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Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 1:07:36 AM

Ramar

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A question - I believe a session should involve all 5 senses – of touch, sight, sound, smell and taste. That is when u can fully enjoy it. For a Dom, the first 3 of touch sight and sound is always natural and can be achieved without much problem. However when it comes to taste and smell, I am concerned that Doms might have a problem ? I mean for me se is more fulfilling if I can feel her smell and taste all her erogenous and most intimate body parts. However, while doing it, I do get the strange feeling of some ‘submission’ of ‘going down’ while doing it. Even the phrase for it is ‘going down’ into her. Essentially in a physical positioning, this makes the Dom’s body below hers in general and thus somewhat not “Top” ? Is this uncomfortable ? but I do need these 2 very sensuous sensations for fulfillment. Have anyone felt the same and what answers have you arrived at please share them here ?

Warm Regards

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 1:10:19 AM

Lynnxz

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So tie her up before you do it or something.

Don't avoid doing something because you feel it messes up your label. >.>

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 3:59:21 AM

Justme696

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Even the phrase for it is ‘going down’ into her.

don't worry about all the words, enjoy it. Just think about the fact the sub beeing there for you in that situation makes you the Dom(me)

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 4:20:07 AM

DesFIP

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If it's your choice to do it, then it's a dominant action. If she's ordering you to, then it's submissive. Intent makes the difference, not the activity.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 4:30:45 AM

Griswold

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ramar

A question - I believe a session should involve all 5 senses – of touch, sight, sound, smell and taste. That is when u can fully enjoy it. For a Dom, the first 3 of touch sight and sound is always natural and can be achieved without much problem. However when it comes to taste and smell, I am concerned that Doms might have a problem ? I mean for me se is more fulfilling if I can feel her smell and taste all her erogenous and most intimate body parts. However, while doing it, I do get the strange feeling of some ‘submission’ of ‘going down’ while doing it. Even the phrase for it is ‘going down’ into her. Essentially in a physical positioning, this makes the Dom’s body below hers in general and thus somewhat not “Top” ? Is this uncomfortable ? but I do need these 2 very sensuous sensations for fulfillment. Have anyone felt the same and what answers have you arrived at please share them here ?

Warm Regards

Have her stand on her hands.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 5:26:21 AM

dryon29

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gravity boots? inversion table?

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 6:30:36 AM

BRNaughtyAngel

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My body is for Him to use in whatever way He desires.

I actually feel somewhat uncomfortable with Him going down on me, and from what I've read on here, that isn't an uncommon reaction from some submissive females. I am slowly getting more comfortable with it....... first, because He enjoys it and second, because He is always in control.

And if I ever have any doubt that He is doing exactly what He wants, I am reminded when He bites down hard on my inner thighs!

OMG is that painful!

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 6:34:15 AM

LadyLynx

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could it be, that she doesn't feel comfortable combining play with sex? What has she said on the subject?

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 7:56:31 AM

Venatrix

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I love performing oral sex on men and it's never once crossed my mind that I'm not dominant. It's my opinion that people who worry about what constitutes "dominant behaviour" probably aren't very secure. So, don't worry about it.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 8:03:09 AM

adoracat

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ramar

A question - I believe a session should involve all 5 senses – of touch, sight, sound, smell and taste. That is when u can fully enjoy it. For a Dom, the first 3 of touch sight and sound is always natural and can be achieved without much problem. However when it comes to taste and smell, I am concerned that Doms might have a problem ? I mean for me se is more fulfilling if I can feel her smell and taste all her erogenous and most intimate body parts. However, while doing it, I do get the strange feeling of some ‘submission’ of ‘going down’ while doing it. Even the phrase for it is ‘going down’ into her. Essentially in a physical positioning, this makes the Dom’s body below hers in general and thus somewhat not “Top” ? Is this uncomfortable ? but I do need these 2 very sensuous sensations for fulfillment. Have anyone felt the same and what answers have you arrived at please share them here ?

