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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 3:29:56 PM   
metalmiss


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Status: offline 		There's no such thing as too nice.. i have known some very sweet Dom's in my time so far.. the fact that they had a soft fluffy centre never made them any less Dominant in my eyes.
Being Dominant doesn't mean that You have to be a hardass.. It takes all sorts.. and amen to that!

Just stay true to yourself & stick with what you are.. You will do just fine! *smiles*


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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 3:43:50 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		My Master is a very nice, laid back kinda guy with a wicked sense of humor.  He's evil when He wants to be evil.... and boy can He be evil!  

He doesn't feel the need to go around posturing and acting like an ass. 

Be yourself and you'll find someone who appreciates you for you.

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 3:49:30 PM   
lronitulstahp


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   Gem, a Dom with a Heart.

  ok...NOBODY else is gonna comment on this??? i just picture this on a business card...lol

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 3:53:38 PM   
Justme696


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just be yourself, that is the only important thing. Beeing nice is a good thing.
It sucks we have a discussion about beeing nice...what happened to the world :P

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 3:57:16 PM   
LadyAngel1


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Status: offline 		I am often called sweet and I'm usually nice to people in general.... plus I have the voice of a little girl.  It just makes it all the better when my wicked tone comes out along with my claws. : )    Perhaps I am too nice for those who are looking for a 24/7 psycho bitch from hell..... but those who want that can cling to their fantasies and I will stick with my own reality.

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 4:06:20 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Yeah, we run up against stereotypes all the time. The last one I got was at a party. It was a new crowd for me, which means I'm quiet and watching. "You seem really quiet for a Dominant," was the comment. My answer? "Well, gee, I'm still a person! This is how I am in a new group of strangers, Dominant or not."

Master Fire


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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 4:42:03 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		Daddy is a wonderful, kind, sweet, loving man.  he's also an evil bastard.  the two parts of him work very nicely together.

he is a gentleman in public, has loudly declared his affection towards me to others (and brought me to tears in doing so!), he is generous as can be....but i never mistake his kindness for weakness, and i DO definitely know who is in charge in our relationship.  he has no issue in raising his hand to me when i tell him i need, or his flogger.  he enjoys being harsh to me as much as he enjoys holding me to him afterwards.

kind does not mean unable to discipline, or unable to punish.  it just means kind.  and there are submissives/slaves out there looking for JUST your type of dominant, absolutely!

kitten

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 5:22:38 PM   
Poetryinpain


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I don't think it's incongruous for a Dom to be "nice." When considering a Dom, I look at both his personality and his character. Character actually has more importance to me than personality. A "nice" Dom who is honest, respectful, and ethical will certainly catch my attention more than a "bastard" Dom who expresses the opposite qualities. I don't look for a "real Dom;" I look for a "real man." And, before anybody jumps me for the "real man" remark, I recognize that each person's definition of "real man" is going to be different.

pip

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 5:37:10 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Ok so where in the Dom handbook does it say you have to be a nasty SOB to be a Dom?  My Master is nice until you cross him or mess whith what is his.  He is 100% Dom he is nice to me and as long as you are nice he will be nice to you too.

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 7:11:41 PM   
Leatherist


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Status: offline 		Why does it matter, who else validates you?

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 7:22:48 PM   
HerLord


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

You'll appeal to a sub who is looking for sweet and nice.  You won't appeal to those looking for evil motherfuckers.  Stay your course and be who you are and you'll find someone who compliments you and your personality.

Best advice there is.
Till then... all you are doing is pulling out the weeds.

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/30/2008 11:48:29 PM   
GoddessTeaze


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ORIGINAL: mastervalentine

Okay, someone said to me the other day, after conversing with me for about a week fairly regularly that I simply come across as being too nice to be dominant.

I answer questions honestly, have reasonable humor and wit, and a deep love of philosophy. I don't bother with posturing or posing. I don't really think I have anything to prove. I am what I am, and that is someone with a great deal of growth to attend to.

In response to a recent post in which I state that I try to treat everyone with respect, because that courtesy costs me nothing, finally I hear; "You're just too nice to be a dom."

I'm getting a good chuckle out of it, I've been accused of being many things. Too nice is actually pretty refreshing.
But I must confess, it has me curious as to what others think of my behavior and attitudes so far. Those that have seen my posts, those that would care to look and give me some kind of response. I'd really appreciate knowing what everyone else thinks.


Be happy in who You're, and don't
ever change for anyone !
No one is the same, and there is someone
out there, who loves the way You're

I wish You enough

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/31/2008 7:42:05 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

You'll appeal to a sub who is looking for sweet and nice.  You won't appeal to those looking for evil motherfuckers.  Stay your course and be who you are and you'll find someone who compliments you and your personality.
I disagree. I think you can be sweet and nice and still be an evil motherfucker. Master and my Dom before him are perfectly polite gentlemen. They say "please", "thankyou" and open doors for me. They're also hardcore sadists.

I'll agree with don't settle. There's someone out there for everyone.

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/31/2008 8:37:39 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I am always a gentleman, even when I have shoved the cum sucking whore face down and am kicking her legs apart in order to more easily rape her asshole.  I always make sure I spit on her little rosebud first as I don't want to hurt her too badly before I thrust my cock home into one of my property's little holes.

I also send her a picture of some newly blossomed flower almost every morning.

I found my balance, I am sure you will find yours.

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RE: Am I "too nice to be a dom"? - 3/31/2008 9:41:49 AM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		My post to you was unnecessary...very...
 
I apologize...
 

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