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needy -> pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 8:46:00 AM)

I am brand new to this lifestyle, although I think it is more of a side hobby for me. I have a new master who has little experience. So far, for corporal punishment he has only spanked me. I am very interested in my master training me by pussy whipping. I have fears and I don't know how to work into it. Have any of you experienced Masters dealt with a pussy that is virgin to the paddle/hand/whip? Can you tell me how you trained your slaves in this way? I learn best by hearing others experiences. Thank you.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 8:51:28 AM)

I really have no idea where to start answering this because I don't think you have any actual context in which to begin.

How are you defining "training"?

Why do you want to be "trained" by having your pussy whipped?

Your pussy will react completely differently than anyone else's, it will depend on how hard, where, what time of month, with what type of implement, what he's done already, how much he builds up and a dozen other factors.

And how that all relates to "training" I have no idea



IronBear -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:07:20 AM)

I was given a mini flogger suitable for flogging pussies for my birthday ....... Hmmmm now I need a pussy to whip ... Nudge .. Nudge .. Wink .. Wink .. VWEG



JohnWarren -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:17:39 AM)

Instead of talking about "training by pussy whipping" you might want just to ask about "pussy whipping." You see "training" has so many denotative and connotative definitions that it is easy to get caught up in it.

I've found that pussy whipping often becomes a sought after activity among submissives, not just pain seekers. It's a very intimate activity and the impact works on the same bundle of nerves that makes spanking so popular.

If your partner is monogamous, there isn't a cross contamination problem, but for others, because the genitals are largely mucus tissue, I recommend either a specific pussy whip for each partner or a whip that can be disinfected between uses. We have several rubber strand whips we can immerse in bleach without damage.

While the pussy is exceptionally sensitive, it isn't as vulnerable do damage as many believe. I do recommend a thud-type whip rather than a sting one, which may abrade tissue.



OsideGirl -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:21:12 AM)


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ORIGINAL: needy

I am very interested in my master training me by pussy whipping.


How does this constitiute training? One of my pet peeves is defining training by tieing someone up and beating/pinching/gagging/spanking. Training infers either learning something or physical conditioning. So, a beating actually has no real training value unless your goal is to up the bottom's resistance to the beating (think of an athlete). The reality is that 90% of the people that call it "training" are really engaging in a scene/play session/etc.

quote:

Inflected forms: trained, train·ing, trains
Verb
tr. 1. To coach in or accustom to a mode of behavior or performance. 2. To make proficient with specialized instruction and practice.


So, beyond semantics:

I love pussy spanking/strapping/flogging/whipping. Dunno if I'd allow an unexperienced Dominant to use a whip, hard flogger or hard strap. Just because it's a spot where you can do a lot of damage. I would start with a hand spanking and work up to a "Slapper" type strap or soft flogger. Also, this isn't an area that I would recommend to just start flailing away at. Start softly and let the blood rush to the skin. It puffs up the area and provides more padding and more sensation.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:31:42 AM)

Can I just say a pet peeve of mine cuz I am in the mood?

What's with guys who pussy spank with the legs wide open and THEN try and sexually stimulate you? The air getting to the areas really dries things out fast for me, specially with it being swatted at so much, and I'm not known for being terribly wet unless you really get to me...and pain doesn't turn me on.

So you get that going on and THEN the guy tries to play with my clit or get in my pussy, and I'm totally dry. Then he's all confused why I'm not writhing and moaning...sheesh.



Touchatdarque -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:38:09 AM)

Like others who've posted, I consider it a scene component rather than training. As for the physical act itself, I've employed a flogger with heavy falls that gives more of a thudding sensation than a sting. My method is to begin by simply lifting the flogger a short distance above the mound and letting the falls swing on their own landing lightly. Intensity is then slowly built to whatever level is desired. Post scene discussion gives me input on how to proceed the next time.



RainGod -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 10:37:21 AM)

OsideGirl writes:

quote:

I love pussy spanking/strapping/flogging/whipping. Dunno if I'd allow an unexperienced Dominant to use a whip, hard flogger or hard strap. Just because it's a spot where you can do a lot of damage. I would start with a hand spanking and work up to a "Slapper" type strap or soft flogger.


This reminded Me... has anyone ever seen those small floggers with the falls made of tiny rubber "stringlets"? I once thought they were sold as a rearview mirror ornament, but they would actually be fantastic for pussy whipping, no?

O'side is correct, though.... the less experienced Dom may want to start out with his cupped palm... sometimes the loud sound from the cupped palm can be as exciting as the sensation of the sting. Just be safe, progress slowly... and might not hurt to get into safewords.
Hope that something I said was of use to you. :)



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 11:01:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RainGod
I once thought they were sold as a rearview mirror ornament, but they would actually be fantastic for pussy whipping, no?

Depends on what you're going for. I find those floggers can be fun but irritating in the long term.



fastlane -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 11:03:02 AM)

Fastlane raises his hand slowly and states, "just incase someone is taking a poll? I'm pussy whipped!"




