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AAkasha -> Texting your way to kinkiness (3/28/2008 12:26:19 PM)
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When I was a teenager and just starting to flirt with boys, we'd pass notes in class. Anyone ever sit in the back row across from a guy you have a crush on and keep handing a piece of paper back and forth, with questions and answers? I always made sure my questions were odd and random. That way, when I asked, "Have you ever been tied up?" it would not look so much like a blatant sexual advance, but perhaps just another odd question. Depending on how he responded, I might contine that line of flirtation.
A few years later, when I was in college, the local bbs world started to really become more mainstream. It was the first time I found myself "typing" to people in live chat environments, but it was still pre-Internet (at least for most people). I'd often be 'chatting' with people I may have already met in a small social gathering (as most of the local bbs' had get togethers), and again, the oddball question, randomly placed, could start to give some indication of my alternative interest..and a harmless question at that. Well, sort of.
Nowadays, of course, all the younger people text each other instead of talking on the phone. I remember phone calls with "boyfriends" (or guys I was flirting with) would go for hours and hours and at some point I might somehow get to the question and answer stuff and spring the question on him. It's against the TOS to talk about the age here, but mind you, I was NOT sexual and it was not sex talk, it was just harmless flirting. But even as a young adult, I'd not spring the KINKY thing on guys so quickly to give them a weird impression of me, but wait until it was a good time - but always fairly early on.
With texting, I've got to think it's so much easier. People meet in clubs or at parties, and might start texting each other, even while they are in the same room. It gives you the opportunity to flirt, using words, without having to ask awkward questions. If I were born later and was a college age flirt right now, you better believe I'd be texting, "Have you ever been tied up?" and waiting to see the response.
Texting -- good or bad?
Akasha
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