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swtnsparkling -> DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:04:49 PM)
HI, A QUESTION FOR ALL DOMS/TOP I AM IN A CURIOUS MOOD TODAY DOMS DO THINGS THAT DON'T ALWAYS PLEASE THEM.SAY YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING LIKE FIRE OR ZIPPER PLAY( OR INSERT ANY EXAMPLE) ON YOUR SUB, BUT YOU REALLY GET NO ENJOYMENT FROM THIS AND YET YOU PUSH YOURSELF TO DO IT. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? TO PUSH YOURSELF PAST SOMETHING WHAT EXACTLY IS THE "PERSONAL GROWTH? (SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS)

RainGod -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:12:16 PM)
Let Me begin by saying I am not knocking anyone's kink in this thread or in any other I participate in.... please. I had a submissive once who loved to be peed on. Myself, I have never actually understood the kink, or been able to connect piss to sexual gratification for Me. I just don't get it. I didn't hate it. It wasn't a hard limit with Me. So I would do it. Why? Because she often did things she didn't relish in just because I liked it. I didn't feel it was out of the question to do some things she enjoyed that I did not. That's why I would piss on her... because it brought her joy and fulfillment. And I didn't mind at all.

KatyLied -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:13:22 PM)
What is zipper play?

JohnWarren -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:17:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling HI, A QUESTION FOR ALL DOMS/TOP I AM IN A CURIOUS MOOD TODAY DOMS DO THINGS THAT DON'T ALWAYS PLEASE THEM.SAY YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING LIKE FIRE OR ZIPPER PLAY( OR INSERT ANY EXAMPLE) ON YOUR SUB, BUT YOU REALLY GET NO ENJOYMENT FROM THIS AND YET YOU PUSH YOURSELF TO DO IT. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? TO PUSH YOURSELF PAST SOMETHING WHAT EXACTLY IS THE "PERSONAL GROWTH? (SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS) I'm puzzled. If you are sorry about the caps, why use them? If you have a caps only keyboard, just say so. For me there are two answers to this question. One reason for doing things from which I don't get direct pleasure is that I like pleasing my sub. If she's happy, there is an energy field that warms everyone in range. On a nonhuman, nonsexual level, what kind of a person wouldn't pet his dog when the dog comes up and puts that loving head on a knee? The second is that I'm drawn to scenes that are difficult to accomplish and require creativity. For example, I was asked a while back to craft a Dolcett-type scene. That isn't one of my kinks but I had the same pride when I was able to bring it off as a sculptor looking at a finished work.

ProtagonistLily -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:18:18 PM)
quote: ZIPPER PLAY Ok, here's a new one. Could someone please explain Zipper play??? Lily

nephandi -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:18:21 PM)
Perhaps what you get when you take Salvia Divinorum and the world seam, from descriptions to open up into a total dark void of nothingess like if a big zibber had been opend?

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:20:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied What is zipper play? I'm guessing she means a zipper- a bunch of clips/clothespins strung together on a string and then placed on someones body and all ripped off in a quick line. There is such a thing as a "service top" someone who does things for the bottom to serve them and make them happy. Most tops do it for the scene, for the pleasure, not for any real submission or long term authority issue. It might also be that they want to try something new out, get new skills. As far as the dom side goes, some doms like pleasing their sub and doing things they want. For the dom, the ULTIMATE pleasure of seeing their sub get something fun far outweighs any IMMEDIATE lack of pleasure in whatever activity is happening to go on. However, like anything, doing things that ultimately do not serve you and will not help you become who you are will eventually wear you down. Dominants can get burned out, submissives can get disillusioned.

Kasia -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:29:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? TO PUSH YOURSELF PAST SOMETHING WHAT EXACTLY IS THE "PERSONAL GROWTH? (SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS) Dont be sorry about the caps, just dont use them. I personally never do things just to make someone happy if I dont like them myself. I.e. I cook usually to keep my man happy (and fat [:D] ), I can live on french fries alone and be happy for years, but I never cook something I dislike. Same goes for everything else.

KatyLied -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:43:21 PM)
quote: some doms like pleasing their sub and doing things they want. nice nice nice

JohnWarren -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 12:56:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily quote: ZIPPER PLAY Ok, here's a new one. Could someone please explain Zipper play??? Lily A number of clips or clothespins are connected by a cord. The clips are attached to the submissive and pulled off with one smooth jerk on the cord. It smarts

Kasia -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 1:00:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren A number of clips or clothespins are connected by a cord. The clips are attached to the submissive and pulled off with one smooth jerk on the cord. It smarts You can trust JohnWarren to know just about everything there is. Truly admiring you, John.

