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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:21:17 AM

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yeah...thanks for letting me know

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:21:42 AM

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Yes, you should. But you like it soooo much. No spankings for jou!

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:22:54 AM

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Yes, you should. But you like it soooo much. No spankings for jou!

oh hells bells

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:24:38 AM

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Okay I give this Thread another 6 posts before Mods Throw it into "Polls and Other Random Stupidity" Sorry we derailed your thread submyt.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:27:32 AM

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Hey, NP, how many other ways can you say...look, the guys a creep!??
Delete his ass, and report him if he stalks you?

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:31:03 AM

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See the way that I see it first messages are really important, i think you get a feel for someone right away, I think you have to build up an element of liking them before it works for them to start to say where you can improve, people that threaten to 'soil your name' are silly, and anyone that matters wont care what other people think anyways. I think actually that Dominants have a harder time of the whole ruining the credibilty thing than subs because dominants get the label abusers, us submissive types get the label fake, Ive been told many times that people think i am a fake, I probably am, lol.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:31:13 AM

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LOL.

Okay submyt, what is your game plan how are you going to eject and reject these douche bags from this day forward??

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:40:19 AM

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and yes, this subbie needs to learn delete delete delete. very true.

Or even ignore, ignore, ignore...that takes even less effort...*wink*

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 9:51:00 AM

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I had the experience of a Dom sending me an email telling me not to DARE look at his profile unless I was going to send an email. He followed with specific orders, then said "Understand?". I wrote back in a friendly style, suggesting that he may want to consider following protocol, and not tell submissives that were not his own what to do. This, of course, was the beginning of the demise of the conversation. He spat back insults about my qualifications and whether I was worth his time. I rebuttaled in kind, stating he has no idea what my qualifications are, or the extent of my knowledge. I should not have, but also made a statement about his lack of social skills. Now he has threatened to "spread the word" throughout the D/s community. I have blocked him, but he has simply written under another name. Any suggestions, besides telling me I'm an idiot, would be most helpful.
Thanks!

This guy is just *made* for dot_bdsm_snark. Post the entire text of his stupidity to a snark community so everyone may enjoy it, and let him know you are doing this and will continue to hold him up for ridicule as long as he continues sending funny stupid stuff your way. Thank him for the good comedy. Yes, that is indeed terribly mean-spirited and sadistic, but it's probably the right answer in this case. He may even learn something about how that kind of "Domly" behavior is generally thought of. Eg, it's so painfully stupid it's funny.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:08:20 AM

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This kind of behavior really makes me wonder. It can't be working for him? What is the upside to being an ass?

can i have two guesses? id say either a cunt or a prick ;)

but seriously, OP, ive tried reporting someone for abuse, i didnt get any help at all.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:09:38 AM

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same sort of thing happened to me....he questioned whether i was even submissive at all.....called me a domme, switch, anything that might have gotten me to question myself. When the badgering didn't work......he blocked me but then emailed me to see whether or not i blocked him. I agree with MontrealPhoenix to just ignore....if you block him, he may feel that he got to you........i didn't block because i am "indifferent" and his opinion and effort to get to me just doesn't work.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:13:19 AM

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Najak that was the most brilliant suggestion I have ever heard. I am going to use it along with the OP advice.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:16:43 AM

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but seriously, OP, ive tried reporting someone for abuse, i didnt get any help at all.

Gotta say this bothers me, there's not much point having ToS if the support for the user base isn't there if they utilise it for protection. Are we back to "brown-bagging" people? Shame to have to police the site as well as use it!

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:17:49 AM

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after mulling over what everyone on here has stated, in particular that reporting does little good, as montreal stated, ignore, ignore, ignore. that should do the trick.

each day we grow and learn just a little more, right?

i sure liked najak's idea, though, to publicly ridicule. i have to say i'll pass on that...as tempting as it may be.

thanks for all your encouragement! sm

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:23:47 AM

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i sure liked najak's idea, though, to publicly ridicule. i have to say i'll pass on that...as tempting as it may be.

Keep in mind that you can't do it here, and there are some ethical guidelines. Eg, don't reveal any personal information, especially anything given to you in confidence. Random sex solicitations from an adult profile with the name DomlyDick9Inches is not considered confidential, but you would not post phone numbers, real names or real email addresses even if those were sent to you in random solicitation. Nor do you snark personal appearance or other things the victim can't actually help or change, with the exception of completely unsolicited dick pictures being fair game for public critique and ridicule. Within those guidelines, snark is an amusing and only slightly rough contact sport.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:29:28 AM

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Oh wow....i love to play with those kind of guys. If you mail me his name i'll make sure i look at his profile daily, just so he knows he's appreciated.

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:44:43 AM

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thank you for the clarification and updated info!

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:50:28 AM

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oh you guys are just reading him wrong - i'm sure he is just misunderstood, and needs all of our help and sympathy. After all - is it for us as subs/slaves to judge doms/master? we should submit to everyone that sends us emails and demands regardless of other commitments and time constraints!!

after all, we are JUST subs/slaves and everyone styling themselves as doms/masters know more, better than we do - especially when it comes to what we need.

You are all exibiting bad thoughts and attitudes, and should go to reeducation classes until further notice!

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:55:59 AM

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Oh Najak you lovely, lovely woman! I'm taking not of that site addie for future reference. Thank you so much!

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RE: Being bullied by Doms - 3/30/2008 10:56:52 AM

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You guys were a fun way to start the day

. Heck I have looked up half the people that post on the boards for no other reason than I liked their signature line. Some people just do not understand the concept of an open site I suppose. And I have never found much use in telling someone they can not do something or giving them orders if I was not in a postion to back it up.

So now this Dom? is the one who looks foolish in front of the community instead of you submyt as he threatened. Which was a pretty damn silly threat. There are too many people on just this site for any one persons opinion to either harm or help you all that much.

Have a great Sunday everyone.

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