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Aubre -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 7:25:47 AM)
If someone is fat, believe me they know it. You don't have to tell them. "You're fat!" "Really? I thought it was an optical illusion." Bill Engvall's "Here's your sign." comes to mind.

daddysblondie -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 7:26:30 AM)
Nope. In fact, I was a bit upset about the fact that I had gained weight recently. Daddy responded by telling me i couldn't eat sweets (my weakness) until i got down to a weight i was happy with.

petitespitfire64 -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 7:37:08 AM)
Umm..are you hoping for one of those "sit on my face and I'll guess your weight" games?

blissy -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 7:47:34 AM)
im not sure i understand this...if a Dom/Domme thinks His/Her sub is 'fat' (i hate that word..) surely He/She would think enough about them to use subtle tactical ways to maybe show they are not at their best...im thinking actions speak louder than words and a Dom/Domme surely brings out the best in the sub so no mattter their size they feel beautiful & sexy anyway(if not then why would He/She choose the sub in the first place?) , so therefore lying shouldnt even enter into it...good grief, i know what im trying to say but somewhere between my brain thinking it and my fingers typing it it just aint coming out the way i imagined it would... sorry[sm=banghead.gif]

ChemistryMaster1 -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 7:48:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petitespitfire64 Umm..are you hoping for one of those "sit on my face and I'll guess your weight" games? Very good observation!! you got 10 points for this one.

gypsygrl -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 8:40:20 AM)
quote: Will a Dom/Master lie to his/her Sub to make him/her feel better about his/ her weight? Why does the term "weight problem" imply overweight? I've lost a lot of weight in the past couple years, none of which was planned. I was happy with my curves before they went away and don't feel I'm at my best right now. I have no hips, my clothes hang on me and my boobs are a mere saggy shadow of what they used to be. I'm at a size 7 and am jealous of women who come in around a 14 or so. I felt my sexiest at that size and miss it. I think the fact that much of my weight loss coincided with a very hard time in my life where I simply didn't have the resources to take care of myself contributes to my dissatisfaction. There's a big difference between having too much food and not having enough or having the food and not being able to eat it. I know Master likes larger women. Hell, I like larger women. But, I also know he likes me the way I am, though sometimes he jokes about fattening me up. He does encourage me to buy clothes that show off my body and I appreciate that because I know, objectively, there's nothing wrong with it and I'm at a healthy weight. I think it would bother me if I thought he would lie about these things just to make me feel better although I can't imagine what there would be to lie about: I know what size I am, I know how much I weigh, I know I look fine. I just miss my curves.

Poetryinpain -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 9:00:42 AM)
I wouldn't much like it if a Dom lied to me about my appearance. I know what I weigh, and I know what I should weigh, and I know the two aren't equal at this time. But I have a doctor and a dietitian telling me I'm not at my ideal weight, so I wouldn't much like it if a Dom made an issue of it as well. That being said, I would like it if the Dom asked me to tell him what the doctor or dietitian said, and if he helped me follow the dietary plan set out for me. I would also like his encouragement as I get closer to the ideal. I would like a Dom who likes me at the weight that is healthiest for me, rather than a particular size he has in his mind as being ideal. pip, following her diet

Daddyslilpookie -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 9:37:39 AM)
If my Master lied to me about anything I would be very upset. About my weight though I would be extremely upset because I have had an eating problem before where I was anorexic, if he told me I was fat now he would be nuts because I workout really hard and eat healthy bottomline. You have to eat some fat daily or it will get stored and not burn off.

DesFIP -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 9:46:39 AM)
Better if he doesn't get involved with someone he isn't attracted to as is. The Man doesn't tell me I don't need to lose weight and I don't tell him that either. He tells me I'd be physically stronger if I were actively exercising every day just like I tell him he'd have less trouble with his asthma if he'd drop some weight(and remember his Claritin). The difference is that in the meantime we still can't keep our hands off each other.