JohnWarren -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 1:02:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kasia quote: ORIGINAL: JohnWarren A number of clips or clothespins are connected by a cord. The clips are attached to the submissive and pulled off with one smooth jerk on the cord. It smarts You can trust JohnWarren to know just about everything there is. Truly admiring you, John. I try, I try.... some people say I'm very trying.

KatyLied -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 1:03:28 PM)
Thanks, to those who explained the zipper play.

WickedKev -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 1:43:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied Thanks, to those who explained the zipper play. And I thought zipper play was for masochists who like to get thier todgers stuck in the zipper.....

WickedKev -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 1:45:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling HI, A QUESTION FOR ALL DOMS/TOP I AM IN A CURIOUS MOOD TODAY DOMS DO THINGS THAT DON'T ALWAYS PLEASE THEM.SAY YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING LIKE FIRE OR ZIPPER PLAY( OR INSERT ANY EXAMPLE) ON YOUR SUB, BUT YOU REALLY GET NO ENJOYMENT FROM THIS AND YET YOU PUSH YOURSELF TO DO IT. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? TO PUSH YOURSELF PAST SOMETHING WHAT EXACTLY IS THE "PERSONAL GROWTH? (SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS) Oh in answer to your question I will try anything once, then one more time just to make sure if i like it or not. If it holds no interest I don't do it anymore...........end of story

OsideGirl -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 1:48:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? Because D/s is a symbiotic relationship. Because sometimes spoiling me gives him pleasure in my pleasure. Because sometimes it helps him get the submissive into the right head space. Who knows? Every relationship and person is different.

domtimothy46176 -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 2:15:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling HI, A QUESTION FOR ALL DOMS/TOP I AM IN A CURIOUS MOOD TODAY DOMS DO THINGS THAT DON'T ALWAYS PLEASE THEM.SAY YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING LIKE FIRE OR ZIPPER PLAY( OR INSERT ANY EXAMPLE) ON YOUR SUB, BUT YOU REALLY GET NO ENJOYMENT FROM THIS AND YET YOU PUSH YOURSELF TO DO IT. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? TO PUSH YOURSELF PAST SOMETHING WHAT EXACTLY IS THE "PERSONAL GROWTH? (SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS) My answer is pretty basic, compared to the others I've read. I do what I need to do to keep my property maintained in optimal working condition. Some things I enjoy, some I do not. I don't particularly care for getting my hands dirty, but I check the oil in my vehicle because it's neccessary to assure that it continues to function correctly. In the same way, I'll schedule time with toy, knowing that she has a need to chat about things that are irrelevant and uninteresting to me. The interaction is something I must provide if I want her at her very best. In every relationship there are some things that I term "the price of doing business". Depending on the relationship, the price may be no greater than common courtesy or as high as one can reasonably imagine. For toy, the price is obedience, for an employee, the price is showing up on time and doing the job. I think sometimes it's easy to lose sight of how simple the mechanics of maintaining a relationship can be. Timothy

Evanesce -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 2:51:52 PM)
quote: DOMS DO THINGS THAT DON'T ALWAYS PLEASE THEM.SAY YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING LIKE FIRE OR ZIPPER PLAY( OR INSERT ANY EXAMPLE) ON YOUR SUB, BUT YOU REALLY GET NO ENJOYMENT FROM THIS AND YET YOU PUSH YOURSELF TO DO IT. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO DO THESE THINGS, TO MAKE THE SUB HAPPY? TO PUSH YOURSELF PAST SOMETHING WHAT EXACTLY IS THE "PERSONAL GROWTH? Well, the short answer would be because it's not all that much effort and it gives your submissive/slave/bottom a little pleasure they might not always get if it's really ALL about you. Personally, I do in a scene those things I enjoy doing, and I don't much care if the bottom I'm playing with enjoys it or not. But every once in a while I feel generous, and I'll do something JUST for them. It's what keeps them coming back. Denise the Kaptin's wench

Evanesce -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 2:54:47 PM)
quote: Thanks, to those who explained the zipper play. Yeah, and thanks to those who INVENTED zipper play! Ouchie!!! (but then, it's kinda fun if you're the one pulling it off!) To John... Oh, I WISH I could have seen that Dolcett scene... Denise the Kaptin's wench (aka she of the rotisserie fantasies)

JohnWarren -> RE: DOM PUSH (10/6/2005 3:07:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Evanesce To John... Oh, I WISH I could have seen that Dolcett scene... It was quite cool. We used flesh colored liquid latex and "skinned" her. It took weeks of hard thinking to come up with that one

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