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mnottertail -> The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/3/2005 8:32:21 PM)

Just been thinking, you know the I am all alone, I am the only one that feels this...........

Two things for sure on this site that deep deep down, I felt I only knew or felt or thought.....and found out I wasn't alone.

piss-shivers (I thought I was the only one who ever had one of those)

and a guy that when he was a kid wanted to flood the basement to have a place to swim and fish.

What other kinda stuff did people find out that was not all unique?

Ron




brightspot -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/3/2005 9:01:03 PM)

There are a lot of things for me, but I guess the most
life enriching was that I was not the only lesbian in the world[:)].


*Brightspot




Quivver -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/4/2005 5:20:27 AM)

I wonder how long it's gonna take to fill the basement?

[8D] Q



quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Just been thinking, you know the I am all alone, I am the only one that feels this...........

Two things for sure on this site that deep deep down, I felt I only knew or felt or thought.....and found out I wasn't alone.

piss-shivers (I thought I was the only one who ever had one of those)

and a guy that when he was a kid wanted to flood the basement to have a place to swim and fish.

What other kinda stuff did people find out that was not all unique?

Ron





JohnWarren -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/4/2005 5:49:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Just been thinking, you know the I am all alone, I am the only one that feels this...........



Shrinks have a word for this. They call it "pluralistic ignorance." It's the thing that keeps people from exploring their fantasies and keeps dictatorships in power.

The solution is communications. When we share our needs and desires, we often discover that people aren't all that different.

This was one of the major incentives for me to begin writing. When I decided to write Loving Dominant, I strongly remembered the times when I was literally in terror, wondering "what was I going to become."

I "came into this" at a time when the serious psychological works had taken their cue from Kraft Ebbing’s Psychopathica Sexualis and roundly predicted that anyone who did this sort of stuff was bound, in a few years, to be stuffing dead bodies into trunks and writing missives with human blood. This, I probably don’t need to be telling you, that wasn’t good for my peace of mind.

It didn’t help that this was before the days of open stacks in academic libraries. The procedure in those days was for a student to submit a slip with the call numbers of books he wanted to read. Not only was there more than a bit of paranoia in telling the powers that be you wanted to read about violent perversion, but those books were on a “closed list” and you had to have permission from a psych professor even to look at them. Fortunately, this was also before the days of burglar alarms in college libraries. It’s amazing how much more credible pure bullshit sounds when you are reading it by the light of a penlight clutched in your teeth.

Things are better now




NakedOnMyChain -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/5/2005 1:05:43 AM)

I actually tried to flood the basement once so that I could go swimming. Fortunately Mom caught me about thirty seconds into it. Anyway, there have been so many things I though I was all alone in. I can't think of specific examples right now, but if one pops in my head I'll let y'all know.




maleah -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/5/2005 12:09:01 PM)

Finding out that the little girl in me wasn't something that I only felt. It's amazing how free I feel knowing others are like me and that I found a Daddy that loves the child inside me and wants it to fully come out and play. [:)]




kisshou -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/5/2005 8:38:52 PM)

If you asked me to name a song, the song I name would have lyrics that contain a direct reflection of how I am feeling at the moment.

(in other words)

I used to tell people 'if you want to know how I feel , listen to what I am singing.'

I have always felt all alone in this wierdness but I have found so many other things in common with other CM folk , I wonder if there is someone out there who does that also.




ZandD -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/6/2005 6:13:32 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kisshou

If you asked me to name a song, the song I name would have lyrics that contain a direct reflection of how I am feeling at the moment.

(in other words)

I used to tell people 'if you want to know how I feel , listen to what I am singing.'

I have always felt all alone in this wierdness but I have found so many other things in common with other CM folk , I wonder if there is someone out there who does that also.


Well, kisshou, not EXACTLY the same thing, but I love to try to find music that reflects my feelings in the different stages and colors in my life. I have them broken down into loose mental catagories too. I have my "love or romance" music, my "I'm bored" music, my "confidence" music, my "I'm lost" music, my "I'm lonely" music, my "Protest" music and so on.

I don't listen to music to generate that feeling, rather to coincide with the feeling. I always like finding that one song that can precisely mirror what I feeling. That in itself is a rush. I feel like someone out there has felt that too, which is quite comforting.

This practice is more of a hobby than an obsession, but it's fun for me. I guess it's my own way of coping and putting a few things into perspective. It's also good for dancing!

Z




NakedOnMyChain -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/11/2005 4:07:58 PM)

Is it bad then that I have "Mad World" by Tears for fears stuck in my head? It always makes me so sad. I need to learn not to watch "Donnie Darko" too much.




pinkpleasures -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/12/2005 2:11:32 PM)

That i wasn't bad or inadequate merely because i felt submissive.

pinkpleasures




kisshou -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/12/2005 8:02:02 PM)

If the lyrics to that song are a reflection of how you feel most of the time I would be concerned. I have not heard the song but I read the lyrics , it sounded like a description of someone who felt trapped with nothing to look forward to.

I have learned to turn my weird song habit into something that helps me keep in touch of my feelings. It is a way of letting my subconscious have a voice.

I would love for someone else to try it for a few days and see if it is the same for them.




BalletBob -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/12/2005 9:07:27 PM)

Well years ago, I thought I was the only GUY who likes to wear Leotards and Tights. I even Purged, and then regretted it...since I still liked them, and they cost me a pretty penny..and then when I foound out I wasn't the only one, it cost me some to replace them, and then I couldn't get the neat styles I had back then...in 1972-73.

Just a couple years ago, I discovered "MARY JANES", but thank goodnes for the computer age and internet, I know I am not alone. In fact, it seems to me, that there are more men are wearing them in hiding...and some outside, compared to the numner of females wearing them.

It might sound a little off for some of you, but that's how I feel...I was alone, but NOT NOW !

BalletBob




girl4you2 -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/16/2005 3:44:19 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
That i wasn't bad or inadequate merely because i felt submissive.
pinkpleasures


a very good feeling to have, that there were others who felt the same way, and it was okay. that was how it was for me as well.




lonewolf05 -> RE: The alone/not alone in the world thing (10/25/2005 8:50:17 PM)

actually? i have-to report as yet--------in my last 42 yrs..since age 10..
"I" have YET to find 1 single thing i am NOT unique in...in general daily life.

i am normally 99.99% THEE exception...and i make SO many people mad at me coz of it.

and to you my friend...just coz i like talking with ya;

"nicht alles ist wunderbar"

wolf




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