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MistresssAria -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/6/2008 8:04:39 PM)
MamaDomme, glad you stayed! :) Hmm....uh, I feel like writing a Rolling Stones lyric here lol.........."You can't always get what you want...But if you try sometimes well you might find...You get what you need...oh yea, oh....." I shouldn't post when I'm tired......... ;)

MistressVnus -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/6/2008 9:30:57 PM)
Remember the laws of attraction. Picture what you want in a slave....don't settle. And, poof. He/she will appear. One just never knows when. Kind of like planting a garden. You get lots of weeds to pull, and in doing so, maybe a few ant bites along the way. But, with care, watering, and fertilization, the flowers will begin to appear. I promise. Stay positive and hang in there. I'm mainly saying that to convince myself!! LOL And, if it helps you to, so be it!!

MaamJay -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 2:04:54 AM)
Never broken a toe by kicking, I dropped a full 2 litre glass bottle on My foot one day and broke the middle toe [&:] ... stubbed the big toe a few times too! And oh, LadyPact, I physically winced reading Your description ... YOUCH!! Since I found the lifestyle ... I've not thought about leaving it. I can't really imagine that. This is M/me ... just took a long time to put the name to it and find likeminded people. But I do have a related problem ... being a duality with a need to live simultaneously as both Domme and sub, is a real pain! If it's hard enough to find ONE suitable partner ... imagine finding TWO different ones! ARRGGGHHH! I started out finding subs, and thought I could live happily as 90% Jay and let my sub side out occasionally. Nope, that didn't work! The path was a bit rocky, but in 2004 Master and violet (my sub side) became an item, and I was trying to live 50:50 with Him and a sort of sub hubby. Well, briefly I was happy, but ultimately that didn't work because hubby was a CD not a sub, and after a lot of stress, that ended a couple of years ago. Since then, i have thought (and to a point, tried) to be content being "just violet". It would be so much easier! But no ... Jay keeps popping out, getting frisky (and occasionally getting violet into trouble LOL!) and i have to admit, no matter how much i dream about it, I can't be entirely content as sub only. Master, fortunately, totally recognises and understands that ... He knew that I was both from the start as Jay Dommed him first off, but once W/we switched ... well His sub side has done a permanent disappearing act it seems! So while i've even hinted at switching again occasionally to keep Jay happy, and reminded Him what a wonderful sub He was ... that's a no go! So He continues to support and encourage Me to find a sub and create a poly household. Now, I just have to find one! A few trials and a lot of errors later ... and I almost don't dare say this for fear of hexing it ... but I think I have found a good one! he sounds great so far, very level headed, has served before so I am confident he will actually show up, and W/we have lots in common in everyday life as well as vision of 24/7 D/s ... now all that is frustrating U/us is that it will be another week or 2 till he gets some rostered time off and he can come for a first visit. So if you hear some screams of frustration in the meantime ... that'll be U/us! MamaDomme ... so glad You are still here ... don't ever run away without saying goodbye at least! And I am so hoping Yours works out for You ... sounds all good! And MsVenus ... that picturing thing works ... or at least, it's what I've been doing a lot of! Hope it works for You too. Maam Jay aka violet[A] PS to those who hate using capitals for Dom and small letters for sub ... SORRY but it's the only way I keep track of whether it's Jay or violet in control of the hands on the keyboard!

chezzy52 -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 2:48:03 AM)
What are you kidding me??I have broken toes,my foot,ankle,and fibula,cracked a vertabrae,dislocated a shoulder,had whiplash,sprained a pinky,and lastly,did a Greg Louganis face first into my computer desk.....and dammit...i am still here aren't i??

adoracat -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 4:35:07 AM)
LadyPact, i know what you're talking about with the toe...i kicked a piece of heavy furniture in the dark one morning about 5 am, stuffed my foot into my shoe, and went to work....came home about 7 pm and sat there afraid to take the shoe off. when i finally did, my foot was black and purple all the way up to the ankle, i'd broken the last 2 toes on that foot. went to work the next day, i was the sole income-earner at the time. but yeah....from a submissive point of view, i wouldnt have tried to find someone again after fallcon passed away, IF he hadnt forced me to promise that i would. he was right, i am happy with Daddy, and i'll be happy with TheEngineer. if i hadnt gone back into the ocean, i would have looked at it longingly the rest of my life. kitten

LadyPact -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 4:58:13 AM)
Yes, kitten. Roughly the same story. I did the same thing. Put the shoe on and went to work. The only problem with this was the fact that I couldn't stand up wirhout My face going pale. The boss turned Me around and sent Me home. When the shoe came off (and believe Me, that memory is quite vivid) the whole foot had turned a variety of colors, ranging from bluish green to black. Debate about getting medical attention ensued. My husband won that one. More interesting debate about the use of a wheelchair at the hospital because I could no longer walk by the time we arrived, but I still walked in Myself and even made it half way to x-ray. He still tells that story because of how long it took Me to make that particular journey before I would give in. Funniest part though was the gal who was the x-ray tech that day. Still in denial, I said something to the effect that I refused to accept that it was broken. She just looked at Me and said, "Honey, you f*cked your foot up."

