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Collar? - 3/28/2008 3:08:20 PM   
sweetizz


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Status: offline 		OK, I have been collared to my Master for about 6 months. Right now it is declared as an "Online" Collar. However, I have a collar that is his, a real, physical Collar.  My friend said something to me, that perked my curiousity, now that I do have a REAL collar that is his, would it be considered a REAL Life Collar?

Thank you,

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 3:34:35 PM   
colouredin


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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 3:47:28 PM   
domahpet


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Status: offline 		my understanding of real life is in person,
so if he actually gave it to you of his own hand
hell yes!

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 5:32:34 PM   
greenearth21


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Status: offline 		Just be happy that you are collared and trash the "correct" meaning of this collar and that.  It doesnt take away anything from your relationship.

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 6:11:01 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Your collar means exactly what you and he decided it meant when he gave it to you....no more...no less.  Under what circumstances did you agree to accept the collar?  Under what circumstances did he offer the collar?

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 7:05:14 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Have you met in real life? Or did he just mail it? I'm a little confused.

I agreed to taking his collar some weeks before he gave it to me. Saw no difference between the two. Still don't. I'm still his, whether I wear it or not.

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 7:21:04 PM   
Gemini1766


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quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

Your collar means exactly what you and he decided it meant when he gave it to you....no more...no less.  Under what circumstances did you agree to accept the collar?  Under what circumstances did he offer the collar?
Best answer. What does it mean to the two of you?
That's what matters, not what any of us think.


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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 7:40:21 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The fact that you have to ask says enough.  Your collar is whatever you want it to be- just like your relationship.  Many slaves do not have collars at all.

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 7:42:22 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		My opinion: if you haven't met for real and can't interact for real on a standard/steady basis, it ain't real. Doesn't mean it's not hot or of no value...but it ain't real.

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 7:48:40 PM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		One of my girls I collared on line after interacting with her for several years. We'd chat on Skype and phone each other as well as webcam. (not the kinky stuff). I considered her on line collar as being real depending on us meeting at the first avainable time. She flew into Australia and stayed with us for a month which was when I formally collared her.

The validity og your on line collar and the real one you have, depends completely on how both of you, not just one but both of you feel about it. If you both see it as being the real deal then it is for you and who gives a flying fuck what anyone else, even god almighty thinks.

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RE: Collar? - 3/28/2008 10:08:58 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		As has been said the Collar that is around your neck is not nearly as important as the one around your mind because the one around your neck can be lost or removed the one in your mind can only be put there by you.

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 6:24:44 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

My opinion: if you haven't met for real and can't interact for real on a standard/steady basis, it ain't real. Doesn't mean it's not hot or of no value...but it ain't real.

Master Fire






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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 7:34:47 AM   
DesFIP


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

My opinion: if you haven't met for real and can't interact for real on a standard/steady basis, it ain't real. Doesn't mean it's not hot or of no value...but it ain't real.

Master Fire



Front page on the local paper a couple of weeks ago was a guy back from a year in the sandbox hugging his toddler. He sure wasn't meeting her or interacting with her on a regular basis. By your logic he isn't really her father.

Elizabeth Barritt Browning had met Robert Browning in real life only a couple of times. Their courtship was by mail over a period of years. Guess they didn't really love each other enough to get married.

Feelings are real. And as long as they're real for the people involved, that's all that matters.

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 7:46:31 AM   
MisterStrongWill


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Status: offline 		How to tell when you are collared? The collar does not go around your neck. It goes around you, your heart your soul, your mind. thats how you will know. A leather strap with a buckle is just something to show other..like a wedding ring a symbol of a bond..age.

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 9:09:41 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		that, personally, is between you and yours to determine if it's real or not. my opinion doesn't matter. that being said, Daddy and i have an online relationship and my eternity collar is as real as anyone else's who wears one.

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 9:33:00 AM   
Daddyslilpookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

My opinion: if you haven't met for real and can't interact for real on a standard/steady basis, it ain't real. Doesn't mean it's not hot or of no value...but it ain't real.

Master Fire



I agree here if you havent met for real then it is not real. It is called the velcro collar if you havent met.

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 12:38:45 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		How can you be collared if you've not met in real time?  That doesn't even make sense to me.  Is it a cyber collar?

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 12:48:15 PM   
Masterssj


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Status: offline 		SteelofUtah and MisterStrongWill said it absolutely perfectly ....

for me , a physical collar is just an adornment on my body and it can be anything , from a necklace to an ankle bracelet to whatever it is , but that doesnt make me collared , my heart and soul is what makes me feel collared to my Master . a Master can adorn one with any physical item , but that will never mean anything unless you feel it inside first .

Masters --  sj

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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 3:12:44 PM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

My opinion: if you haven't met for real and can't interact for real on a standard/steady basis, it ain't real. Doesn't mean it's not hot or of no value...but it ain't real.

Master Fire



Front page on the local paper a couple of weeks ago was a guy back from a year in the sandbox hugging his toddler. He sure wasn't meeting her or interacting with her on a regular basis. By your logic he isn't really her father.

Elizabeth Barritt Browning had met Robert Browning in real life only a couple of times. Their courtship was by mail over a period of years. Guess they didn't really love each other enough to get married.

Feelings are real. And as long as they're real for the people involved, that's all that matters.


Sorry, but I'm not going for this.  There is a huge difference between a father who is serving his country, and been forced away from his family due to circumstance, than people who have conjured up their relationship on line.

These comparrisons are completely offensive to those of us who have loved ones serving overseas.  Speak to any wife who has a husband in a war zone.  They will be quick to tell you that on line alone is not enough.


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RE: Collar? - 3/29/2008 3:36:14 PM   
DarkVictory


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No.

It's real when you're over his lap crying. 

Having posession of a real collar but no real time relationship (in the flesh) is as real as wondering if you're having sex when he mails you a dildo.

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