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vampchick88 -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 11:09:21 AM)
I loved being able to actually thank my sub. I've been around people in my past who were rude assholes. pet did shock me and I'm still a bit stunned by his kindness. He was so kind, except for the first day when I arrived at night a bit jetlagged and feeling a bit queasy from the flight. We stopped at walmart and he looked at me right in the eye and said "Your not letting me do my job" I was completely bewildered and asked what? He replied "Your not letting me open the car door for you, thats a job I take pride in" I was so taken back and tried to remember. I must sadly admit that I thought for sure that this would only take place the first few days or that he would forget....nope every single time like clockwork he would happily walk around to my side of the car, open the door, smile and offer his hand to help me up. I constanly was thanking him. He also cooked a chicken sandwich up for me, as he asked for me to sit at the table and he would serve me. He constantly showed courtesy and always got praise and thanked for all that he did. What can I say, he's definately a keeper. [:)]~Lorelei

longjohnsilver -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 11:19:47 AM)
When i'm with a Domme, i don't expect any thanks, and it doesn't bother me not to get any. But those who are able, from that position, to thank, and even sometimes to apologize, are always appreciated, and elevated in my mind. Edit: Oops, forgot this was the Ask a Mistress board as i just open them all up at the same time. Apologies.

ElanSubdued -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 11:54:03 AM)
I can speak from both sides of the fence here. When I was a dominant, I thanked my submissives, always. Sometimes this was for nice things they did for me, but often this was just for being caring, loving partners and for being people who I respected. As a submissive myself, I certainly appreciate receiving thanks from my partner, whether this be verbally or just a physical caress. I don't always expect thanks for the things I do, but if I never hear any words of encouragement, praise, or affection, it can feel a little cold and I'll admit, I'm less motivated. Physical or verbal gestures of thanks are a wonderful motivator and they are also a lovely way to tell someone "I love you" or "I appreciate you". In my opinion, courtesy and politeness are attributes that wear well on all people, and they certainly help keep the gears of romance in a relationship well oiled and running smoothly. Elan.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 12:31:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSakura Do you believe in thanking your submissive/slave? If yes, how so and how often. If not, why? I absolutely do. It's just good manners to thank someone if they do something for you. After a scene I've been known to kiss him and say "Thank you, pet, that was wonderful." And really, I do get plenty out of it even if it's not a sexual scene, so I suppose I'm thanking him for the smile it always puts on my face to see him submit.

LadyJeelys -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 1:39:24 PM)
It depends...I say "thank you" habitually because of where I was raised. But I don't always thank secondary. I can't speak for him (darn it), but it just seems like he enjoys being the "unappreciated" Sooo, I keep my thanks and appreciation to moments when it counts. Rather that works or not....well, you'd have to ask him :)

BlackSakura -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 2:42:25 PM)
Great! Thank you all for your responces. ^_^ I naturally thank my subbies for what they do for me as I also do not equate dominace with rudness. ^_^

bipolarber -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 6:07:00 PM)
Etiquette and being polite is a sign of superior behavior and upbringing. Just sayin'...

MistresssAria -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 10:00:32 PM)
I ALWAYS say thank you, Pro session or not!!!!!

MissHarlet -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 10:08:56 PM)
I definately say thank you and please to my submissives .. I do not think it diminishes my authority at all.... I do not equate rudeness with dominance. I also want them to know that I appreciate their submiting to me and thus their service ... Manners count even for a Dominant.

GoddessTeaze -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/30/2008 11:41:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSakura Do you believe in thanking your submissive/slave? If yes, how so and how often. If not, why? Is water wet ? Politeness cost nothing, and it encourage anyone whom you thank for what ever they done for You! It's like with kids, reward the good EG [sm=applause.gif] GoddezzT`

undergroundsea -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 12:45:13 AM)
Sure, dominance does not equate with rudeness, and I don't think not saying thank you necessarily equates with rudeness in a BDSM relationship. If I am generally comfortable that a domme appreciates me and is respectful of me, a thank you for each and everything I do is unnecessary and accepting my service in itself thanks me. In fact, a lack of thank you can even enhance the submissive mindset for me--the sentiment that I see behind such a response is not that my act of service is unappreciated but that it is the natural course of things and the service is to be expected. Cheers, Sea

MissLily -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 4:50:49 AM)
I pretty much always thank My subs after a chat or play. I do it because I honnestly find it's the polite thing to do and manners are important to Me, but also because, after a play, they made themselves vulnerable for My pleasure. That is a gift. Also, being reasured after a play is, I think important for a sub. I believe in respect on both sides, and that is a way for Me to express it. Miss Lily

Dnomyar -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 6:32:01 AM)
Saying thank you is part of my upbrining. I always try to give little gifts also. I look at it as another way to say thanks.

MissHarlet -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 8:13:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Saying thank you is part of my upbrining. I always try to give little gifts also. I look at it as another way to say thanks. It is very much a part of mine also ..... and a part I dont wish to change ....I may not say thank you for every single thing that is done .. but overall it is said a lot

RumpusParable -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 1:58:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSakura Do you believe in thanking your submissive/slave? If yes, how so and how often. If not, why? Yes, absolutely. More often I phrase things in the terms of praise but I also believe in saying "Thank you". When a sub (mine or someone else's) is serving me I often thank them when they offer me something or do a task. It's a polite acknowledgement of their effort, expressing approval from the dominant position and appreciation from the just the human exchange.

LadyHathor -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 2:06:38 PM)
*Yes I do, I thank everyone for things they do for Me, whether expected or asked, it is a way of letting them know I notice and am thankful for them and the task--My sub is no different.*

MistressOfGa -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 3:03:14 PM)
Yes, I thank him. I also thank God for him every single day. MoGa

MsDonnaMia -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 3:06:12 PM)
They're the ones usually thanking me, and I'm usually saying, "oh, you're MOST welcome." ;) quote: ORIGINAL: BlackSakura Do you believe in thanking your submissive/slave? If yes, how so and how often. If not, why?

secondary -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 4:35:50 PM)
As a slave, I liked being thanked in a certain tone. A casual "thanks slave" or "thanks boy" reconfirms my lower status more than being ignored or being snapped at. My slave position is subtlely but surely re-inforced.

Daddysredhead -> RE: Do you thank your sub? (3/31/2008 5:01:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia I always thank anyone who ever does anything for me, from slaves to family to work mates to the little kid who held a door open for me. It's the way I was brought up. Good manners and appreciation were everything. I concur. Daddy thanks me when I do something that He appreciates or finds helpful. I, in turn, thank my gem when she does thoughtful things for me, like cooking something nice when I go visit her for dinner, etc. I also thank Daddy when He does something I find thoughtful. My gem does the same when I do for her. She thanked me over and over for her birthday lunch Saturday. It was nice to let my girl know her day was important to me, too.

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