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wanderingastray -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:24:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FRSguy Maybe you should seek out people with a lot more experience of modify your filtering proccess. how should i modify my filtering process exactly? as far as people with a lot more experience, i've had a guy who was 25 years my senior with 30 years of experience try this on me as well...so i dunno.

wanderingastray -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:25:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist They are subs, playing bait and switch. Mayvbe you should make it clear that playing this game with you is a waste of time, and you will dump them the first time that they attempt it. why would they be posing as doms on this site then? ack!

wanderingastray -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:27:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DS4DUMMIES quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray so, the last few doms i have attempted to pursue something with have all decided to switch on me. mind you, these are men who advertise themselves as dominant, not switch. it starts off well and good and by the 3rd or 4th date they are "curious as to what it would be like if i topped them." why does this keep happening? does anyone else have this problem? It's called "I-am-not-really-a-dom-but-i-believe-that-women-on-bdsm-sites-might-be-more-loose-than-women- i meet-in-bars-and-so-maybe-i-can-get-them-to-top-me-if-i-order-them-to-syndrome" Actually, I've heard many women voice this frustration in the past, so you;re not alone. Adding a line to your profile that says "...anyone who meets me professing to be a "dom", and asks me - or even HINTS at asking me - to top them, is going to be instantly and unceremoniously thrown out on their ass, never to return...", will help. That's not satire..... Ds4 thanks Ds4!

LadyPaige -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:30:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist They are subs, playing bait and switch. Mayvbe you should make it clear that playing this game with you is a waste of time, and you will dump them the first time that they attempt it. why would they be posing as doms on this site then? ack! Because they're posers.

johntom571 -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:51:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray so, the last few doms i have attempted to pursue something with have all decided to switch on me. mind you, these are men who advertise themselves as dominant, not switch. it starts off well and good and by the 3rd or 4th date they are "curious as to what it would be like if i topped them." why does this keep happening? does anyone else have this problem? ok maybe i missed it in the posts, but i have a question: are those "doms" that contacted you, or that you contacted? also a comment: it might be a common problem with false advertisment. for example, i run into lots of profiles from subs who claim to be intelligent and articulate and looking for a male dom, but when i contact them, they don't reply, which might indicate that they are not necessarily all of the above. so don't feel bad when you ferret out the fake doms out there, eventually you'll find a real one. like i'm hoping to find a real sub one day. JohnTom

wanderingastray -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:51:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPaige quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist They are subs, playing bait and switch. Mayvbe you should make it clear that playing this game with you is a waste of time, and you will dump them the first time that they attempt it. why would they be posing as doms on this site then? ack! Because they're posers. oh, right! forgot. ;)

Leatherist -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 2:59:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist They are subs, playing bait and switch. Mayvbe you should make it clear that playing this game with you is a waste of time, and you will dump them the first time that they attempt it. why would they be posing as doms on this site then? ack! Because they don't have what it takes to get a Domme, and hope you will be a cheap substitute.

colouredin -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 3:00:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: johntom571 i run into lots of profiles from subs who claim to be intelligent and articulate and looking for a male dom, but when i contact them, they don't reply, which might indicate that they are not necessarily all of the above. Humm I am intelligent and articulate and would rather like a male Dom, and I dont reply to all mails, normally because I dont fancy them or their mails are annoying. Though your point about the wording of a profile is a valid one. Maybe OP you should jsut take out the stuff abotu you being a Domme totally, you can tell people after the initial contact but maybe that attracts people.

Leatherist -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 3:04:17 PM)
I rather think a lot of women don't replay BECAUSE they are intelligent-and the ones writing really have no clue as to small hints-such as what the sub writes in the profile. It's funny how that works.[;)]

chatondamore -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 3:05:35 PM)
I end up with tons and tons of male dominants that as soon as they find out i'm a switch, with a bi hubby, i become like the holy grail. AHhhh! An excuse to do all those naughty things i've been fantasize about doing with men, without having to really take responsibility for doing it!

