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first session in your life - 4/2/2008 11:52:04 AM

dea2008

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What would be the best feelings for the slave during the game of the first session ?
If its like four hours session, what is the most impressive , full of feelings and delight , during the first session ?
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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 12:38:04 PM

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Surely that would depend on the slave & his/her personal wants, needs & desires?
What exactly is better or more enjoyable is a very individual thing.. No two individuals are the same in that respect. Sorry if this is no help but your question is a little confusing.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 12:54:09 PM

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Please clarify what it is you are asking. Your question is a bit confusing.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 1:02:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: dea2008

What would be the best feelings for the slave during the game of the first session ?
If its like four hours session, what is the most impressive , full of feelings and delight , during the first session ?
thank you

What would be heaven for one would be hell for another. This is one of the reasons discussions are so important beforehand.

However, I'd make a few recommendations. Four hours may be a bit too long for both of you. After all, it doesn't do for the dom to get exhausted before the scene comes to a conclusion and for a beginning submissive that long can be pretty overwhelming.

Start slow and with the basics. The goal shouldn't be to safeword. Intensity is not the same as quality. (see http://www.lovingdominant.org/90degree.html) I'm hoping you aren't planning a one-night-stand. These can be more unsatisifying in scene than in vanilla life.

Be ready for surprises. What someone has fantasies about is not always within the body's ability (see http://www.lovingdominant.org/1stScene.html)

< Message edited by JohnWarren -- 4/2/2008 1:08:21 PM >

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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 1:12:44 PM

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I used to avoid any permit of my secret desires to come out to the reality.
I know that verbal humiliation , slap , spit , whip , well any thing ...would do its effect with a strong powerful feelings experience.
But I never used to try it in my life , I am only thinking to start .
One thing is good I hope , that Mistress knows better than me in my case what I need.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 1:14:40 PM

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For me, the best feeling from my first session years ago was heavenly. Not from the intensity of the session, but the aftermath, when i got to curl up at his feet, rest my face against his thigh and hear him softly tell me that i had done very well, and he was very pleased with me. He pet my hair, softly caressed my face, and it was the warmest feeling i'd ever experienced. And thankfully for me, i still get that enjoyment and the same warm feeling.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 1:38:58 PM

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For myself, it was the nervous anticipation of what was going to happen as I had no idea on what to expect from my owner at the time when we had our first session together. My attitude was of excitement mixed with a bit of fearful nervousness until the blindfold went over my eyes and I was handcuffed to a spreader bar.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/2/2008 6:03:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: dea2008
What would be the best feelings for the slave during the game of the first session ?
If its like four hours session, what is the most impressive , full of feelings and delight , during the first session ?
thank you

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RE: first session in your life - 4/3/2008 4:15:06 PM

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Until now , I used my masochism for my purpose ,I did not allow it to rule over me.
I used to follow Shakespeares - 'Smell the flower and you 'll get the strength but swallow it , and you will die .'
Therefore , I was just smelling the flower , I mean just tasted this practise by looking at some photos on line... , and nothing more.
But I feel like missing the life ... missing the paradise of looking at my Mistress eyes...
Therefore I think to start from the session by the professional Mistress.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/3/2008 4:17:05 PM

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Sorry , I am wrong with false context applied to Shakespeare . Sorry.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/3/2008 4:26:00 PM

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The best feelings are honest responses. You don't want to pretend to be a pain slut who can't wait for welts if once you leave you'll never talk to him again and tell everyone you know he's abusive.

As far as the first session goes, I'm a great believer in both of you talking about the stuff you most enjoy, and only doing what is common on both your lists. First time is enough stress that you should be doing something you enjoy not something you absolutely hate.

If this isn't what you wanted to know, then please restate the question.

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RE: first session in your life - 4/3/2008 4:28:36 PM

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my reaction to my first session? "Oh my god....Can we do that AGAIN?!" ......it was awesome

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