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RE: Is Desperation Taboo. if so. why? - 3/31/2008 6:15:47 PM

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Desperate isn't taboo, in my opinion anyway. Desperate is a big red flag. Desperate means nobody else wants you or you don't think you can do very well. Desperate is also insulting - if you are desperate and you think I'm low enough on the totem pole of dating to be with you... well I've got news for ya, I'm not.

I've been with desperate people. There was usually a good reason why they were desperate and now I stay clear of them.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 3/31/2008 6:17:33 PM >

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RE: Is Desperation Taboo. if so. why? - 4/1/2008 1:10:39 PM

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thank you too all. especially the dark and hopelesslyinvo. i have gained some food for thought.

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RE: Is Desperation Taboo. if so. why? - 4/1/2008 2:37:29 PM

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Desperation is something i find very unappealing in a potential partner.. Especially as when i seek i am looking for partners of a Dominant nature. Desperation in my experience is a sign of somebody who is insecure about themselves & also theres the chance they might be saying anything in the hope it will make things more likely to go their way.. i tip towards the other end of the scale and much, much prefer confidence in a potential partner. Because if they can't be confident about themselves why should i have any confidence in them?

In answer to the second part of your question, i do find a Dominant attractive who isn't afraid to show His emotional side. i like a Man who is prepared to actually be honest about whats going on inside. But if it was a constant thing it would be overwhelming & stifling to me.. i like a Man who is capable of showing His feelings, but i wouldn't say doing so to the point of vulnerability is attractive to me.

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