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tsatske -> RE: do i go no limits (3/25/2008 9:40:45 AM)
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i do not have limits of my own. Of course everyone has limits, and that has become such a mantra on boards like this that 'no limits' slaves have begun finding other language for the dynamic that we practice. 'near no limits slaves', 'no limits other than those held by Master', or, my personal favorite (although i have used all the previous terms) 'deep internal big red NO button'. everyone has things they will not do, or can not do. They are different for everyone. They also move and change as the relationship progresses. i may be a 'no limits slave', (pick your alternate phrase from the list above), but when i am meeting with someone, getting to know them, progressing, negotiating, with them, i have a list of limits as long as your arm. Long enough to chase lots of Doms away. And that's a GOOD thing. They were not the right one. i know, because now i am owned, by the right one.
SirMIkeSD, i do not consider death or permanent injury to be limits of mine, at this point in my relationship. He owns me, i am His to do with, as he will. i am diabetic, and i certainly do not consider skin breaks to be a limit - do that all the time. constantly begging for things like knife play, for toys and play that draw what i refer to as 'small blood'. we are careful not to cause skin breaks, even 'small blood', when we do bastinado. A couple of limits i do have are, that i am honest with my docs. (Very honest. The first time i was hospitalized after becoming His, Master was by my side the whole time, and he spent the whole time laughing and shaking his head in amazement at what i will tell my docs.) And, i am more comfortable with the idea of someone killing me, than with the idea of them fucking up my life. ( not looking for snuff play, just putting them in order) amazing the number of casual Doms who just want to play who suggest the truly stupidest things. If you don't even own my ass, NO, i am not going to do something that is going to get my ass arrested and in my hometown newspaper for my adult children and parents' reading pleasure! 'no marks outside of work uniform lines' is a very soft limit for me. (and my work uniform includes a one piece bathing suit in the summer, because i work with kids, and we go swimming once a week.) Another limit of mine is 'No long lasting marks that are going to be around longer than the Dom suggesting them.' Which means i am fine with Master leaving any marks He wants, as long as He is sure and comfortable that He intends to keep the slut.
Big red internal no button issues for me including anything that i do not believe would be in the best interests of my now adult children, harming any children, and drinking alcohol. These are things i just could not bring myself to do.
i do not have a problem with the phrase 'no limits slave'. It is like debating the word 'slave'. Does it mean exactly the same thing it meant to a southern plantation owner? a Roman citizen? ect, ect. 'no limits slave' has a meaning. if you are even considering making that a part of your relationship agreement, figure out what it means to you - find out what it means to him - make sure you are on the same page. And, yes, consider all the possibilities, even the unimaginable. This is not for the SSC crowd - more RACK, IE, that kind of thing. Only you can decide if you are ready to go there - or if you will ever want to go there. Walk the path your soul leads you down, not the one someone is pointing to.
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