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JulieorSarah -> RE: Help Wanted! (3/28/2008 12:18:18 AM)
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(i should point out i'm probably talking through my hat here ... )
Gemini1766 to me has covered it ... it relates to your own life experience.
my life experience has given me these perceptions, accurate or not they are valid for me. i've learned there are many that call themselves 'master' and definitely are not worthy of the title/label.
a 'Master/Mistress' is. They are not tied up with rules of 'Sir/Mistress' collars on or off ... because they attract those that will serve willingly and will read and recognise thier mastery, and do what ever to serve that Master/Mistress, Dom/Domme/. The Master/Mistress looks after their possessions, who are like cats chose to be with their owners. They treat those who serve them with dignity, respect and care and both grow and blossom. yes i'm serious. Its challenging, confronting, rewarding, filled with laughter, tears, and is wonderful and painful, emotionally, personally and physically. A Master/Mistress my have one or many charges, and those charges can be slaves, submissives or bottoms. There are no rules, yet it is very structured. The bottoms will not like this for long.
Dominants are not necessarily masters, they like control but all masters/mistresses have a strong dominant within them. Dominants control their charges, enforce the rules, they can develop into masters through learning from the reactions from their charges and the way they react to their treatment. They will attract slaves, submissive snad bottoms, the slaves will not hold for long. the submissives and bottoms are often content to be with the Dominant
Tops, are not into the lifestyle, they do it from time to time, can walk away it's not a driving force, they serve a purpose. slaves/submisives will find shelter but not stay, bottoms will be content with the on/off approach
Then there are bullies, or idiots who think it's all about sex on demand, or inflicting whatever on a not so willing (and often newbie) charge. They do not consider the wellbeings of those in their care and they call themselves whatever they think will attract whatever they want, they retain no-one who is well ..um ... balanced for long - they need to grow up and become self aware.
but then i'm still so knew at this, and my perceptions in 5 years time could be completely different .. what am i? more than a bottom, and less than a submissive, craving to be a slave and yet to find a master who will allow or be able to have me to serve. geography is such a bummer.
edited to correct spelling errors.
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