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RE: Love connection!! - 3/31/2008 2:39:08 PM

FlamingRedhead

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I took a look at your profile, and you say you're looking for your other self. However, in this forum thread, you state you'll never love again because your deceased wife is still the love of your life. I can see where she thought there might be a possibility for more than living a BDSM fantasy life with you and then was rudely awakened to the fact that you're not ready for a serious relationship. Whether or not she is really in love with you is hard to tell from 1 line in an email. That being said, it could be that she's just infatuated with you; there's always the possibility that this is just "dom love." Irregardless of whether she knows you're not right for her, she may be trying to hold onto you for just a little longer because you're fulfilling at least part of her needs, i.e. the kinky ones. My advice is to take a good look at yourself and what you're ready for, and then, have a heart to heart talk with her to find out if your needs and hers are the same. If not, the best thing for both of you is to go your separate ways, and you might want to reconsider what your profile says.....

< Message edited by FlamingRedhead -- 3/31/2008 3:15:29 PM >

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RE: Love connection!! - 3/31/2008 2:48:25 PM

ChemistryMaster1

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Okay.... I heatily thank you all for your openion on the matter I presented and I do apologize for not taking the time to review what I was typying that led to a much bigger confusion, yet I want you ato know that all your point of views are highly appreciated. and as for kneeling again, no it didnt happen yet. As for my Love! yes I am still in love with my deceased wife. I also divorced several women... six times and more to come. Yes she deserves more than what am willing to give at the moment and I think I got the right answer after all... to leave her alone and if she decides to take what am offering which is very little then she may get another chance.

Again thank you.

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RE: Love connection!! - 3/31/2008 4:16:29 PM

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I'm glad you came to a conclusion about this particular submissive. What worries me is the fact that you marry and divorce at such a fast rate. Seven marriages and 6 divorces at the age of 37 is more than the average. It seems that you don't give much thought to the implications of what you are doing when you marry. You also don't seem to take marriage seriously since you say you have "more to come."

I'd suggest you take a year off from any kind of dating. Do some soul searching. Try to decide what you seek in life. Become comfortable being just you, without a woman at your side. Discover why you have felt the need to marry 7 different women in a relatively short amount of time. Learn to enjoy the person who is you.

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RE: Love connection!! - 3/31/2008 5:12:15 PM

ChemistryMaster1

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Yes, I agree with you 110% .

If My first was still alive, non of that would have happened.

I seek Royalty in Love and all my former wives did Love me n will always do.

Am not superman or batman or whatever, I am Just a Man.

There is a difference between Former and Ex...... Former if you leave on good terms in code of conduct and Ex if you leave on bad terms.

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RE: Love connection!! - 3/31/2008 6:06:49 PM

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It sounds like she's trying to tell you that she loves you and she needs you to love her back. That she needs you not to be afraid of love anymore.

Did you make it clear you would never care about her? Did you tell her you were too afraid of losing someone else to ever open up and trust again? And I wonder how you can possibly help anyone else face their fears when you can't face yours.

You could go looking for someone else, but you'll hit this same wall over and over. You still have grief work to do, you need help doing it. Call Hospice and ask for grief therapists in your area. You say that you loved your wife, is this what you would want if it had been you who had died? Would you have wanted her never to feel loved again? To have meaningless sex only? Do you really believe this is what she wanted for you? I know it hurts, but you need to heal. Good luck.

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RE: Love connection!! - 3/31/2008 7:31:51 PM

ChemistryMaster1

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With all due respect, I state that to me love is not just a word a person may utter/ type in a letter; it is more of an action of Love and not action of lust. To be able to cherish someone in your heart even after their death is NOT a fear/weakness, It is a blessing/ strength that many don’t have in our daily busy life, and believe me so many worry so much about life to a point that they forget to really live. I will not manipulate /humiliate/force a lady into anything period and if she choose to come into my life, it will be by choice. Shrink or not I am so proud of who I am. I so very interested in the lifestyle and will do what I can to find self first which is located within my other self. Thank you for taking the time to reply, I heartily appreciate it.

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