ChurchOfPain -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 1:13:51 PM)

Please allow me to join the fray. Girl obviously likes (or thinks she would like) her pussy whipped. Best experience I can personally relate is that straight up pussy whipping is not near as good as when combined with ass whipping. Girl on all fours, using one of those rubber string whips which can be judiciously applied to the buttocks with exacting force, then tapered more mildly to the sensitve pussy area. Handle of such also makes a nice sting. I appreciate the One who said disinfect first, and demure to His sage reply. Never would have thunk that.

Also, (this is for girl) flicking the pussy with a finger is a good control exercise for a new Dom, to test pain reception and sensitivity. As always, I wish you happy flogging.

Church



nelbot -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 1:48:25 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Can I just say a pet peeve of mine cuz I am in the mood?

What's with guys who pussy spank with the legs wide open and THEN try and sexually stimulate you? The air getting to the areas really dries things out fast for me, specially with it being swatted at so much, and I'm not known for being terribly wet unless you really get to me...and pain doesn't turn me on.

So you get that going on and THEN the guy tries to play with my clit or get in my pussy, and I'm totally dry. Then he's all confused why I'm not writhing and moaning...sheesh.



Thank you- I thought I was the only one... I should learn by now that I'm never alone in anything but it always sounds good to hear that someone else has the same issues!



domtimothy46176 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 6:53:25 PM)

I've found that a crop, used with restraint, is a lot of fun and doesn't do any lasting damamge. My preference is for a crop with a thin head (striking surface). I use one with a head that's about 1/2" wide. It did take quite a bit of practice to gain confidence in my accuracy but it was worth it.
For the totally new: I never practice on the submissive when acquainting myself with a new torture implement. I always pick a safe target like a chair or a pillow on which to practice.Timothy



perfection20005 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 7:12:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

Can I just say a pet peeve of mine cuz I am in the mood?

What's with guys who pussy spank with the legs wide open and THEN try and sexually stimulate you? The air getting to the areas really dries things out fast for me, specially with it being swatted at so much, and I'm not known for being terribly wet unless you really get to me...and pain doesn't turn me on.

So you get that going on and THEN the guy tries to play with my clit or get in my pussy, and I'm totally dry. Then he's all confused why I'm not writhing and moaning...sheesh.


I am the same way when Master does this to me. I do know that he understands why I get dry, but it doesn't make me feel any better. I know I can't control how wet I am down there, but when I do get real dry, I feel bad.



OsideGirl -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 7:13:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: domtimothy46176
For the totally new: I never practice on the submissive when acquainting myself with a new torture implement. I always pick a safe target like a chair or a pillow on which to practice.Timothy
Good point When Master was first learning to cane, he would wipe the cane with white chalk and practice on a black pillow so he could see where it was striking.



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:46:30 PM)

Training by pussy whipping is just simply not practical. For one, it can't be done anywhere at anytime. Two, it takes too long to prep for to be a functional disciplining tool. Three, it all goes out the window if the submissive actually enjoys it. It no longer is a punishment then, it becomes a reward. The point to using physical punishment is to stop you from doing certain, unappealing acts. Not to encourage you to do them.

But, to answer the question, your Dominant should take it slow. First He needs to know how sensitive you are and how you respond to certain stimuli such as thudders and stingers. After knowing this, I agree with what Touchatdarque said: begin by simply lifting the flogger a short distance above the mound and letting the falls swing on their own landing lightly. Intensity is then slowly built to whatever level is desired.



Lordandmaster -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/5/2005 9:52:56 PM)

My suggestion is that he should tie you down, force your legs apart, and whip your pussy.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/6/2005 5:10:30 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: perfection20005
I am the same way when Master does this to me. I do know that he understands why I get dry, but it doesn't make me feel any better. I know I can't control how wet I am down there, but when I do get real dry, I feel bad.

I don't feel bad. The partner knows my body, or he knows if I've told him which I'm quite comfortable doing, so there's nothing for ME to feel bad about.

While I can understand your perspective, I suggest working on removing that undue burden from you- it's actually a very arrogant and controlling perspective to have.



RainGod -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/6/2005 7:32:13 AM)

EmeraldSlave said:

quote:

Depends on what you're going for. I find those floggers can be fun but irritating in the long term.


lol Em, I see your point... I was thinking it would be a fairly safe learning tool for a beginner.



RainGod -> RE: pussy whipping question from newbie slave (10/6/2005 7:37:35 AM)

Timothy had a really good point here with:

quote:

For the totally new: I never practice on the submissive when acquainting myself with a new torture implement. I always pick a safe target like a chair or a pillow on which to practice.


I am most likely going to be accused of being wierd or even a closet masochist here with what I am about to say, but this is My way:

When I was learning new things, new tools, new methods, I would 'practice on My own skin. Caning My thighs to understand the tensil strength of the wood, the measure of force needed and to gauge the sensation it brought. Floggers...the same way. I guess I want to know how it feels so I will know better how to use it. Just My way... it might not be for everyone.

It still, however, remains the fact that since I have no pussy, that was an area I just had to begin slowly. At first the playful smacks... and progressed through several sessions in varying degrees to find that perfect measure.



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