Warm Regards

*snorts delicately* Daddy loves the smell and taste of me. and so he goes south on a VERY regular basis!

his view is that he is in control of my orgasms with him, no matter HOW i get them. if he says i get to orgasm, why do i need to dictate that he cant give them in any fashion he desires? wouldnt that be topping from the bottom?

now, i will say that there are times i cant deal with recieving oral sex. that's because of past abuse issues and he knows about it. on those occasions, he does something else, and its ok for me to tell him "i cant deal with that today, Daddy". my emotional health is more important to him that the things he likes to do to me.

so absolutely, you enjoy your submissive/slave however YOU wish to. you're the dominant, therefore you're right, yes? *said very tongue-in-cheek*

kitten, whose Daddy says "Daddy is all about the love"

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 8:06:32 AM

SimplyMichael

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Real dominates don't go down on women, you flip them upside down and eat them that way.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 8:08:38 AM

DiurnalVampire

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If you are worried about your body being below her and then not being on top in the literal sense, then you are overanalyzing the even and not just enjoying yourself.
Lay your girl on her back, straddle her waist, with your back to her face, and the go down on her. You wil be on top, and holding her in place with your body. Is that more dominant acceptable for you? Same activity, differnt position.

However, I agree with the others, it is not where you are, its who is leading. Intent, not excecution, makes an action dominant. I can be on the bottom, Fox on the top during sex and there is never a question as to whom is which role.
DV

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 8:11:43 AM

sirsholly

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the only way taste and smell is bad is if it involves my cooking

holly...who has no control over the way Hamburger Helper smells and is getting pissed about taking the blame

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 8:35:36 AM

DragonLady5

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Try Chicken Helper instead. It tastes like chicken. *snicker*

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 8:51:01 AM

Lynnxz

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirsholly

the only way taste and smell is bad is if it involves my cooking

holly...who has no control over the way Hamburger Helper smells and is getting pissed about taking the blame

lmao

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 11:49:04 AM

BossyShoeBitch

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Real dominates don't go down on women, you flip them upside down and eat them that way.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 11:56:49 AM

MrThorns

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I enjoy incorporating as many senses as possible into my more deliberate scenes, but I have never had any issues with smell or taste. I can smell the leather from my toys, clothing or her restraints. I can smell the perfume that I instructed her to wear. I can taste the salt of her skin as my tongue explores her flesh.. or the coppery taste of her blood as I draw it into my mouth..the taste of her tears are also very nice.

Of course, I also enjoy giving oral... I'm just an Evil Fuck while I do it.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 12:14:10 PM

Shawn1066

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This slave belives that it good slave duty to love taste and smell of OWHNER. wut else is slave good 4/ she doesn't know wut U/u think...

DV's sluttoybitchwhoreboygirlslave

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 12:18:38 PM

Pyrrsefanie

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I'm hypersensitive to smell... basically I'm a human bloodhound. My nose picks up things on average a couple minutes before it hits everyone else.

So smell during play? It'd better be a good one and not ball-sweat or anything gross or else I quite literally will vomit. This is why I no longer have a dog.

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RE: Taste and Smell - bad for Doms ? - 4/1/2008 12:44:42 PM

CreativeDominant

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I agree that sight and taste and smell and touch and sound are all wonderful when playing with a submissive.

I'm not sure I share your concern for it being somehow submissive to participate in taste and smell. How is it submissive if:

I tie her up and can take my time spreading her pussy and inspecting it, running my tongue from the clit as far back as I choose, whether it be the bottom of the pussy or the slightly bony tip of her tailbone or anywhere in-between? She did not tell me to do it...though she may've asked...and it was my decision as to whether or not to do so.
I don't tie her up but tell her to stand over me and feed herself to me? From this position I can look up and watch as she tries to maintain her balance as my fingers knead and probe asscheeks and pussy and ass as my tongue moves over her, as I use my goatee to touch her and tease her.
I don't tie her up but lay her down and by using the humiliation aspect of it, tell her to spread herself wide like the slut she is for my tongue, my fingers, my face? When I tell her that the only movement she can make is in reaction to what I do but not to stop me?

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