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(almost to the point of where I thought she might have had some British influence in her background)

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ORIGINAL: sarbonn

Last night I was at work (I still teach at a community college in Kalamazoo, even though I've pretty much left the academic teaching environment to take a much better paying job in the health care industry a few months back). Anyway, this young woman I've known since we were in grad school together is one of the teachers where I teach, and I've always been attracted to her, even though I realized at some point that she dates mainly alpha male young guys (I'm most definitely not her type), so I was fine with that.

A little tiny background. She's very intelligent. She's somewhat of a strong feminist and focuses most of her political science research on women's issues.

Anyway, I'm the kind of person women have always felt comfortable around and capable of opening up with problems. The fact that I was an investigative type most of my former career and capable of setting someone at ease during a conversation probably helps as well. Well, I didn't even realize I was doing it during our conversation (we share an office together), but she told me that she broke up with her previous boyfriend (of which I knew very little other than she had been dating him for awhile). I also noticed for the first time in a long time that she had a serious tooth problem (almost to the point of where I thought she might have had some British influence in her background). It was then that I realized that it wasn't a tooth problem but that she was actually missing one of her lower teeth; it had been awhile since I'd spoken to her that I wondered if I was so oblivious that I never even noticed that.

Then she said she was joking with her students and coming up with different reasons for why her tooth was missing. For some reason, I went into investigative mode and made a connection between "last boyfriend" and "missing tooth" and asked if there was actually a connection. She said this, exactly:

"No, it was the guy after him. I have this problem picking these kind of guys that...um, I mean I fell down the stairs." Then, every further inquiry got me that specific response of "I fell down the stairs."

For the first time in a long time I was kind of speechless. I really didn't know what to say. I didn't know her on a personal level enough to inquire further, but at the same time I realized there was a real problem here.

Any thoughts? Or would you have done something differently other than be kind of floored and say nothing? I know everyone likes to think they'd do the great thing, but when faced with it, I dropped the ball and just didn't know what to do or say.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha
And the comment about British and teeth is just plain rude. Serious lack of tact.

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ROFL I'm so dense. I thought that comment was that her teeth were so whacked that it affected her speech patterns and made her sound like she had a British accent.

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Any thoughts? Or would you have done something differently other than be kind of floored and say nothing? I know everyone likes to think they'd do the great thing, but when faced with it, I dropped the ball and just didn't know what to do or say.

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Any thoughts? Or would you have done something differently other than be kind of floored and say nothing? I know everyone likes to think they'd do the great thing, but when faced with it, I dropped the ball and just didn't know what to do or say.

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What does this have to do with submissiveness? Are you saying that as a sub you were not able to react a certain way or it hindered you? Would you, as a male dom, have jumped into action? I don't understand the submissiveness part of the post.

And the comment about British and teeth is just plain rude. Serious lack of tact.

Akasha

I just wished to agree with the above statement. I am left wondering what the whole post has to do with submissiveness?

I would also add - I am british - have all my teeth, no caps or fillings, straight and white. I would be interested to know, sarbonn, your oral situation?(And please, no more lame attempts at 'oral'humour)

Is it just me, or are peoples attempts at humour just not working at the moment? Either that or someone is seriously selling dodgy material...

Peace and Love

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: sarbonn

Last night I was at work (I still teach at a community college in Kalamazoo, even though I've pretty much left the academic teaching environment to take a much better paying job in the health care industry a few months back). Anyway, this young woman I've known since we were in grad school together is one of the teachers where I teach, and I've always been attracted to her, even though I realized at some point that she dates mainly alpha male young guys (I'm most definitely not her type), so I was fine with that.

A little tiny background. She's very intelligent. She's somewhat of a strong feminist and focuses most of her political science research on women's issues.

Anyway, I'm the kind of person women have always felt comfortable around and capable of opening up with problems. The fact that I was an investigative type most of my former career and capable of setting someone at ease during a conversation probably helps as well. Well, I didn't even realize I was doing it during our conversation (we share an office together), but she told me that she broke up with her previous boyfriend (of which I knew very little other than she had been dating him for awhile). I also noticed for the first time in a long time that she had a serious tooth problem (almost to the point of where I thought she might have had some British influence in her background). It was then that I realized that it wasn't a tooth problem but that she was actually missing one of her lower teeth; it had been awhile since I'd spoken to her that I wondered if I was so oblivious that I never even noticed that.

Then she said she was joking with her students and coming up with different reasons for why her tooth was missing. For some reason, I went into investigative mode and made a connection between "last boyfriend" and "missing tooth" and asked if there was actually a connection. She said this, exactly:

"No, it was the guy after him. I have this problem picking these kind of guys that...um, I mean I fell down the stairs." Then, every further inquiry got me that specific response of "I fell down the stairs."

For the first time in a long time I was kind of speechless. I really didn't know what to say. I didn't know her on a personal level enough to inquire further, but at the same time I realized there was a real problem here.

Any thoughts? Or would you have done something differently other than be kind of floored and say nothing? I know everyone likes to think they'd do the great thing, but when faced with it, I dropped the ball and just didn't know what to do or say.

What does this have to do with submissiveness? Are you saying that as a sub you were not able to react a certain way or it hindered you? Would you, as a male dom, have jumped into action? I don't understand the submissiveness part of the post.

And the comment about British and teeth is just plain rude. Serious lack of tact.

Akasha

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She's very intelligent. She's somewhat of a strong feminist and focuses most of her political science research on women's issues.