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RE: Punishment - Do you prefer sooner or later? - 4/1/2008 9:17:08 AM

DiurnalVampire

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What about others? If you know that you have a punishment coming would you prefer to get it over with right away or put it off? And why?

If I am trying to correct something, waiting until the action that needs correction is long gone is pointless. I prefer to wait until I am no longer angry (assuming the transgression made me angry) but not much after that. No point letting someone ponder what they did, wonder about the outcome... faster cause and effect means the behavior is corrected without being justified to death and argued. If given long enough, most of the time an argument can be made for why something was done. I dont want to argue it, if it was something punishable, it will be punished.

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RE: Punishment - Do you prefer sooner or later? - 4/1/2008 9:25:55 AM

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With me the punishment all works out best in the end if it is done quickly. Obviously it is not up to me and is not about my preferences, but I know if I have done something requiring a punishment then I will be punishing myself for it also, a girl beating herself up about something for days on end is hardly going to be pleasing to her Owner and so the most productive method is to punish me quickly, re-educate the behaviour that was undesirable, and then move on to where I can be pleasing and He can be pleased.

I have to question the motivation behind stringing out punishments..in the same way I question Dominants who set up situations where a submissive will fail in order to be able to have an excuse to punish. If the dynamic is one where the Dominant is only happy and contented (or even dare i say it "Domly" and fulfilled) when in active punishment mode then I see an unbalanced dynamic - unless obviously the submissive loves being naughty and in the wrong. I hate being in the wrong and displeasing .. HATE it...I was once with someone where it felt every 5minutes I was messing up, he was actively looking for reasons to punish me ..i couldn'tcope with it and the relationship fizzled out. If you want to beat me... just beat me... I'll enjoy it and then we can *both* get what we want ...dress it up as punishment .. and then its just being dishonest.

A good Dominant will quickly work out what method and time frame for punishment it going to work best for you in your relationship. Trust you good Dominant

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RE: Punishment - Do you prefer sooner or later? - 4/1/2008 10:04:22 AM

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I did not read the other responses. Foe me i would rather get it over and done with then have it hanging over my head. Master seems to like to hold it over my head for little while. A lot of the time i get it when i have earned it though.

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RE: Punishment - I prefer not at all - 4/1/2008 2:20:29 PM

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I don't do punishment. You are not going to bring out my submission with fear of punishment. Love and respect is what brings out my submission. I do want to know if I have disappointed or screwed up, but I will either use my self-discipline and my desire to please or we have an issue that is deeper than the mistake.

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