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sassysexygirl -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/1/2008 6:20:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ProfJoe

Yes, I think you're probably an attention slut.

That said, what's wrong with that?

I like sluts. If I don't want to give attention, that's my call (or not to call, lol, as the case may be).

I do have a suggestion: don't call. Don't write. Drop off the face of the earth. If he's still interested, he'll call.

"Why haven't you called?" he'll ask.

"You didn't reply," you'll say. "And I decided to spend the time thinking if it was important to me or not."

Let it go from there.

Good luck.
Prof. Joe


greetings everyone
greetings athomesub ~~

all kidding aside, i think this is the best advice so far.  *winks* at ProfJoe - us olders O/ones are good for something eh?

and if you don't hear from him?  i also think you need to get a little be of self-respect.  barring you finding the truth to be something along the lines of "was in a horrible car accident and in a coma for the past week"  He's obviously not giving you what you need.  i left my husband, whom i loved, for that.  He was a Great Man, but not for me.  and there have been other, similar situations where i made the decision to end the relationship.  why? because how can you have a D/s or M/s relatoinship with someone you don't KNOW will be there next week? or won't be consistent? or ???

well wishes,
gemmie



BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/2/2008 10:21:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: HerLord


Also... Didn't I read somewhere that you recently "switched" from Domme/Sub to slave... (if I am wrong plz ignore) So I ask you, what were you thinking when you were alpha? (Domme/Sub= dominant sub... as in no other comes before this one and has rights OVER the others)

 



I believe you are thinking of BloodLuna.. Same avatar.. Different person (I think)..
:)



LadyHugs -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/2/2008 10:39:05 AM)

Dear athomesub, Ladies and Gentlemen;

For me, there is a huge difference between an 'attention vampire' and communicating.

In your terms an 'attention s___'; would mean you would be creating drama, manipulating situations which forces a Dominant to 'address the issue/problem/situation.'  The 'inventing/creating' something in order to gain attention, either through bad behavior and or good behavior.   Hurting yourself as to force the Dominant to pay attention.
It would be similar to a hypochondriac. 

Communication is very healthy and there should be a 'curb' on talking all the time or chatter all the time, to yourself, in space and or to others, to include the Master.  If there is 'meat' to the conversation, then it is fine with me.  However, I do admit that I am bored easily when someone talks just to hear themselves talk.  It forces me to listen for some nugget of real 'meat' of the conversation and or information.  The straight forward is always appreciated, not a huge story that makes the journey to the final point--long and miserable.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs



SailingBum -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/2/2008 11:32:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: petitespitfire64

Just my opinion...but if you want more attention than TWO men are able to give you.....




ehhh 2 girls four times the bullshit ....The bullshit factor has to be squared by the number of girls.  Had a wife and 2 girls my bull shit factor was 9... Go figure

BadOne




Deliena -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/2/2008 1:49:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

quote:

ORIGINAL: HerLord


Also... Didn't I read somewhere that you recently "switched" from Domme/Sub to slave... (if I am wrong plz ignore) So I ask you, what were you thinking when you were alpha? (Domme/Sub= dominant sub... as in no other comes before this one and has rights OVER the others)

 



I believe you are thinking of BloodLuna.. Same avatar.. Different person (I think)..
:)


Ahh - that may explain something :D I am not the same person as BloodLuna - never met and don't know who it was.



HerLord -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/2/2008 2:02:29 PM)

Then My apologies. But the rest of the post should still hold it's own merit.



Prinsexx -> RE: Define "Attention Slut" (4/2/2008 5:18:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: athomesub

I've recently been concerned with my Masters lack of communication. In the beginning of our relationship I heard from him regularly. He visited about once a week and in between there were emails and phone calls. We are both married so I think we understand that sometimes things come up. However, in the last 3 weeks the communication dropped significantly. I've heard from him approximately 2 maybe 3 times and one was a short text message. So I'm wondering--am I an "attention slut". Am I unrealistic in my wants for attention?  In my defense I like the attention because it helps me maintain the connection/bond when we are apart. Too long ( and my definition of too long is a week) without communication and I start to draw back and distance emotionally--especially early in relationships. Yes I guess that is insecurity. I really would like opinions of what you all think is an "attention slut"

Maybe he's 'denying' you. It's a sadistic game that keeps me interested for a while........but in the long term it's just a game like any other and the rules need to be changed.
Now he can justify his extra curricula activities by saying he is denying you as part of his mastery of you but you would have to trust the truthfulness and integirty in that.
In my experience it has sometimes been been simply because the vanilla partner has kicked off and is demanding the attention instead.



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