwards was i happy, they had confused looks on their faces when i saaid just do as they wished.They werent aware of the concept that it was about their needs and not mine and it only mattered if they were happy after wed finished.But they werent natural dommes and didnt get it so they were just after money as most on here are wonder how many of them are natural dommes.So after countless thousands probably millions of hours searching for umpteen years 25 in fact i chose "wantrealnotpro" as test of site+ it just goes to show what i thought was true all along is spot on when had name "wantrealnotpro" no one has viewed account or contacted me lol.Why does domination have to involve money? Hope i don't depress any subs who are trying to find a real domme.Take care all best but if i was you dont waste as long as ihave searching especially on net give up now youre e unlikely to find anyone gen a natural domme which you need so much like me cos cos theyre only after £ Please be nice and somebody give the guy a break ...he has been searching here for six days....someone tell him the secret password to the real Domme room

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