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RE: how can i serve my DOM better ? - 10/3/2005 9:18:47 AM

sub4mistressnsir

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ORIGINAL: lmystery21901

WE/we are new to this lifestyle. now that we embarked on this journey i am wanting to submit to HIM completely, even outside of a scene. any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

It takes time.. and lots of communication m'dear.. I have been with Sir and Mistress for awhile now and I still have problems calling Sir 'Sir' in public, he either says 'what?' or lifts his eyebrow, and I know I need to correct myself quickly.
It will come, with patience and a caring Dom that will guide you!
Brightest Blessings,
~sub

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RE: how can i serve my DOM better ? - 10/3/2005 9:51:03 AM

Mercnbeth

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i have been learning alot about submission and the life that i wish to live. WE/we have had many offers on MENTORING. this is a very hard subject for me. i have been with my HUSBAND/MASTER for 13 years and WE/we have never invited anyone into the privacy of OUR/our sex life. weither it be in person or in writing. any suggestions on this would greatly be helpful as well.

Having a "mentor" does not necessarily mean you would be inviting someone into the privacy of your sex life.....unless the submission you are speaking of only happens there. there are some, who equate "mentorship" with free sex, so please don't think that the terms are mutually inclusive.

this slave has learned a great deal from other folks on these boards and also in real life, some have served as mentors and didn't even know it--especially Master/slave couples that we have met. this slave has been helped by learning how Masters and slaves incorporate the M/s dynamic to the specific situations they face in life, be it physical, emotional or spiritual. it also has helped this slave to see the disasterous or bizarre examples of how some folks conduct their M/s relationships. yes, some folks serve as "bad" examples of how to conduct themselves as decent human beings, irregardless of the M/s dynamic they claim to participate in...but that's just life in this big world we live in.

Bottom Line: it has been this slave's experience that asking Master how this slave can please Him or serve Him is a sure fire way of finding out.

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RE: how can i serve my DOM better ? - 10/3/2005 11:49:41 AM

Hallittlelolita

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Hi there, well let me explain that i am not a sub, but a slave i had started out being a sub and learned that i want to be a 24/7 slave to my Master. It took 4 years for Us/us to get into the D's dynamic. Let me tell you it took alot of soul searching and heart ache for my husband now Master to understand how i felt and now He finally understands me and what my needs are

you say that you want to submit to your Master completly, does this mean you want to be a 24/7 slave?

If this is true i would write Him a letter and explain to Him your thoughts, dreams and feelings. it might take awhile for the information to sink in, give Him a day or so and then ask Him what He thinks of what you said and tell Him you really want this. This worked for me, but it took a little while for the information to register with Him but it did. If that dosent work i would tell Him straight out how you feel and then take it from there.

As for serving your Dom better i would ask Him what can i do to to serve you Master or somthing along those lines and talk to Him communicate, coomunicate it is the only way as for protocals like slave positions for example knealing on the floor He dosent really make me do that but all Masters are different. i do address Him as Master all the time even in public, and i am also a registered and cerified slave to my Master i have a 9 digit barcode number and it tells who my Owner is on the certificate. Remember communication is key in a 24/7 D's dynamic ask Him it is the only way to know