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Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:01:24 AM   
athomesub


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Status: offline 		I've recently been concerned with my Masters lack of communication. In the beginning of our relationship I heard from him regularly. He visited about once a week and in between there were emails and phone calls. We are both married so I think we understand that sometimes things come up. However, in the last 3 weeks the communication dropped significantly. I've heard from him approximately 2 maybe 3 times and one was a short text message. So I'm wondering--am I an "attention slut". Am I unrealistic in my wants for attention?  In my defense I like the attention because it helps me maintain the connection/bond when we are apart. Too long ( and my definition of too long is a week) without communication and I start to draw back and distance emotionally--especially early in relationships. Yes I guess that is insecurity. I really would like opinions of what you all think is an "attention slut"
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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:04:36 AM   
Luciferica


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Status: offline 		maybe he got bored or busy, have you asked him?

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:05:29 AM   
midgetmafiosa


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Status: offline 		i personally don't think you are an attention slut at all. i demand much more communication than that from all of my relationships. hmmm....maybe i'm an attention slut? i've always been curious about "extra-curricular" relationships, too. where you are both married, do you have the intention of making your committment more serious as time goes on, or is it strictly for play? that may influence the amount of attention, too. i'm just guessing.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:07:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Umm sounds like he may be distancing himself or maybe the newness is wearing off, but there is no point second guessing anything you just have to ask whats going on really, doesnt sound like you are being an attention slut, you are questioning why its changed


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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:12:11 AM   
Deliena


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Status: offline 		I'd say the same as above, not being an attention slut - asking for clarification of a changed situation.  I'm definitely an attention slut, if my Master hasn't texted me in a few hours I start to panic!

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:16:17 AM   
domahpet


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Status: offline 		<<<Huge attention slut!
if i didnt hear from Him 2 or 3 time in 3weeks
id probably implode.
no youre not an attention slut at all.
just call him and ask whats up :)

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:18:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: athomesub

I've recently been concerned with my Masters lack of communication. In the beginning of our relationship I heard from him regularly. He visited about once a week and in between there were emails and phone calls. We are both married so I think we understand that sometimes things come up. However, in the last 3 weeks the communication dropped significantly. I've heard from him approximately 2 maybe 3 times and one was a short text message.


First question that comes to mind is, do both of your spouses know about the new relationship?  Perhaps this is a factor in the sudden communication drop.  Perhaps it is nothing more then life requiring more attention. 
 
I personally think this has less to do with you being an "attention slut" then it seems to be you've found something new and exciting.  Is this your first M/s relationship?  How long have you been seeing this new Dom? 
 
Best thing you can do is ask Him why the sudden change. 
 
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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:23:07 AM   
athomesub


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Status: offline 		In answer to some of the above questions. My husbands know of the relationship--they have met and talked to one another. His wife does not know. And yes I have asked several times what is going on thru text messages and emails but have received no replies. I have called once but got no reply.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:23:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: softpjOS

quote:

ORIGINAL: athomesub

I've recently been concerned with my Masters lack of communication. In the beginning of our relationship I heard from him regularly. He visited about once a week and in between there were emails and phone calls. We are both married so I think we understand that sometimes things come up. However, in the last 3 weeks the communication dropped significantly. I've heard from him approximately 2 maybe 3 times and one was a short text message.


First question that comes to mind is, do both of your spouses know about the new relationship? 



Yeah, that's what I was curious about.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:27:04 AM   
athomesub


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Status: offline 		This is my 2nd M/s relationship and we have only been together for about 3 months. We both want a LTR that goes beyond bedroom play. He has mention several times he would like to collar me.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:29:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		if he is avoiding your calls, i don't think it's becasue he is out shopping for your collar.  sounds to me like something is up, all you can do is ask him.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:29:32 AM   
Daddyslilpookie


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Status: offline 		It sounds to me like the "newness" is wearing off or he is simply not as interested as he was. Talk to him and see where you stand, the one thing that makes a relationship work is communication, bottom line.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:29:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		nothing wrong with being an attention slut!

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:30:08 AM   
Deliena


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Status: offline 		Hmm is anyone else wondering why his wife doesn't know and whether this has something to do with the sudden drop in communication? (maybe I'm just being cynical?)

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:35:41 AM   
athomesub


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all your input. In my last text message--last night--I asked "If I don't hear from you in another week does that mean I'm released?" I haven't gotten an answer but that is what I will assume if I don;t hear from him and I'll just move on.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:51:14 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Or you could move on without his permission.  If he's not responding to you perhaps that's what he wants you to do.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 11:54:18 AM   
lally3


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Status: offline 		would send me nuts too, and id emotionally withdraw aswell.

odd.. does he have any other way of contacting you, maybe his mobile is broken and he cant remember your mobile (sort of thing id do, always losing my mobile) - or worse, his wife has his mobile.  he might be pretending to her that he has no idea who you are... god knows, but to ignore you like this is very harsh.

i really hope you get an answer soon, good luck with it.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 12:10:21 PM   
Deliena


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Status: offline 		I hope you get resolution to this one way or the other and wish you the best of luck.  Some "Masters" really don't seem to understand the responsibility they have to their subs at all.... I honestly wonder what (if anything) goes through their minds!

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 12:45:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think that if a situation has suddenly changed, that it is automatically your fault. You were led to believe that a lot of communication was his preferred style. If it isn't, and he just did that to suck you in, then I would consider that you had been lied to. However since he isn't accusing you of being too needy, that obviously isn't the case.

He must have problems at home that he doesn't want to share. And he has every right to keep the privacy of his family. But I would call and ask him if this situation that is engrossing his attention is likely to resolve itself in a few weeks, or if it will be long term. Simply because expecting you to wait six months for the next contact is inappropriate.

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RE: Define "Attention Slut" - 3/30/2008 12:55:29 PM   
petitespitfire64


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Status: offline 		Just my opinion...but if you want more attention than TWO men are able to give you.....



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