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MidOhioDomme -> Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 5:41:10 PM)
I've spent a lot of years exploring the D/s world, learning what it's all about. But I've come to the conclusion that most in it are living out their fantasies and, as such, are disassociating from the reality of life. Soooooooo many of the subs I meet are on this site as an outlet to their desire for sex sex sex and the kinkier the better. How very sad I find this as I believe the D/s lifestyle can be very real and can coexist with the reality of life. It would please me beyond anything to find a man who stands proud of himself in both his vanilla world and his D/s world.

Missokyst -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:02:11 PM)
I am seriously starting to wonder why so many people are anti- sex. There have been so many threads lately about DS being more than kink. About bdsm being beyond sex. The attitude is almost like if you are enjoying what you do, you must be doing it wrong. I like sex. I like bdsm. I like and engage in ds. I must be a freak. Kyst

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:07:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I am seriously starting to wonder why so many people are anti- sex. There have been so many threads lately about DS being more than kink. About bdsm being beyond sex. The attitude is almost like if you are enjoying what you do, you must be doing it wrong. I like sex. I like bdsm. I like and engage in ds. I must be a freak. Kyst I'm a sexual submissive. For me its all about sex sex sex. I have had D's where I was not brought to orgasm but it was still about sex, even when It wasnt. I'm a freakand proud. I like BDSM for its sexual thrill. Sue me.

Guest123 -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:10:41 PM)
ImHO the reason i speak of bdsm being more than a sexual relationship is because so many want ONLY that when they contact. Non strings attached sex with little or non other thoughts of service or life.... i'm not into one night stands or sex upon demand just because a man wishes to demand it, as a submissive, i desire a life time of service, including sexual service, but do not wish it to be the primary focus of a begining relationship. i know as an adult it will get around to that part of the relationship but i'm more than just the sum of all my holes... i have far more to offer.... and i would hope that a Dom has far more to offer than his sex organ... i was born with a brain too.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:30:22 PM)
Well, I just look for someoen that is interested in having it all with me. I dont seek relations that is D's only. We have vanilla sex, we scene, I get tied, flogged etc. I am used and then we are loving. We go out, go shopping, make dinner, watch movies, talk laugh and have a complete relationship. For me its got to have more than BDSM. BDSM has to be a large part of it but not the whole pie.

Missokyst -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:37:15 PM)
Well heck that wanting immediate sex thing isn't going to change in the near future. Sex ROCKS. Orgasms RULE! Men want sex, women think about sex, we are driven by desire. Getting more does not happen overnight. More and more I am seeing posts about people thinking you should be in this for the service and that you must want that from the get-go. Instant sub! I do not get why this is any different than regular life. Committment just does not happen because someone thinks it should be so. Relationships take time and that includes DS relationships. If they start out thinking sex, well so do most people. It is up to us to adapt, to change, to help people develop beyond the need to screw like bunnies. Expecting sex isn't getting it. Expecting submission shouldn't be any different. It all takes work Kyst

slavesunshine -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:40:48 PM)
I don't know how you can say that most are just living out their fantasy. For a lot of us this lifestyle is very real, whether sex is involved or not. I live with my Master and I will assure you....our lifestyle is very real. We live a M/s every day at home and every where we go. I am his slave every day for everything that he needs. Don't group everyone here in your opinion.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:43:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I am seriously starting to wonder why so many people are anti- sex. There have been so many threads lately about DS being more than kink. About bdsm being beyond sex. The attitude is almost like if you are enjoying what you do, you must be doing it wrong. I like sex. I like bdsm. I like and engage in ds. I must be a freak. Kyst <Joins the freak club> I LOVE SEX!! Good, is that screamed loud enough? <g>

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:45:42 PM)
I love sex too! My issue is with the guys who say they want to submit and serve, but really just want to get laid. For that, "hey, wanna fuck?" is way more sincere than "oh Mistress I want to please you and serve you and and and and...".

atursvcMaam -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 6:54:07 PM)
<----must be a super freak because i really like sex. really freaky in that i don't feel that it is the only or even major part of a relationship, but it certainly makes the tougher, or even the better parts of a relationship better still.

domahpet -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 7:09:13 PM)
<<<freak sex without pain sucks

KCherry -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 7:19:56 PM)
<--Guilty of being a sex lover. If you arent growing you are dying and that goes for sex too.