LilMissHaven -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 9:58:56 AM)
Lying even about something as small as one's weight can destroy a relationship, especially one that focuses on a high level of trust as this lifestyle does. But, the use of tact would probably get better results then just blurting out "Here fatty fatty" at least it would with me.

Dnomyar -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 10:30:48 AM)
LilMissHaven I like that you kept your sense of humor.

LilMissHaven -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:21:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar LilMissHaven I like that you kept your sense of humor. [:D] I try!! New pic? I like it! When J started packing on unhealthy pounds. I simply started preparing his meals in a more healthy manner. I didn't feel the need to say anything he was still the same man inside just at a higher risk of a heart attack.

softness -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:36:15 AM)
Always be honest with your partner... telling lies creates cracks in the foundations of your relationship.. never good if you plan to build a up a power exchange upon it. Now I carry some extra padding around ...I have noticed this as there are such things as eyes, mirrors and school yard bullies in the world .. I dont like being big, but hell .. I do LOVE to eat (for a variety of reasons) .. I would adore to be toned and svelte (sp?) .. and basically Kelly Brooke .. but I know I am not. If I was with someone who ignored my being over weight, or pretended I wasn't... I would lose all respect for him, very quickly, and question his powers of sight and touch I am with someone who is helping me do something postive about my weight, He has done it without being cruel, or bullying ... or making me feel ugly, and He has also always been honest about my body and how He views it. If anything I am harsher about how I look than He is. For the first time I am on a diet that actually isn't a constant battle, and its thanks to Him, its another thing in the long list of things ... that makes me see He is a good choice for me.(although it has to be said ... my rack is entirely due to my high calorie diet and its going to be a sad loss to the world when the diet kills it- I am also comfortingly informed.. that this is why God invented plastic surgeons) Be honest, be fair, and be constructive. If she has a problem with her weight and you want something done about it, help her ... dont just say "Oi Fatty ... lose the lard or you're ditched" ...Sit down and help her, however most practical, to deal with her weight in a positve way

Aileen1968 -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:38:34 AM)
When I ask if my ass looks fat in this outfit, his answer better be "No way babe!"

softness -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:43:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 When I ask if my ass looks fat in this outfit, his answer better be "No way babe!" a boy I was with once answered "yes" to that question I believe he is still being fed through a tube

MissSCD -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:46:00 AM)
*First of all, we are not all Barbie dolls. I have weight issues all my life.* *My own family has called me names at some point or another. This result in anorexia at 24 and now I am double the weight size.* *I don't know about Dom's. I know I try hard not to judge people at all.* *A fowl mouth person upsets me more than weight.* *Regards, MissSCD*

LilMissHaven -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:48:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 When I ask if my ass looks fat in this outfit, his answer better be "No way babe!" Aileen you kill me...Since I want an honest answer I never ask what I don't want the answer to.

Laro -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 11:58:31 AM)
I'll change the her apperance to make her my in my image of perfection. My image may or may not be yours and I don't prejudge what you may like. I want to maximize her apperance using what natural gifts she already possess. Curvy women can be corseted to accecuntate the swell and flares she already has. I never try and make a St. Bernard into a greyhound.....I do controlthe diet though, both for health and apperance........

LadyRainfire -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 12:02:17 PM)
And weight (whether heavy or light) is genetics. Most of the women in my family have struggled with it. The men interestingly enough just say "screw it" and don't care, unless the wives do something about it. The harshest person on me about my weight is me, and I know it. If anyone lied to me about it, I would have serious issues with them. Honesty is a massive thing with me. I joke that I have a near-fetish about it after a very bad incident a few years back. I'm honest upfront with others, why wouldn't they be the same? Or does it not work that way? [&:]

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Weight problem (4/1/2008 12:06:06 PM)
I wouldn't to My subby about her weight, if it was an issue for her I'd tell her the truth -carefully- and -sensitively-. Having said that, I'd take steps to make sure it was never an issue-lead by example and make sure I was eating with thought for My own health/weight.

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