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Working with Male Doms? - 3/25/2008 10:57:06 PM   
MissMenagerie


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The Set-Up: Grinn and I have been considering what we most desire in third person for play, and the eventual conclusion is: female. He could go any old way...I want a Domme. (I feel like a whiny princess wanting a pony, but I'm going to have to deal with that to ask my question.)

The Question: How might a Domme feel about having to 'team up' with a male Dom on one sub? Is it a hard dynamic to work? Is it any fun for anyone but me?

Frankly, if a Domme wouldn't enjoy it, there's no sense in asking Her to do it.
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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 2:32:02 AM   
PhoenixRed


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Status: offline 		My first thought is, hell ya, why not, it could be a lot of fun!  I guess there would have to be a bit of discussion between the two dominants about what each's role would be, who would do what, etc.  Gotta work together for it to be a good thing for all.  I'm taking it as a given that the sub would be good with it as well ;)  Though I haven't yet done it, sounds like a very interesting opportunity to explore. 

One of my guys is a switch and has a female sub of his own.  We've talked on a number of occasions about co-domming her, or him helping me co-dom one of my other guys.  Always comes down to scheduling as the hardest part! lol  I think it helps a lot that we've known each other a long time, trust each other implicitly, and know that we won't butt heads on issues of dominance.  I've also been looking for male Doms in my area to help out with some of my guys occasionally.  Hard to find though, as most straight Doms don't seem to be too interested in helping to dominate a man - and bi male Doms are very few and far between.  I've discussed this with my guys....seems like having another female dominant work with me is a very exciting prospect for them, but having a male dominant work with me makes them a little nervous! lol  Maybe some day...

The way I envision it working the best is if it's my sub or slave, the male Dom helping me would be in the supporting role, and if the sub or slave belonged to the male Dom, that I would be in the supporting role.  After all, no one knows the sub better than the one they belong to, and the sub is probably going to be most comfortable having thier own dominant handling the brunt of the scene.  Just my opinion, though. YMMV.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 6:12:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		Honestly, it depends on the Dom and the Domme involved.

Personally, I enjoy co-Topping.  The gender of the other D involved really doesn't matter that much to Me.  It's especially fun if the other D brings something interesting to the table where they have a greater strength in skill than I do, and My strength in skill is greater in another area than theirs.  I mean, let's face it.  Nobody is an expert at absolutely everything, so not only is it great fun for the sub, but you get to learn from the skill set of the other D. 

The subject was just making Me sit here and think back to last summer when I co-Topped with a friend of Mine.  I had great fun while the two of us were flogging a sub on a spanking bench, one on each side.  We were both using a good florentine, so the sub was getting this delicious feeling of four floggers going at once.  The bottom thought it was absolutely heavenly, and from what I heard afterward, it was very enjoyable to watch.


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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 10:10:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would likely pick another Domme to "help" me with my boy rather than a male dominant.

I can't put my finger on why, exactly... maybe some kind of weird sisterhood-type bond with the both of us ganging up on him? 

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 11:09:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

I would likely pick another Domme to "help" me with my boy rather than a male dominant.

I can't put my finger on why, exactly... maybe some kind of weird sisterhood-type bond with the both of us ganging up on him? 

I am sure that most straight subbies would prefer two or more Dommes


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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 2:17:46 PM   
DianeB269


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I would rather work with another female dominant.


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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 2:40:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have worked with both male and female co-dominants, but only when we were very good friends and I was very comfortable with the people and relationships involved.  Not something I would walk into casually with strangers, unless it was a super-safe environment like a public play club.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 2:45:07 PM   
frz411


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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 4:13:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have co-topped subs with dominants of both genders.  As a general rule, we are already friends and know how to communicate well together.


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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 4:16:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the more problematic part might be getting someone to team up with him on HIS sub, not just  A sub.
I have played with a Dominant and his pets before, and I have joined male Dominant friends with subs they did not own, but were ore casualy involved with. I enjoyed the latter much more becasue I did not have to work under the other's rules. When you are owned, your Dominant is still the one in charge, regardless of who joins him.
In general, it can be fun as long as the dynamics are worked out and the Doms get along without you there.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 6:15:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMenagerie

How might a Domme feel about having to 'team up' with a male Dom on one sub? Is it a hard dynamic to work? Is it any fun for anyone but me?

