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MissAngelandsub -> This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 1:20:40 AM)
OK I didn't know how to search for this so I am asking here. With other people besides my husband I feel like a Domme...but with my husband I feel submissive more than Domme I prefer to be submissive with my husband than Dominant. So, does that make me a switch or Submissive with Switch tendancies or what?? I know I shouldn't be worried about labels and I am not just wondering basically because I want my profile to reflect something that someone might be looking for...and since it is a couple profile...it might make a difference when someone searches. Thanks for your input.

chamberqueen -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 7:08:12 AM)
Be honest. If it is a situation where you would Domme under his control then you might have the chance to live out the best of both sides of you. You don't need to label yourself if you don't want to. I was a Mistress until I got involved with my Master. I now call myself a slave because that is what fulfills me most, but others subs still come to me for advice and feel that I am still a Mistress. The important part is that you find fulfillment in what you are doing.

LilMissHaven -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 7:14:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissAngelandsub OK I didn't know how to search for this so I am asking here. With other people besides my husband I feel like a Domme...but with my husband I feel submissive more than Domme I prefer to be submissive with my husband than Dominant. So, does that make me a switch or Submissive with Switch tendancies or what?? I know I shouldn't be worried about labels and I am not just wondering basically because I want my profile to reflect something that someone might be looking for...and since it is a couple profile...it might make a difference when someone searches. Thanks for your input. Perhaps your husband is the only one capable of inspiring your submissiveness. I don't think you need to place a label on yourself, you both are obviously happy and comfortable in your roles and thats all that matters at the end of the day or at least IMHO

persephonee -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 8:41:59 AM)
No need to label it, but you could add to your journal that you sub to Him and are exploring your Domme side.

MissAngelandsub -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 11:39:45 AM)
Ok Thank you all for your input....I had never really seen this discussed on here before and it sorta makes you want to sit back and think...at least it does me.

FlamingRedhead -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 1:55:14 PM)
There's really no point in using 100 words to say the same damn thing. A switch is a person who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role and "switches" roles. Instead of being worried about your profile reflecting "something that someone might be looking for," how about you try just being honest about who you are and what you're looking for.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 1:58:31 PM)
Many of us are growing away from the idea that Dom = Top and sub = bottom. They can mix and match. We can also have different energy toward different people in the same way middle management has both a boss and subordinants. It's really not that hard to figure out, once you compare it to the rest of our life. Master Fire

TeachMeTonight -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/2/2008 11:18:20 PM)
I think this question reflects the aversion some folks have to identifying as a switch. In the end, it is up to you how you identify. I am in a similar situation, I do identify as a switch. The other question is what, if anything, are you looking for on Collarme. If you are looking for submissive partners, identifying as dominant may make sense. However some people might feel it is a bait and switch, no pun intended, if they later find out you submit to your husband.

Catilicious -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/3/2008 8:50:13 AM)
I'd just be honest and do what FlamingRedHead suggested; if you're straight forward with everyone who views your profile you're much more likely to find a suitable person rather then the possible "bait and switch" Teach Me Tonight mentioned. And don't forget what persephonee said! I'd add in into my profile or journal somewhere for clarification. It seems like a simple enough idea. Best wishes!

FlamingRedhead -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/3/2008 9:53:37 AM)
Thank you, Catilicious. smiles

MissAngelandsub -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/3/2008 9:31:35 PM)
Yes I changed my profile last night to reflect what dynamic me and him have and what we are looking for after reading what she said seemed to make since to do it that way. Thanks again for the replies.

FlamingRedhead -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/4/2008 8:53:22 AM)
You're welcome! I wish y'all the best of luck.

LotusSong -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/4/2008 8:57:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissAngelandsub OK I didn't know how to search for this so I am asking here. With other people besides my husband I feel like a Domme...but with my husband I feel submissive more than Domme I prefer to be submissive with my husband than Dominant. So, does that make me a switch or Submissive with Switch tendancies or what?? I know I shouldn't be worried about labels and I am not just wondering basically because I want my profile to reflect something that someone might be looking for...and since it is a couple profile...it might make a difference when someone searches. Thanks for your input. I call that knowing which side your bread is buttered on... :)

LikaLady -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/10/2008 2:42:03 PM)
The beautiful thing about this life is that everyone can belong, even if they don't fit into a specific box (submissive or dominant, etc). If you talk to 100 people, you are going to get 100 different variations of the definition of something. Everyone's experience shapes how they look at things, including words. So, in answer to your question, define it for yourself. Just be clear about your definition to any potential playmates. Communication is a wonderful thing.

impossiblesub -> RE: This has probably been asked but.. (4/23/2008 2:57:20 AM)
Simple, you feel like you belong to your husband and you don't belong to others.

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