MladyHathor -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 5:33:13 AM)
MistressVnus, you are so right---We must be willing to stay the course as they say--I oft wonder if our fellow Doms get the treatment we do when they do not choose or how they react when they are rejected---and that is the point of the post--staying the course, I mean if it were vanilla. one would hardly say, well pffttt IM quite done with the human race--well I suppose we could---we seem to eventually question ourselves--and why? I am sure when morning dawns there will be more than a few in My area who will say---pffttt what about Me, I was right here,---but were you, or was it all on your terms?? This last wall kicking episode made Me realize, I DO have bigger balls, I AM stronger and I CAN stay the course---and no, I wont tell you to strip and kneel at 4th and Vine and pick you up---puhleeze--We--well I need to and intend to stay the course this time, here and out there---and the one who has My attention is the one who decided no matter what-- I was good for him, and he was the best for Me---so sometimes we as well need to make sure we inspect the trees as well as the forest. I really don't have a broken toe, it is an analogy, however in college, I broke two bones in My foot---you see, he told Me he screwed around on Me with an ex--he was standing on the stairs at school, at a level that well----I let loose, it took him months to heal, I was in a cast for weeks---heh heh THAT is the spirit I had to find again----We at times all curse the darkness, it is what we do woth the candle that matters most.

adoracat -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 6:01:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Yes, kitten. Roughly the same story. I did the same thing. Put the shoe on and went to work. The only problem with this was the fact that I couldn't stand up wirhout My face going pale. The boss turned Me around and sent Me home. When the shoe came off (and believe Me, that memory is quite vivid) the whole foot had turned a variety of colors, ranging from bluish green to black. Debate about getting medical attention ensued. My husband won that one. More interesting debate about the use of a wheelchair at the hospital because I could no longer walk by the time we arrived, but I still walked in Myself and even made it half way to x-ray. He still tells that story because of how long it took Me to make that particular journey before I would give in. Funniest part though was the gal who was the x-ray tech that day. Still in denial, I said something to the effect that I refused to accept that it was broken. She just looked at Me and said, "Honey, you f*cked your foot up." yep, sounds QUITE familiar!!! i was working for a moving company at the time, doing pack-outs, so i was on my feet the whole day, and for 3 days after that, till the weekend came. i attribute my ability to do so entirely on the fact that i have chronic pain anyway, and it was just one more "i cant afford to deal with this" to set aside. kitten

chezzy52 -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 6:13:26 AM)
Lady Hathor..i know it is an anology..i used my own to make a point that unless death is at my door..chezz isn't going anywhere or settling for less.Yeah i know..thanks for the warning...har har har.

MadameMarque -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 10:36:38 AM)
Acknowledging first that normal is a relative term...I don't think I'm normal, nor have been, by anyone's standards. I have not had the impression that I would be happier or better off if I were more normal. But looking for "my people" - people who understand me and with whom I connect - that has been very difficult. Feeling alien, even among most of my own biological family, has been difficult. These differences have combined with psychic sensitivity and empathy, to render me "stranded," you might call it. I don't feel that being more normal would be the remedy for the problems that seem to stem from 'being the way that I am.' I do wish for the adaptation and/or the circumstances that allow it to be the considerable asset it seems it should be and might be. I certainly wish for you, the same. "It is about a passion so deep that it defines one's being. The boy is blessed with that rare honesty - he will not deny himself his passion. He risks exposure, humiliation, hatred, and worst of all, the loss of the one he loves, just to live his way. It makes one feel inadequate when one considers how much we willingly censor our own desires and passions just to 'fit in'. There are moments of exquisite pain in this film, when you can hear hearts shattering, and from these come some of the film's most beautiful moments as well. His seemingly endless devotion to her, her traumatic attempt to rationalize his desire - these are extremes that perhaps each of us have tasted to a lesser degree at some point in our lives. Here, watch them played out to the maximum. If his love is to be called perverse, then let it be so, for maybe love is too great to be normal, too intense to be sane." - commentary on the film Gekko no Sasayaki aka Moonlight Whispers, by screen name myownpteidaho, at http://imdb.com/title/tt0208178/usercomments "You're the only one who understands who I am." - Gekko no Sasayaki aka Moonlight Whispers, screenplay by Yôichi Nishiyama and Akihiko Shiota, based on the manga (comic) by Masahiko Kikuni

MladyHathor -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 3:30:21 PM)
quote: Acknowledging first that normal is a relative term...I don't think I'm normal, nor have been, by anyone's standards. I have not had the impression that I would be happier or better off if I were more normal. But looking for "my people" - people who understand me and with whom I connect - that has been very difficult. Feeling alien, even among most of my own biological family, has been difficult. These differences have combined with psychic sensitivity and empathy, to render me "stranded," you might call it. I don't feel that being more normal would be the remedy for the problems that seem to stem from 'being the way that I am.' I do wish for the adaptation and/or the circumstances that allow it to be the considerable asset it seems it should be and might be. *The words I have struggled to find-----thank you*

Politesub53 -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 4:12:03 PM)
This also works in reverse, it`s a matter of do we settle for less or for what we want, and often need. My latest theory is i see enough decent people looking on here, to chance the waiting game. Mind you, im getting older so may settle soon... :)

MadameMarque -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/7/2008 8:19:58 PM)
Well, I'm sorry that you're feeling the trials of it. But I'm glad to meet someone who understands. I welcome a sister in arms! And from New Orleans, no less?

Dnomyar -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/8/2008 9:04:00 AM)
I gave up looking long ago and fell in love with myself. Im the only one who understands me.

LaTigresse -> RE: The Broken Toe (4/8/2008 1:38:12 PM)
I've just learned to take life as it comes. One day at a time. Find the joy in the moments and quit moaning about what I don't have. Just trust that exactly what I need will come at the exact moment I am ready for it. Until then, I am going to keep doing my thing as it works for me. (Two girls are coming to visit in May!!!)[;)]

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