Frankly, if a Domme wouldn't enjoy it, there's no sense in asking Her to do it.



If there's good chemistry, there's fun.



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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 3/26/2008 8:00:46 PM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie
maybe some kind of weird sisterhood-type bond with the both of us ganging up on him? 


Yes! Long live the sisterhood!

It is bad luck to partner in dominance across gender lines. I read a story that somewhere some folks decided to ignore this wisdom and the next day the domme's latex dress ripped! And the man had cable go out while watching football...no wait....porn! Just as he about to orgasm! See? It's worse than not forwarding a chain letter!

And there is just a tad bit of bad luck that could happen even when dommes team up with dommes. But the more dommes there are, the more the bad luck gets spread out and it eventually becomes negligible. At most, a domme might get a run in her stockings. Still, to be safe it's best to have a team of at least five. Or something.

Oh and I don't mean to say that one should avoid teaming up for worry about that minute amount of bad luck I mention in the paragraph above. I mean, what's the fun in life if we don't take any risks, right?

;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 4/5/2008 3:04:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		  "Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea."
-- Robert E. Heinlein

I love this quote.  I know it's not directly applying to the main topic, but reading it made me smile and I had to comment.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 4/5/2008 3:27:55 PM   
ShaktiSama


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ORIGINAL: subofyourwill

 "Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea."
-- Robert E. Heinlein

I love this quote.  I know it's not directly applying to the main topic, but reading it made me smile and I had to comment.

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William McDonald


Thanks William.    I know there are a few Heinlein fans on the forum.  I love his work.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 4/6/2008 12:28:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Master and I have co-Topped 2 different girls, the second on 2 occasions, and thoroughly enjoyed it. These were more casual play situations, though with the second one, if it could have been ongoing (she was booked to go to Europe on a long holiday not long after We met her) ... it would have been. she was FUN to play with and We enjoyed working together as Dom/mes.

I'm not sure Master would necessarily co-Top with Me with a male sub, though if the boy becomes My 24/7, obviously Master will be overall Head of the Household. Not quite the same way as co-Topping though, I don't think He's that motivated to play with a boy.

Have also known a Dom/Domme couple who used to co-Top some subs and also have some separate ones. Seemed to work! But it definitely requires the 2 Tops to do some pre-negotiations before the play.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 4/6/2008 1:53:42 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

quote:

ORIGINAL: subofyourwill

"Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea."
-- Robert E. Heinlein

I love this quote.  I know it's not directly applying to the main topic, but reading it made me smile and I had to comment.

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William McDonald


Thanks William.    I know there are a few Heinlein fans on the forum.  I love his work.


::smiles::  I -just- referenced Heinlein in the last post I made.  Serendipity, for the win.

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 4/6/2008 2:10:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissMenagerie

How might a Domme feel about having to 'team up' with a male Dom on one sub? Is it a hard dynamic to work? Is it any fun for anyone but me?

Frankly, if a Domme wouldn't enjoy it, there's no sense in asking Her to do it.



Well... The first obvious point is, of course, that it depends entirely on the two dominants and the submissive. 

One might as well ask "What are the chances a hex nut and washer will fit with this bolt?"  Statistically, individually, the chances are small... But it'd be far from impossible to find three items that would work perfectly in that capacity.

I'd say one key point will be to work out the power dynamic between the two dominants first... Althuogh, really, I can see the argument for the new dominant working out a relationship with the submissive first, too, if the submissive and male dominant were amicable to it.  Even in that... The two dominants should have an understanding beforehand.

Beyond that, though, I don't really see any good reason to think it'd be particularly troublesome for a casually oriented - possibly bisexual - Domme.  I say possibly bisexual because, while I think there are probably lesbians who would differ with me on this, I'd have to be awfully good friends with a guy before I'd have even the slightest interest in any part of any scene that has anything to do with his penis or it's excretions.

Darn things'd be bad enough if they weren't so prone to leaking man-chowder all over the place... ;-)

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RE: Working with Male Doms? - 4/6/2008 6:21:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MsHonor
Darn things'd be bad enough if they weren't so prone to leaking man-chowder all over the place... ;-)


*mops the coffee odd of the monitor*

Ok then.  Favorite line of the day.  I always learn the most amazingly delightfully crude terms for male anatomy and fluids on these forums!

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