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slavegirljoy -> RE: The true nature of BDSM (4/4/2008 9:02:17 PM)
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Regardless of what sort of sexual and/or intimate relationship someone chooses for themself, there is the potential for it to be the most meaningful, most satisfying, most uplifting experience ever. There is also the potential for it to be a disappointing, hurtful, and disheartening experience. A relationship that is based on BD/SM is no more or less likely to be wonderful (or miserable) than any other type of relationship.
Finding out what sort of relationship is right for you and putting your passion and energy into it, rather than simply doing what someone else wants you to do and only giving it the minimum of effort and merely going through the motions, is, i believe, essential to getting the great, uplifting, rewards from your relationship.
As is the case with most endeavors people pursue, we tend to get out of it what we put into it. If we put energy and passion and wholehearted commitment into it then, there's a better chance of realizing a wonderful experience from it. If we only put in the minimum of effort, there's a better chance of not getting much satisfaction, in return. Of course, with an interpersonal relationship, there's more than one person who has to be making the effort. One person can't make it great (or horrible) all by themself. For some people BD/SM is nothing more than an fun pastime or an occasional escape from the daily routine or an attempt to spice things up in the bedroom. For other people, it is a lifestyle. It's their way of life. It is a reflection of their core values, interests, and activities. For people who live and breathe this stuff, there is often a great deal of passion for it and they put that passion into it. For them, just as for anyone who puts a lot of passion into what they do, they do feel a great deal of reward from it. In honor of the life and tragic death of Martin Luther King, Jr., the following is a quote of his:
If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.
- Martin Luther King, Jr.
i believe that i was called to be subservient to another and to serve His every need. i serve with all my heart and do my job well. And, in return, i am rewarded with a great deal of satisfaction and a contented heart. joyOwned servant of Master David
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