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What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 11:05:47 AM

dea2008

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What does the session usually including ?
If I want to keep my face not beated up or damaged , should I tell it to the Mistress in front ?
Is it really possible from your practice that the slave is getting so high that he wants more and more torture ?

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 11:11:28 AM

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Yes, things can escalate once they start but a good Mistress (or Master) will make sure that they don't go too far. If you have hard limits, such as not being hit in the face, then it is your job to make it known to Her. (Most would not include this in a session, but it is always safest to let your concerns be known.)

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 11:34:20 AM

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session: an amount of time in agreement with a pro Mistress depending on how much you pay ahead of time for her services. anything except sexual contact is usually done in these sessions. if there is sexual contact then they are prostitutes.

anything goes otherwise in these sessions. fluids are not usually transferred. but blood may come as a result of an act or needle play. but are not transferred.

just my experience with reading from boards such as this one.

non pro Mistresses that session...usually call it scening or play time. where anything and everything goes.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 12:11:15 PM

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Session is a way of saying "bdsm play time".

No matter if its done with a comercial mistress or not, prior to it, you should have a negotiation, that means chat about your hard limits. Hard limits are those thing that you will never do under any circusntances (must communs one are scat, zoofilia, needle play, etc) and soft limits (those thing tat with the right mood and or training you will be reday to do. Example:facesitting, anal sex, etc).

In good sessions, the excitemnet, fear and pain makes your body release a lot of substances, like endorfines and adrenaline that feels soooo good that actually you want more.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 2:55:33 PM

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Thank you so much
But ,I have noticed by the Mistresses answers that probably the session standard is like one hour or even three hours
Why is there such unwillingness to have a session for a 15 - 20 minutes ?
Is it just because of suspicion about the less payment ?

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 3:07:23 PM

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i could not even unpack my bdsm tool in 15 mins .. Think about it if you want bondage alone the rope work does take time and you do wish to be in it for some time and then there is getting you out .then does that 15-20 mins enclude aftercare .?Maybe if you just wish a Domme to speak harshly to you for 15 mins that would not be a problem .

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 3:11:37 PM

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Yes a good session with after care and before care (talking, knowing limits..safe word..) last me about 2 hours and thats a short one. With my Dom allready knowing all he needs to know about my limits and such, ours sessions last a good 2 hours. And thats JUST play, the after care can last a good hour especially if it was a heavy scene.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 3:46:17 PM

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quote:

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Why is there such unwillingness to have a session for a 15 - 20 minutes ?
Is it just because of suspicion about the less payment ?

Would you prefer she spend 10 minutes beating you silly with no warm up, then shove you out the door with your clothes in one hand?

You're not *just* paying for the time she spends with you - she's also spending time preparing for your visit - mentally, physically - and cleaning up afterwards. The prodomme also has to invest money in the space for her dungeon, in her equipment, in her wardrobe, and other assorted business related expenses - none of which are cheap. 15 minute quickie sessions with guys too frugal to pay for a full hour don't pay the rent - and probably aren't worth her time.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 4:07:17 PM

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quote:

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But ,I have noticed by the Mistresses answers that probably the session standard is like one hour or even three hours
Why is there such unwillingness to have a session for a 15 - 20 minutes ?
Is it just because of suspicion about the less payment ?

I am not a prodom, but I have friends who are and I know a bit about the way things work in this and similar businesses. A lot of work goes into preparing for a scene/session. She has to make sure that the dungeon is clean and in good order, dress up and do hair and makeup and all that. After it's over, she has to clean up and take care of the equipment and costumes. A one hour session probably uses up 4 hours of her (and/or her staff's) time, and she prices the session accordingly. A 15 minute session would take 3 1/4 hours of her time. She's not running a charity. The hourly rate is generally barely break-even.

If you really want just 15 to 20 minutes, I'm sure that you can find a prodom who will accommodate you but you're still going to pay her minimum fee.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 5:50:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dea2008

If I want to keep my face not beated up or damaged , should I tell it to the Mistress in front ?

Yeah, be sure to tell a Mistress before you scene that you don't want your face damaged. Otherwise, she might start you off with a tyre iron smash to the teeth.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/28/2008 6:55:20 PM

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I am a Pro Domme, and very much agree with what has already been said. In fact, I must get a call one hour before a session to confirm, since getting dressed and ready - all tools out, etc takes me that much time. There is nothing worse than getting all dressed up with no one to spank. It takes me another hour to change out of the corset and thigh highs, clean up, etc. I don't punch a clock and charge by the hour - but if I know a session will go more than 3 hours, I do have an "extended session" rate - negotiated up front. I spend some time talking - not only to go over rules, limits, and expectations, but also to try to get into a boys head a bit to try to figure out what makes him tick. The more I can get him to open up, the better chance I have to mentally control him, not just physically - and the better the chances are he will find sub space.

I am not sure why you would WANT a 15 - 20 minute session? Is it to save the $?

I wouldn't consider, nor know of another Domme personally that would consider reducing tribute for a short session like that. In fact, I wouldn't see you at all - even if you agreed to the minimum amount, simply because I would write you off as a "do me" boy, and I am very selective, and will not allow a man to simply pay to submit to the activity of his choice - it must be about the power exchange. I live simply, and can afford to pick and choose who I see, and I crave the HIGH of Domination, which I wouldn't get in a 20 minute session with the activity of your choice. That is not to say you couldn't find someone who would be willing to do it...just remember, you get what you pay for!

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/29/2008 12:23:58 AM

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Sorry.
The matter is not in the payment.
May be I give this question , because I never tasted this experience in real.
( I used to try it on line )
For me is also very important , not to loose my human appearance the next day ,
when I go to work and when I need to be fresh , pleasant to look at , and undamaged.
Some times I go to the Sauna with my friends and they know that I am not a boxer or wrestler...

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/29/2008 12:41:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dea2008

Sorry.
The matter is not in the payment.
May be I give this question , because I never tasted this experience in real.
( I used to try it on line )
For me is also very important , not to loose my human appearance the next day ,
when I go to work and when I need to be fresh , pleasant to look at , and undamaged.
Some times I go to the Sauna with my friends and they know that I am not a boxer or wrestler...

Very simple solution then - you tell Her up front that you have a limit that you do not want marks that will be visible the next day. There are ways to experience pain/pleasure that will not leave marks beyond a few hours. How long the session is has nothing to do with that.

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/29/2008 11:03:59 AM

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or take up cage fighting ...
You can gain some things online like in this forum questions asked and answered ,maybe some D/s .Yet it tough to get a feel for a bdsm exchange like bondage ,flogging and spanking , etc online .If your going to a Pro Domme be open, honest,ask questions ,do have a safe word, ask their exp , relay your wishes not to be marked , starting out slow is fine and Sandy is correct the length of time really has nothing to do with if your getting marked or not , you can be marked in a very short period of time .its all in communication and trusting the other person .

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RE: What means a session ? - 3/29/2008 11:33:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dea2008

Sorry.
The matter is not in the payment.
May be I give this question , because I never tasted this experience in real.
( I used to try it on line )
For me is also very important , not to loose my human appearance the next day ,
when I go to work and when I need to be fresh , pleasant to look at , and undamaged.
Some times I go to the Sauna with my friends and they know that I am not a boxer or wrestler...

If I wanted to leave marks on someone, it would take me less than five minutes to do so. It takes two seconds to leave a stripe with a cane.
AtlantaMistress' advice is good: just say that you do not want marks on your face or any marks that will be visible the next day. That is easy enough for any good professional to do.

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