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How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 2:07:07 PM

SimplySubmissive

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This is for the subs out there. I asked a Dom i had been speaking with if He was mono, or poly, and He said He might, someday, want a second. i asked Him to elaborate, and got the answers i was looking for, but they were not what i thought He meant at first. how would any of you interpret this ? just curious....
thanks!

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 2:18:52 PM

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Well, for me it wouldn't have been enough to go on and i too would have asked for elaboration.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 2:31:00 PM

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ok, here's what i visioned when He said that.. an M/s couple gets together, forms a strong and lasting relationship.. decides to explore adding to their already happy family, together they go to local clubs, munches etc, meet a wonderful sub, etc etc.... what He meant was He will do whatever, whenever with whoever He pleases, and may decide to collar a second at some point. whew.. very different perspectives.. that's why it is soooo important to ask detailed questions.. but my question came about because i was told that most Doms would not take to subs dictating a Doms behavior. I always thought it was more of an agreement between two people in a relationship..
any thoughts?
anyone willing to share about this subject?
i'm really interested in knowing how others deal with this subject in a new relationship.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 2:33:06 PM

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quote:

I asked a Dom i had been speaking with if He was mono, or poly, and He said He might, someday, want a second. i asked Him to elaborate, and got the answers i was looking for, but they were not what i thought He meant at first. how would any of you interpret this ?

He wants one today and down the line he wants multiples. At least he is being honest.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 2:34:53 PM

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I always thought it was more of an agreement between two people in a relationship..
any thoughts?
anyone willing to share about this subject?

A relationship is the conscentious of two parties. However, some will tell you a slave has no rights. They just go along with whatever the dom wants.

It sounds to me like he was telling you his future plans. Either you agree or disagree and if you disagree you can walk away now.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 2:35:58 PM

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The way I see it - every relationship has to be grounded on some sort of mutual agreement. More detailed the better.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 3:03:43 PM

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In a true M/s relationship, its the master's right to acquire other slaves. However, he has a responsiblity to take the first slave's emotional well being into consideration before persuing such an endeavor.

Basically, you should be happy that he's being honest with you and you should make an assessment as to how you feel about him having other slaves before you sign any contracts.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 3:23:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub4hire

quote:

I asked a Dom i had been speaking with if He was mono, or poly, and He said He might, someday, want a second. i asked Him to elaborate, and got the answers i was looking for, but they were not what i thought He meant at first. how would any of you interpret this ?

He wants one today and down the line he wants multiples. At least he is being honest.

Ditto to that.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 3:31:13 PM

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"might" He's keeping his options open. You've been informed. It's up to you to figure out where you fit in this situation.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 3:33:04 PM

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"might" He's keeping his options open. You've been informed. It's up to you to figure out where you fit in this situation.

or that he has no idea what it actually involves but likes the sound of it - Either way I agree with the others about him being honest!!

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 3:41:12 PM

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well thanks all, and yes, i appreciate the honesty, i don't think we are going to be compatable. it's nothing serious right now anyway, just talking.
my issue isn't with the second someday, it's the general attitude and the playing around leading up to it.
i'm not comfortable with playing the field while trying to build a relationship. just me i guess.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 3:56:29 PM

Kasia

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i'm not comfortable with playing the field while trying to build a relationship. just me i guess.

When I first met my present husband he openly told me he likes to be involved in "playing" with others. Just like that, honestly and directly. I had no problems with that, I just told him I think we should postpone any of such activities until we get to know each other a bit better and see how we get along in general. He agreed on that.

Now, 4 years later, we are married and happy couple that takes great pleasure in "playing" whenever we feel like it. We managed to built a relationship based on love, trust and respect. One does not exclude the other.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 4:38:19 PM

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They call it "hedging your bets" honey. In short, it is "eelspeak" for saying "I'd rather not let you nail me down on this-but I want to offer a "feel good" solution to mollify your doubts."

Slippery lilthing,isn't he?

Wonder what he will come up with next time?

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 4:50:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplySubmissive

This is for the subs out there. I asked a Dom i had been speaking with if He was mono, or poly, and He said He might, someday, want a second. i asked Him to elaborate, and got the answers i was looking for, but they were not what i thought He meant at first. how would any of you interpret this ? just curious....
thanks!

Definitely sounds like he wants to start with one and then add on with another sub in the future.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 5:22:08 PM

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In a true M/s relationship, its the master's right to acquire other slaves.

Whoa! I basically agree with you, but you can't say that just because it is not OK for my master to aquire other slaves that it lumps us into the realm of a "fake" m/s relationship. As long as this is agreed upon before entering into servitude, there should be no problem. There are many different ways to live this lifestyle, and all of them are true to the person experiencing them.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 5:34:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain

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In a true M/s relationship, its the master's right to acquire other slaves.

Whoa! I basically agree with you, but you can't say that just because it is not OK for my master to aquire other slaves that it lumps us into the realm of a "fake" m/s relationship. As long as this is agreed upon before entering into servitude, there should be no problem. There are many different ways to live this lifestyle, and all of them are true to the person experiencing them.

I never meant to imply that your relationship was "fake." However, if he allows you to say that he's "not allowed" to have other slaves, I would say that you're involved in a slightly different type of relationship than the one that I'm in. In our relationship, I don't have a right to tell him what is or isn't ok for him to do, in ANY circumstances. Its is AlWAYS his choice. I trust him not to make decisions that would hurt me, but it is STILL his choice.

My point was that if a slave is SLAVE (property), she doesn't get a say so. Its the master's choice. He may discuss it with the slave and CHOOSE to agree to a monogamous relationship because he feels it would be better for her emotionally, but its still his choice and not hers.

Its like me and my horses (I show/train barrel racing horses.)...I don't ask one horse if its ok for me to buy another horse. They're pets/property.They don't get a say so. I'll take it into consideration that I don't think my horse would get along with a new horse if I bought one, but its still my choice. Granted, horses can't talk, but I think you get my point.

If he's the master and I'm the slave, my opinion doesn't officially count (although he will take it into consideration unofficially.)

Perhaps my concept of M/s relationships is a bit more severe...For example, I don't believe in a slave setting hard limits. That's the Master's job, to decide what will and won't be done. I also don't want safe words with my Master. For me, it makes me feel like I'm in control which I don't want.

< Message edited by HentaiGamerKitty -- 10/5/2005 5:36:24 PM >

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 5:57:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: JustaTop

They call it "hedging your bets" honey. In short, it is "eelspeak" for saying "I'd rather not let you nail me down on this-but I want to offer a "feel good" solution to mollify your doubts."

Slippery lilthing,isn't he?

Wonder what he will come up with next time?

Yes indeed JustaTop!

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 10:40:27 PM

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SimplySubmissive this Dominant sounds and has even illicited responses as if a master, seeking TPE.....

a Life changing experience such as adding another human being into one's relationship i personally find is taken way to casually these days. The foundation between the exsisting couple must be extremely strong, in order for it to survive, the addition of others.(JMO)

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/5/2005 10:47:04 PM

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I don't really understand what you're asking. If you asked him to elaborate, and got the answers you were looking for, then didn't that tell you how to interpret what he said? We don't know what questions you asked and what answers you got, so our interpretations are nearly meaningless.

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ORIGINAL: SimplySubmissive

i asked Him to elaborate, and got the answers i was looking for, but they were not what i thought He meant at first.

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RE: How would you interpret this phrase? - 10/6/2005 1:01:16 AM

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I see it as one day he might want to take on another submissive.

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