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kyraofMists -> RE: suggestions for a long distance meeting? (10/2/2005 6:28:56 PM)
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sweetpetjenny,
I flew long distance to meet my Lord and took several precautions when I went. Many of them you may already know about since you have met others locally but I will tell you all that I did. It took 6 months of constant chat, emails and phone conversations before I actually went to meet my Lord. At first when I received His phone number, I did a reverse look-up to see who it belonged to and the address, to match this up with what He had given me. I ran a background check on Him. I called Him often at the number He gave me just to see how I was treated when called. And I knew where He worked.
For the actual trip, I had safe calls set up. I had a friend that I checked in with at least once a day and others that I was also to call. I gave my friend a sealed envelope with all the personal information about my Lord, copies of all of our chats, my email addys and passwords. This envelope was to be opened in case I did not call and given to the police. She had the number of the police department in my Lord's city and all the information of when I was arriving and where I was staying. I also made sure that my Lord was aware of these precautions. If He had not been comfortable with them, I would have cancelled the trip.
I met my Lord at the airport and really considering all the security and people in and out of an airport, it is a very safe place to meet someone for the first time. We had coffee before leaving the airport just to make sure that I was comfortable and validate the reasons I made the trip in the first place. I had a plan of what I would do if when I met Him, He for lack of a better term, made my skin crawl. I actually had the name of another hotel that I would stay at that night and then get the first flight out. Also, it was understood that I would take a cab to the hotel and that if I was not comfortable would not be traveling with Him.
I had many different options based on the initial meeting at the airport. They ranged from leaving the city immediately, taking a cab to the hotel and meeting Him later or actually being extremely comfortable and leaving the airport with Him. I felt very safe meeting Him at the airport because of the security guards that are always present, and in fact airport officials knew that I was meeting someone there that I had met over the internet.
When I made the decision to visit my Lord, He stressed the importance of me having safe calls and taking other precautions so that I felt safe. Many of the safety steps I made He knew about and others He did not know at all. He knew that there were things that I had set up to help me feel safe and that He had to support me in doing these things.
From my perspective, I had to do what I needed so that I could feel some level of safety during the trip. From my Lord’s perspective, He wanted me to take these steps to reduce my level of anxiety and nervousness so that I could enjoy the trip since He already knew that I was safe.
Hope you enjoy your trip.
Knight’s kyra
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