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sexysusieq11215 -> my Master said... (3/26/2008 12:11:42 PM)
my Master professed undying love and then took a personal event and hit me below the belt with it....arent a Master and sub supposed to be friends....?

colouredin -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 12:16:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexysusieq11215 ...arent a Master and sub supposed to be friends....? if they are in your head then they are to you yes

akisha -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 12:31:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexysusieq11215 ....arent a Master and sub supposed to be friends....? In my relationships yes, but every relationship is different. It is what it is for the people involved. There is no "should be's or shouldn't be's" in life or in the lifestyle.

domahpet -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 12:35:01 PM)
so whats the below the belt part?

tsatske -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 12:45:54 PM)
Well, actually, I have a 'be or shouldn't be' for you. If you entered the relationship with the clear and expressed espectation of friendship and being able to trust with that sort of thing, then, he broke your trust. If you did not, because you thought it was a given, then this incident should cause you to talk about that. IF it turns out that you need that, and he needs to NOT have it, then you are not a match.

Bound2One -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 1:31:05 PM)
For myself, if someone professed undying love for me and then purposely hurt me, then no, I wouldn't be pleased. If someone professed this love I'd expect friendship to be part of the package. You need to talk with him. Have you known him long?

Taintedblood -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 1:40:54 PM)
friendship is more important than love and it takes some people years to learn that. Not all love is good love

OmegaG -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 1:42:50 PM)
FR Friends hit below the belt too, sometimes intentionally when they are upset and sometimes unintentionally.

Taintedblood -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 1:44:55 PM)
How long have you been in the relationship?

OmegaG -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 1:46:27 PM)
was that a fast reply directed at the OP or did you direct your question to me?

DiurnalVampire -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 1:52:04 PM)
Just ebcasue he loves you doesnt mean he doesnt argue or fight dirty. Its an unfortunate and ugly idea, but there are a lot of people who cannot have an argument without turning it into a hurtful thing to strengthen their side. Maybe that is how he thinks and that is what you wil have to accept the rest of your time together, unless you put a stop to it now. DV

DesFIP -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 5:17:38 PM)
Unfortunately just because he wants to be a dominant doesn't mean that when he got a sub he automatically and magically acquired social skills necessary for the fostering of long lasting and healthy relationships. Indeed, it may be that the reason he was looking for someone new is because he lacks those relationship skills. Dragging up past events, or painful episodes from your past in order to hurt you, are the hallmarks of someone who is insecure and trying to make you smaller so he feels bigger. Don't you deserve a relationship with someone you can trust to be supportive instead of hurtful?

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 5:25:39 PM)
Without knowing any details I cannot make a determination

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: my Master said... (3/26/2008 8:56:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexysusieq11215 my Master professed undying love and then took a personal event and hit me below the belt with it....arent a Master and sub supposed to be friends....? Having someone use something said in the spirit of open and honest communication is a form of betrayal..WIITWD for the most part, preach endlessly on open and honest communication,a cornerstone to any developing and ongoing relationship, then to have this used against you in order to what? bring you to heel,to win a disagreement?....seems to me such an act is first off not an act of friendship or even a partner and not even Dominant...such an act would create to my way of thinking a distrust, a closing down on the open, honest communication, and thus an ending to a relationship that seems to have been built on sand . Of course not knowing the particulars, the validity of this response could be fully erroneous..Tempting

Justme696 -> RE: my Master said... (3/27/2008 3:52:27 AM)
If soem one would do that to me...he could f*ck himself. Some people have tendencies to hurt others... a MAster can be as much an asshole as a normal guy in the vanilla world. We are humans to afther all.

Silkendream -> RE: my Master said... (3/27/2008 4:14:19 AM)
it depends how and why he did it , susie - if it was in the heat of the moment, to lash out at you then that is not good for a man who is in control of you. If he did it deliberately to teach you something, that is different (my Master did that to me once). Ask him and if he explains there was a reason and what it is, then you can chew it over and decide if you can cope. Or is he a sadist and thats a way he likes to cause you pain? If there wasnt a good reason and he was just flying off the handle because he has no control over himself, (or is just a nasy person!) then maybe thats a good thing to think about - do you want this volatile undependable (unpleasant!) man to have so much power over you and your life? With so little information, its hard to say anything, really, so these are just a few thoughts that might fit or might not. All the best.

Constrictor1 -> RE: my Master said... (3/27/2008 4:42:53 AM)
Since you wrote this post with no info other than you were "hurt", I will be happy to give you non - heartfelt : Poor girl[&o] (victim). Seriously, if you want sympathy say so, if you want input advice, then provide more info so that people can actually attempt to understand the situation. Constrictor1

Sylverdawn -> RE: my Master said... (3/27/2008 5:11:30 AM)
Masters are humans, humans make mistakes...

CelticPrince -> RE: my Master said... (3/27/2008 6:01:55 AM)
quote: my Master professed undying love and then took a personal event and hit me below the belt with it....arent a Master and sub supposed to be friends....? susie, seems to me there there is a signicant lack of facts here to render any answer. CP

Noah -> RE: my Master said... (3/27/2008 5:38:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince quote: my Master professed undying love and then took a personal event and hit me below the belt with it....arent a Master and sub supposed to be friends....? susie, seems to me there there is a signicant lack of facts here to render any answer. CP Look, if you're going to kill an experienced poster like CelticPrince and assume his identity, be more careful. Don't put yourself at risk by doing something so obviously noobish as to suggest to people here that they not condemn an anonymous stranger based on a few cryptic comments from his partner giving a tiny bit of her side of the story in a moment of distraught confusion.

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