DesFIP -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 7:21:58 PM)
I'm not service oriented. Never claimed to be. Our focus is on emotional transparency. I'm still submissive. And I still enjoy; sex, bdsm and a d/s relationship. Maybe you should state first thing that you're looking for a service submissive. Then people who aren't interested in that could move on. Because if you don't tell them, then don't blame them for not being up on their mind reading.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 7:52:06 PM)
No offense, but, this is teh internets. How much of this is real??? I mean, hell, look at 2nd Life. This is entertainment for most. Master Fire

softness -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 8:36:53 PM)
can I just be in this for the dishes and laundry? I mean the being tied up, beaten, humiliated and then fucked senseless and left sobbing in a heap is hot and all but nothing beats startching shirts returns quietly to her romance novel...The Cowboy and The Nursery Teacher" Steve is about to tell Carla all about his mispent youth

littlebitxxx -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 8:38:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I am seriously starting to wonder why so many people are anti- sex. There have been so many threads lately about DS being more than kink. About bdsm being beyond sex. The attitude is almost like if you are enjoying what you do, you must be doing it wrong. I like sex. I like bdsm. I like and engage in ds. I must be a freak. Kyst DITTO in capital letters and everything. And what is the down side again??

DarkVictory -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 9:08:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness can I just be in this for the dishes and laundry? I mean the being tied up, beaten, humiliated and then fucked senseless and left sobbing in a heap is hot and all but nothing beats startching shirts returns quietly to her romance novel...The Cowboy and The Nursery Teacher" Steve is about to tell Carla all about his mispent youth As he kicked open the door and strode into the farmhouse, he couldn't help but notice how suddenly out of place he was. Standing there, stinking, sweaty, the smell and lather of horse still on him, his rowells cutting into the soft pine floor, he saw that the small house was neat as a pin. And there, on the other side of the single room that served as both kitchen and dining room, stood that woman. He'd ridden three hundred miles across stinking scrub desert and deep into the hot plains seeking her. As he walked across the room towards her, to slap some sense into her, finally.... she rose up from her ironing board, and said simply. "Once you're done with me Steve, do you like light starch or heavy?"

atursvcMaam -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 9:13:06 PM)
Dang, now i am going to have to find this book and learn to read.

slvemike4u -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 9:14:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I am seriously starting to wonder why so many people are anti- sex. There have been so many threads lately about DS being more than kink. About bdsm being beyond sex. The attitude is almost like if you are enjoying what you do, you must be doing it wrong. I like sex. I like bdsm. I like and engage in ds. I must be a freak. Kyst AMEN and THANK YOU

softness -> RE: Is any of this real? (3/28/2008 9:32:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkVictory quote: ORIGINAL: softness can I just be in this for the dishes and laundry? I mean the being tied up, beaten, humiliated and then fucked senseless and left sobbing in a heap is hot and all but nothing beats startching shirts returns quietly to her romance novel...The Cowboy and The Nursery Teacher" Steve is about to tell Carla all about his mispent youth As he kicked open the door and strode into the farmhouse, he couldn't help but notice how suddenly out of place he was. Standing there, stinking, sweaty, the smell and lather of horse still on him, his rowells cutting into the soft pine floor, he saw that the small house was neat as a pin. And there, on the other side of the single room that served as both kitchen and dining room, stood that woman. He'd ridden three hundred miles across stinking scrub desert and deep into the hot plains seeking her. As he walked across the room towards her, to slap some sense into her, finally.... she rose up from her ironing board, and said simply. "Once you're done with me Steve, do you like light starch or heavy?" resist temptation to cum all over her chair oh my god Sir .... swoons

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