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justLady -> RE: Slipping Through the Cracks (3/28/2008 5:42:01 PM)
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I think many have answered your question very ably, thus far. Here's my tuppence.
Personally, I love to be desired, as does my boy.
He wants me and I want him. He wants me to want him, and I want him to want me.
He's submissive, so typically expresses his desire with subtle signals such as holding me tighter when we cuddle, offering me a massage or being particularly attentive to my needs. This shifts to outright pleading when he's been denied orgasm for some time. Obviously, his cock is a fantastic bell-weather indicator of how he's feeling in relation to his level of arousal.
I'm dominant, so I typically express my desire with forthright signals, such as 'Strip and kneel in your Collar position', putting him across my lap for a spanking or teasing his upper thighs and groin while whispering very dirty things in his ear.
He'd love me to pant after him 24/7, I'd love him to pant after me 24/7, but we're real people with real lives. Sometimes he's tired/stressed/not feeling well, ditto for me.
I wouldn't be much of a Mistress if I didn't trust my own ability to (mostly) manage this balance successfully.
The way I look at it, there is no difference between the basics of what he wants and I want - to be loved, supported, aroused, touched tenderly, fucked hard, rocked to sleep when we're feeling low. We just express ourselves differently.
But then, I'm not a FemDom believer, etc.
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