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devil1963 -> would you or not ? ? (4/1/2008 8:08:31 PM)
If any of you subs out there felt that you could see a Dom you may like would you send him/her an email ? I wonder if you may miss out or indeed the Dom may miss out on what or who the best thing could be for them. As a Dom I have no problems with getting an email from a sub that wishes to show his/her interest. What about you other Dom's ?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/1/2008 8:17:48 PM)
Some do, some don't. Go with whatever style works best for you, since that will attract the people who work best with you. Everyone has to say yes at some point, so who says it first is only a formality.

chamberqueen -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/1/2008 8:18:01 PM)
When I was still an active Mistress I often got at least 40 emails a day, plus people subscribing to my journal. That's the reason for Collar Me, isn't it? To make contact easier?

underhisthumb -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/1/2008 8:21:48 PM)
If I was not already collared, certainly. I would be respectful as I am even now when sending an email, whether it be to a sub or a Dom/me. We are all humans, and I would think as a Dom/me, it would be a little frustrating to always have to initiate contact. That beiing said, if I did email someone and they reproached me just for doing so, I would have to second guess their intentions and wonder if they aren't just here to play mindgames or some such.

madshysoul -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/1/2008 8:23:36 PM)
Well I would say that emailing people you are interested in would rather be the point of CollarMe... at least for those who are actively looking...no?

colouredin -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 12:16:59 AM)
I cmail everyone, Doms subs switches etc I dont see why I shouldnt, I always have done, if someones profile makes me laugh or think or whatever I mail them to say so, i guess thats because thats the kind of message I like to get.

Focus50 -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 2:40:38 AM)
The only emails I write are in reply to (mostly) fem/subs who have written to me.... I haven't written a first contact email in over a year and, unless it's someone local and interesting, I probably won't again. I yousta put the time and effort in to writing sincere, individual letters (NO form letters) but there came a point where I grew tired of not even getting a simple "no thanks" reply from fem/subs.... So as far as seeking online is concerned, I'm no longer ISO (in search of) - but I'm still here to be "found".... lol Is it possible I might miss that special someone because of my choices? Of course it is, but such is life - accepting consequences is an integral part of making choices and decisions. And when the alternative is to mostly get ignored, it becomes a "no brainer".... Focus.

blissy -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 2:50:02 AM)
when i first joined Cm i was really nervous & shy, i never messaged anyone, then after a while i got fed up with waiting & figured the worst One could do is mail me back with a disciplinary mail if i did wrong or said something wrong so i bit the bullet & just started messaging a few Doms with a nice 'hello, how are You today?' mail... i was surprised at the response and contrary to what ive read on here, most of Y/you are actually nice, normal people lol.[:D]

HardToTame -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 2:57:36 AM)
I email some people. I'm not looking for anything more than discussion though so I email people if their profile seems intelligent. Mind you I'm new. Intelligent and fun people. And I don't mean sexually. I'm trying to grasp an understanding from people who, don't so much take this as a lifestyle but are wanting to communicate with people on the same level, as people into BDSM, not as a Dominatrix or a Slave. Kind of like, how if you like Rock music for example, you want to speak to other people into Rock music. Thats why I came here, and so if I don't e-mail then, what was the point of coming here?

hydranmenace -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 3:07:49 AM)
I have gotten a few "out of the blue" messages, and replied to them in a friendly manner. So far everyone I have exchanged messages with have been interesting and fun to talk to. If a sub is going to message me there's nothing wrong with that. If you're a Dom/me on CM aren't you essentially saying you want to be contacted? You have given de-facto permission to be contacted by creating a profile here.

Indemnis -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 3:21:05 AM)
Before I met my current Dominant-type-man-friend, I was always sending messages out to Doms. Wether I thought he was attractive, or liked their interests, or thought we'd get on well, or simply wanted to tease them a little about something. Not all sub-types are the super-shy eggshell walkin' types (not to offend those who are, whatever floats your boat.). Some of us are fiesty and spunky, make our own decisions, and can even get downright goofy. At the drop of a hat. I say, why wait around like a frightened little kitten waiting for the right person to just send us a message, yaknow? You're not gonna find someone you think is compatible (or more accurately, your chances of such are greatly diminished) unless you speak up a bit.

HardToTame -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 3:37:31 AM)
You worded my thoughts beautifully... Mind if I send you a e-mail? [:D] No I'm kidding. But I completely agree. It's a place to, discuss and share thoughts and views with people who share a common interest, and that is, well, THIS, all of this. Oh and lets not forget, it's great for a perve [:D] no, no. But, even just communicating with people as, distant friends, can be immensley worthwhile. It might be that you are sub, and your browsing and you find another sub who you think is smart, and, funny etc. You might make a great new friend. You might not get anything more than a long distance, online friendship out of it, but to send that e-mail and get that in return I think is more worth it than to not send the e-mail.

Indemnis -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 3:46:24 AM)
Online friends are just as important as so-called "real life" friends. It's a real person on the other end, and what connects people AS friends if not shared words and mental similarities/connections? I have friends online I've known for years, who know me better than real life friends I've known longer. HardToTame, you are quite right there. ^_^

blissy -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 3:49:01 AM)
quote: Not all sub-types are the super-shy eggshell walkin' types (not to offend those who are, whatever floats your boat.). Some of us are fiesty and spunky, make our own decisions, and can even get downright goofy. i may be shy, but i aint an eggshell. i know you did mean me in particular, but i re-read what i wrote and kinda thought maybe i sounded a lil 'doormat'like.... i'm a goober, fun & stand on my own two feet when needed, im just really shy at first.[:D]

Indemnis -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 3:52:26 AM)
As I say, dear, whatever floats your boat. If you are shy, that's who you are and I'm sure you're lovely and multi-layered just like the next person. No, I didn't mean you in particular, nor for you to take it personally. Again, I mean no offense to anyone! :) <Gives Blissy hugs>

eyesopened -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 4:04:59 AM)
i don't see any reason for a submissive to not be the one to initiate contact. i have in the past. That i never recieved a positive reply is one reason i stopped emailing first. But then i know i don't fit into most Dominant's idea of what they are seeking in a submissive. i eventually felt that if i simply remained approachable, someone would approach. i'm very, very fortunate that the right Master found me.

hopelesslyInvo -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 5:01:06 AM)
i'm always bewildered (i think i like that word) when people limit thierselves depending upon some assumption of which gender or role or whatever should make the first move. here stands a thread wondering if submissives would feel ok taking initiative, and a few days ago i saw another saying it's the subs responsibility to make the approach~ with me, i very rarely make first move because i simply don't feel comfortable doing so, not because i feel like i'm out of my place to do so.

Dnomyar -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 5:05:24 AM)
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 5:09:07 AM)
if i'm sending a dominant a message, usually it's to comment about his profile after viewing mine but most days i'm on the receiving end of many dominant/submissive's messages. it's funny how people don't read to the end to see those 3 simple little words.

GoddessTeaze -> RE: would you or not ? ? (4/2/2008 6:52:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: devil1963 If any of you subs out there felt that you could see a Dom you may like would you send him/her an email ? I wonder if you may miss out or indeed the Dom may miss out on what or who the best thing could be for them. As a Dom I have no problems with getting an email from a sub that wishes to show his/her interest. What about you other Dom's ? email? what's that.... it's more like "hello" or a standard pretyped email which so doesn't relate to My add, or what else I'm getting, "I want to be collared by you?" Rarely I get an email worth reading, which shows there are some pearls out there.. but those r truly a few. I Like to comment on adds, giving a compliment to one or another thing. But keep on writing! [;)] Warm Greetingz GoddezzT`

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