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Stephann -> RE: Silent Voices (3/27/2008 9:40:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MastersVoice
I find it quite disconcerning that so many so called masters/doms, misteresses/dommes do not want members of the opposite sex to speak to the person that they want to have control over.
Are they so frightened that someone else will come along and talk that individual away from them? If that be the case, then the it is likely the only control you have over them in the first place is FEAR and fear is NOT a factor on which to base a lasting relationship.
Why do I have the feeling someone used the "My owner doesn't let me talk with men" line on you. My slave isn't allowed to use that line, but I know it's a common method slaves use to avoid conversations with people whom they aren't interested in talking to.
Certainly, someone trying to isolate their partner socially, usually, is indicative of an unhealthy relationship. Having said that, I am well within my rights to restrict the communication of my slave in any form I deem appropriate. That results from the trust she places in me.
Last weekend, I was at our favorite dungeon. I had charlotte, and two other female submissive friends all on a leash, kneeling with me in a room by ourselves. A fellow comes up dressed in sweatpants and an ugly Tshirt, and says "hi... are you these girls Master?" I say "well, this one's mine, and the other two are in my care tonight." He then says "well, would you mind if I massage their feet?" I said "no, I'm afraid their shoes are staying on tonight." He was dejected, and wandered away.
If he had taken 20 minutes to get to know me, demonstrate to me that he's someone worth knowing, and established a rapport, I might very well have let him massage charlottes feet (she loves massages.) But because he didn't bother with even the smallest bit of social grace, he was sent packing.
Have you considered trying to contact their owner, respectfully, engage him in conversation?
To those who allow themselves to be placed in such a relationship, I caution you greatly, if a person restricts your ability to have any contact with anyone for any reason, then you should watch out for this individual for in most cases this means that they are weak.
Compared to the fellow giving advice on a message board because he's frustrated that all the pretties are taken?
That they are afraid that they cannot keep control of themselves let alone keep control over someone else and WILL in most cases loose their tempers when you attempt to make contact with people. These people should be avoided at ALL COST, or at least until they have grown in their ability to trust in themselves with the confidencse that by allowing those under their control the ability to communicate with others will not jeapordize the relationship. (This does not pretain to restritions which are used during training sessions and restricted to those training sessions only, not set for a 24/7/365 factor.)
Riiiiight.........
Those who enter into any submissive or slave situation MUST remember that you should always remain true to yourself. Your gift of surrender is very precious and MUST be earned, NOT taken or stolen away from you.
And if being true to yourself is to adhere to social interaction restrictions that were mutually agreed upon?
Those who take these gifts with malice are no more than thieves and truly have NO place in our lifestyle. To remain true to yourelf will always greatly enhance the relationship on which you and your partner or partners develop. Be it over a few weeks, months or a lifetime.
However, there will be many who will not agree with this. For they are of the mind set that things in this life must be taken, slaves and subs must be brutaly forced to surrender and never allowed contact with anyone outside their so called relationship.
Reading this will probably make charlotte hot.....
It is also these people who you will see in most cases who continually seek new people to replace those they have used up, to replace the abused which have sought shelter elsewhere or those who have wised up enough to leave before they are forever harmed.
And hotter........
Further, you will also see in most cases that it is these same people who have a great deal of trouble adapting to life in general and have problems with their work life, home life and lives in dealing with those around them in general. While this may not be true in all cases it is more true than not.
Compared to people who rant on message boards?
If someone is so insecure that they will not allow you to communicate with others, be very aware of that peson's on ability to communicate. Not only with you, but with everyone in their life as well. Be very careful of the situation of which you are about to enter and do so carefully. Communication is the key factor in ALL relationships. Good luck in your search, your journey, your life.
As It Is,
~Masters Voice~
Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.
Stephan
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