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When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 3:44:31 PM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		you don't have a Dominant, can't seem to connect with one, or well, are of the age that pickings are slim--
 
when are you calling it quits?
 
how are you handling it?
 
what will you do for the rest of your life?
 
If at all...

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 4:11:50 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Considering 90% of those who "call it quits" end up coming back and looking dorkier than before...

I think people who call it quits because they can't get into the relationship are blaming the kink rather than seriously looking within.  Fulfillment comes within- no matter what lifestyle you get into. 

I will never quit being me, though perhaps ME might change.

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 4:25:04 PM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		I suppose it would be like anyone who hasn't met a partner yet. Either you adjust to living alone & 'dating' or you keep the hope that it will happen.In a way I think we are fortunate with having munches, the internet and all the other ways of connecting with someone else.

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 4:25:19 PM   
lally3


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Status: offline 		a while back i was on a board where there was a 73 year old sub and only a few weeks ago i was approached by a guy who said he was 97... so, some clearly say never give up or call it quits.

today i met a woman, not bdsm, in her late 50's whose getting married to the guy she met on the internet last year.

i dont think you should ever give up on hope - its what keeps you moving forward.


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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 4:34:45 PM   
hopelesslyInvo


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Status: offline 		i'm very used to being single, and have sort of called it quits before ever starting.  i never expect, and am always surprised when someone takes an interest in me and even more surprised when things between us seem to be working out.

it used to be hard, but now i feel a bit dead.  i don't really have crushes or heartaches anymore, but i can still appreciate things like i always have in the role of an onlooker.  the rest of my life will be the same as now if i don't find anyone, i'll just continue to be myself, and be around. 

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:16:48 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		Why would you call it quits on being you?  That's giving up on who you are.   I could never see myself saying that's it, I've had enough.  

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:20:26 PM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		I am complete whole and perfect right now as I move forward into greater expressions of self. With or without a Dominant.



Edited to say: This is meant as a positive affirmation to all. Without a Dominant can be changed to suit your needs.

< Message edited by lusciouslips19 -- 3/27/2008 5:22:08 PM >

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:21:17 PM   
Poetryinpain


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Status: offline 		Since I have demonstrated to myself that I can live solo without crumbling into tiny little pieces, I can exercise the patience it takes to wait for the "right one" - if he ever comes along.

Learning about BDSM and my desire for it has made things a bit different, but again I know that physical life continues without it. It is just a matter of being content with who and what I am. I am re-entering the job market and becoming active in community volunteer work. This helps me feel fulfilled. At this point, a BDSM relationship (heck- any kind of relationship) will just be the frosting on the cake.I am not giving up on it, but I won't be frantic about it.

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:25:22 PM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

you don't have a Dominant, can't seem to connect with one, or well, are of the age that pickings are slim--
 
when are you calling it quits?
 
how are you handling it?
 
what will you do for the rest of your life?
 
If at all...


If you convince yourself its never going to happen, it probably wont. The older you get the more you think this way. The bad news is i have another birthday coming soon, even so, i just keep saying to myself... One day

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:34:35 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

you don't have a Dominant, can't seem to connect with one, or well, are of the age that pickings are slim--
 
when are you calling it quits?
 
how are you handling it?
 
what will you do for the rest of your life?
 
If at all...


If you convince yourself its never going to happen, it probably wont. The older you get the more you think this way. The bad news is i have another birthday coming soon, even so, i just keep saying to myself... One day


same bad news for me. Mines in april.

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:40:03 PM   
Politesub53


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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 5:56:10 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		I came into the lifestyle at 48 - I am now 50, and presumably am at the age where there are slim pickings. My Sir is 61 and we have women for him to play with who are in their early 30s. Doms are like the energiser bunny - they just keep on going and going and going.
I have no intentions of ever stopping.

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 6:08:03 PM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		Good grief, you don't actually think that BDSM and sex in general is all there is to life, do you? I have friends, I have family, I have interests that take me places and introduces me to new thoughts and feeling on an almost daily basis.

As much as I love the closeness and the satisfaction I get with being under someone's heel, or used for their pleasure, it's hardly my entire life!

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 6:10:12 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Hmmmmm....I never really called it "starts", so I can't really call it "quits", either.  As I said in another thread, I just live my life.  I've never made finding the perfect partner any higher of a priority than the other things I do with my life that make me happy.  It would be nice if he would come along, but just because he hasn't yet doesn't make me feel discouraged in any way.  I guess I feel like it's just not meant to be....yet....and when the time is right, it will.  Or not.  Or whatever.  I'm happy.....I just picked up a new singing gig with a newly forming band, my furniture is finally arriving from storage for my new apartment in my new location, we just had a birthday party at Hooters for a co-worker, I turn 50 in two weeks and might take a road trip to see my grown kids and grand-UM.  Don't really have time to think about calling anything "quits"!

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 6:22:38 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		I might call it quits when I break a hip during a suspension, at age 92.

Orrr I may just switch, and start running over subbie toes with my wheelchair.

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 6:42:56 PM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53
Taurus by any chance Luscious?   i am so it may explain a touch of stuborness


Worse...Aires -Taurus cusp.Bipolar style traits of both. Probaby more tauras 
though. Smack dab on the 20th. Hiters birthday. And I'm jewish and it falls on passover half the time which growing up meant unleavened cake. blach. its kinda like your bday on christmas.


Edited to say: You stubborn??? Who'ld have thunk it?

< Message edited by lusciouslips19 -- 3/27/2008 6:46:19 PM >

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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 6:53:08 PM   
atursvcMaam


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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 7:34:38 PM   
TethersEnd


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Status: offline 		As my name states I came to the end of my Tether some time ago.  
Although coming to the end of that tether doesnt mean I gave up either. 
Calling it quits would mean going backwards to someone I no longer am. 


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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 8:02:05 PM   
Evility


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Status: offline 		I'm answering from the other side of the slash...

From my late teens to my middle thirties I was into much tamer activities that amounted to basically kinky foreplay or bedroom bondage. This was before I got sucked into D/s proper. I went for periods of a year or two with no kink activity at all due to either being unattached or with a non-kinky partner. I survived. I thought about it a lot but it wasn't the end of the world.

Over the last ten years the intensity of things has picked up - especially in the last two or so years. Simply having a kink friendly partner who will let me tie her up and fuck her is not nearly enough to satisfy my dominant tastes anymore. Having said that it's not an addiction for me. It's just that these days if I am going to do this I want to do it a certain way.

In my travels through cyberspace and local face to face things I have found scant few people who are willing to do this my way. I'm not sure I could enjoy D/s without my submissive or a damn near perfect carbon copy of her.  In the absence of that I'm certain I could carry on with the rest of life without all of this. Would I miss it? You bet I would... but I would rather miss doing it my way than trudge through the motions of doing it someone else's way. A service top I am not.



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RE: When are you calling it quits - 3/27/2008 8:40:19 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

you don't have a Dominant, can't seem to connect with one, or well, are of the age that pickings are slim--
 
when are you calling it quits?
 
how are you handling it?
 
what will you do for the rest of your life?
 
If at all...


Keep living of course. What else would I do, become a nun because I didn't find the person I want to spend the rest of my life with on some stupid timeline?

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