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SteelofUtah -> RE: Dealing with wannabe Doms and their "switches" (4/4/2008 9:29:49 AM)
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ORIGINAL: EbonyPhoenix68
I gave some thought to a conversation I had with a fellow Dominant about wannabe Doms and their switches and after what he told me, it made me wonder how many of them are allowed to get away with the things they do. Case in point: My friend was asked by a Dom and his switch to help them train a slave for their household, unaware that their intentions for her were dishonest in that once she arrived to them, they took control of her money, restricted her from contacting any of her friends on the internet or by phone as well as keeping her from going outside of my friend's home, claiming that it was for his protection as well as hers. What's even more disturbing is this couple also restricted her from any sexual contact whatsoever as well as not being allowed to scene with my friend, claiming that it was part of her training in terms of detoxing some of her alleged past behavior from her previous owners. After a he had a conversation with the switch, which degraded not only some of his friends as well as boasting about her own BDSM group, he decided that this situation was not beneficial to him nor the slave, given that they offered to mentor him (which was not needed as he already had one) as well as a position in their house as a "major domo" which would have meant giving up his own life to live in their dungeon with the same restrictions. He also learned that this same couple doesn't practice safe, sane and consensual play as far as using safewords to say nothing of having no compassion nor love for anyone but themselves.
After listening to this story, I felt that were I in the same position, I would have done as he did by disassociating from them based on their negative actions, behavior and character. Even more so, I'd advise him to be very careful of who he gets mixed up with if their intentions are dishonorable. With all this in mind, what's your take on this situation?
Okay I had to shrink your original post a little.
Now the actions of the Dom/Switch couple were Monsterous! That is without question.
I am concerned though that the sub stayed with them as long as he did being offered "Major domo" under the conditions you related. I am curious as to how he could have gotten INTO such a situation and STAYED in the situation when it was apparently eventually easy to leave the situation.
I am not saying thay the behavior of the couple was exagerated BUT I have to ask the question, How much of it was actually how it happned and not how it was Interpereted.
I have heard MANY horror stories and I have learned there are Three sides to every story, "Your's, Mine, and the TRUTH" and the Three Rarely look or sound the same.
I think casting all the balme on the couple is a little off because in this country slavery is illegal so all he had to do was say "NO" and pick up the Phone and dial 3 numbers if they refused.
Steel
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