wanderingastray -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 3:09:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: johntom571 quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray so, the last few doms i have attempted to pursue something with have all decided to switch on me. mind you, these are men who advertise themselves as dominant, not switch. it starts off well and good and by the 3rd or 4th date they are "curious as to what it would be like if i topped them." why does this keep happening? does anyone else have this problem? ok maybe i missed it in the posts, but i have a question: are those "doms" that contacted you, or that you contacted? also a comment: it might be a common problem with false advertisment. for example, i run into lots of profiles from subs who claim to be intelligent and articulate and looking for a male dom, but when i contact them, they don't reply, which might indicate that they are not necessarily all of the above. so don't feel bad when you ferret out the fake doms out there, eventually you'll find a real one. like i'm hoping to find a real sub one day. JohnTom doms that contacted me.

Maya2001 -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 3:23:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPaige quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist They are subs, playing bait and switch. Mayvbe you should make it clear that playing this game with you is a waste of time, and you will dump them the first time that they attempt it. why would they be posing as doms on this site then? ack! Because they're posers. oh, right! forgot. ;) If you want only a dom ...take out all mention of topping or being a domme in your profile, just mentioning those things are going to attract desperate subs or switches looking for a domme, you can still be honest if you feel the need to reveal that information by telling after you meet a dom your interested in....just do not stick it in your profile, as those subs and switches that read that in your profile can easily create a new profile calling themselves a dom just inorder to create an opportunity for themselves

Smoothicen -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 4:43:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wanderingastray so, the last few doms i have attempted to pursue something with have all decided to switch on me. mind you, these are men who advertise themselves as dominant, not switch. it starts off well and good and by the 3rd or 4th date they are "curious as to what it would be like if i topped them." why does this keep happening? does anyone else have this problem? My guess is that they were switches or subs to begin with. Remeber that switches tend to go either way based on the personality they encounter and some subs have not completely accepted that part of themselves. It is also possible that they are in the discovery phase and would like to try it the other way.

AMaster -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 10:40:22 PM)
I'll never be a switch.

MasterKalif -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 10:53:59 PM)
Amen...me too switching goes against my personality...

Leatherist -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 10:59:19 PM)
I'm too evil and ornery to be a sub..(though I wish I could find an evil and ornery sub-we would have great times together!)

Wickad -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 11:08:59 PM)
(fast reply) I speculate that those folks contacting you aren't Dominant at all. Rather, they say they are Dominant because that is what men by definition are ... masculine, dominant, assertive. They probably percieve submissive men as being effeminate, compliant, and 'less'. This is just my speculation but it is based on a lot of insecure men that I've met. Wickad

SailingBum -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 11:16:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin quote: ORIGINAL: johntom571 i run into lots of profiles from subs who claim to be intelligent and articulate and looking for a male dom, but when i contact them, they don't reply, which might indicate that they are not necessarily all of the above. Humm I am intelligent and articulate and would rather like a male Dom, and I dont reply to all mails, normally because I dont fancy them or their mails are annoying. Though your point about the wording of a profile is a valid one. Maybe OP you should jsut take out the stuff abotu you being a Domme totally, you can tell people after the initial contact but maybe that attracts people. Typically I ignore the profiles that say I'm smart n stuff. Like anyone is gonna say "dumb as a box of rocks, My feet stink and my mommy dresses me funny. And OH those are my good points". Looking for the same in my mate. If you have to point out your smart sexy witty. How smart can you be??? Give me a fucking break. BadOne

Leatherist -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 11:18:29 PM)
Uh huh......... You can call yourself "roast beef sandwhich" if ya want to. Still doesn't mean you belong in the deli section.[:)]

colouredin -> RE: what's with doms switching on me all of a sudden? (4/3/2008 11:24:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist Uh huh......... You can call yourself "roast beef sandwhich" if ya want to. Still doesn't mean you belong in the deli section.[:)] Yup yet also calling myself a girl, a human being, a mamel and no one would have any problem. Well SB its true no one would say that they are dumb, and of course the way you are should speak loudly enough for you. And I think that calling yourself sexy is slightly differant but thats just my opinion Its true that we can apply whatever label that we want to each other and not everyone may agree but I dont see why is matters. Also by just stating that I have brains doesnt mean that I instantly became thick.

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