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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/7/2008 10:46:00 AM

Fischen

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Personally, I've never found there to be any "Best Practices" on picking up anyone. While yeah, some methods are a heck of a lot better than others, it all depends on who you want to find, at least as far as personality goes. It doesn't do you any good to send a nice detailed and personalized letter to someone who bases whom they pick and choose by looks alone. It doesn't do you any good to send poetry to someone, (who might end up actually liking it), if you aren't any good at poetry. As far as the spellchecker nazi's are concerned, while I understand their point, there are some perfectly good folks out there who quite honestly can't write a letter to save their lives, and those folks would pass them by simply because they don't know when to use to, too, or two (U no wat I mene?). And as far as all the folks who write showing off their tallywackers, there are a lot of OTHER people out there that go, OMG, a 15 inch schlong, I'd love to talk to him. When I first created a profile on ALT, I got a letter from some guy who wrote, "I'd love to f*** your wife while you licked the c** from my a**" ... Now, while this isn't something that has me jumping for joy, I am totally positive that SOMEWHERE along the line, he got some letter back from someone saying, "Golly that sounds like a darn good time to me".

Moral of the Story -- Be true to yourself, do what makes you happy, and send any type of letter you perfectly well choose. With just the teeniest bit of patience (and enough letters), the right person will fall right into your lap.

Fischen

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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/7/2008 10:58:31 AM

lalbobbilynn

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Ummmmm, well ok. i really have nothing to add that has not been stated rather eloquently by others who posted here. Your profile seems quite sound, nevertheless, i was taken aback by "and i am the type to be depressed when things do not go my way". i am not even ceratin as to what i should say to that. Other then that small blurb, IMHO, You seem to be straight forward.

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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/7/2008 11:27:28 AM

surelyujest71

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Obviously, I can't respond from the sub/slave point of view. I would suggest treating them like a decent, interesting human being, one who has attracted your notice, and attempting to write a thoughtful, insightful letter, at least referencing a few details in her profile as you do so.

And prepare to be disappointed, too. The vast majority of the subs/slaves on here won't respond, because either they were looking for something slightly different, or for some other reason. Among the least likely to respond are those who put "respond to all e-mails" in their profile.

Once in a while, however, you will get one of those few responses that truly make all of the effort worthwhile. A number of those might turn into basic, friendly, e-mail conversations. But, there will be the occasional jewel.

Don't give up hope, just because it seems to be taking awhile. The subs and slaves on CM get a LOT of e-mail, and we Doms just have to accept that patience is, indeed, a virtue we need to cultivate.

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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/7/2008 12:11:17 PM

rubberpet

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How do I like to be approached on here?

Very slowly because sudden movements make me twitchy...LOL

Seriously, just approach me like I was somewhere vanilla like a grocery store or gas station. Get to know me, the person, before you attempt to get to know the subby side.

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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/7/2008 7:08:43 PM

LPslittleclip

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i like honest and straight forward to be the best. i prefer to read that the prospective dominants state what they like their submissives to be like. as far as being dominated on the first message I'm not attracted to that. i am very happily collared by my M'Lady our first meeting was to drive 3 hours away to meet. she was impressed that i was allowed by my wife to play. now W/we are a poly family. the whole thing is based on honest and open communication. i hope this helps you.

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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/9/2008 1:25:40 PM

jimmyrook

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fischen

Personally, I've never found there to be any "Best Practices" on picking up anyone. While yeah, some methods are a heck of a lot better than others, it all depends on who you want to find, at least as far as personality goes. It doesn't do you any good to send a nice detailed and personalized letter to someone who bases whom they pick and choose by looks alone. It doesn't do you any good to send poetry to someone, (who might end up actually liking it), if you aren't any good at poetry. As far as the spellchecker nazi's are concerned, while I understand their point, there are some perfectly good folks out there who quite honestly can't write a letter to save their lives, and those folks would pass them by simply because they don't know when to use to, too, or two (U no wat I mene?). And as far as all the folks who write showing off their tallywackers, there are a lot of OTHER people out there that go, OMG, a 15 inch schlong, I'd love to talk to him. When I first created a profile on ALT, I got a letter from some guy who wrote, "I'd love to f*** your wife while you licked the c** from my a**" ... Now, while this isn't something that has me jumping for joy, I am totally positive that SOMEWHERE along the line, he got some letter back from someone saying, "Golly that sounds like a darn good time to me".

Moral of the Story -- Be true to yourself, do what makes you happy, and send any type of letter you perfectly well choose. With just the teeniest bit of patience (and enough letters), the right person will fall right into your lap.

Fischen

word. im feelin that. thats what i do anyway. its nice to hear peoples opinions. but im gonna be me no matter what anyway. of course there are a few variations of me so...

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RE: How do you like to be approached on here - 4/10/2008 10:04:31 AM

Corvidae

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I appreciate when they have read my profile (and have taken in to account who I am actively looking for).
I hate it when people treat me like a sub right off the bat. I don't like being ordered around by someone I haven't given permission to order me around. For me at least, I would prefer to get to know and trust someone as an equal before taking on the role of dom and sub.
Personally, as I have said in another post, I apply the rule of GIGO (garbage in garbage out)
this means if someone sends me a rude letter it will likely get dumped or I'll send a curt reply (or I'll chew them out if it is particularly offensive and I am in the mood)
if someone sends me a brief note, I'll send them a brief note back
if someone sends me a well thought out letter, I'll do my best to send a well thought out reply

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