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Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/6/2008 10:22:45 PM

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Probably been done a million times before, but, yeah. I just want some understanding of what others expect from a mistress.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 1:20:47 AM

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perfect mistress? i can still only describe something abstract.

female - because i'm both captain obvious and because i'm attracted to femininitity

fallible - i'm not looking for a "goddess", i like treating them like a goddess, but i love them because they are human.

understanding - yeah, i'm only human too =/

attractive - the problem is who can say what i'm going to be attracted to? i can't even figure it out.

mildly superficial - sure i'm happy if the chemistry is good, but i don't want her to say "i love you, even though you're ugly as sin, honestly... whatever you're doing... just stop... stop trying... because it isn't helping"

homo sapien - because although i ended up not being racist, i'm a species'ist asshole, and i especially hate aliens, sorry.

loving - abuse? fine... kinky? still fine... but by god i want to cuddle!

rich - because 40+ hours a week are better spent with more cuddling huh huh? hey now, come on... i can feel those harsh looks because i said the word rich, you said perfect, not me.

awesome - it's probably not as hard as you think~

relaxed - 5 minute shower vs 2 hour bubble bath? no contest. if there's one thing about me to know, i don't like to rush.

receptive - no fake smiles please, i'm trying to make you happy, so i hope you really end up being.

justified - don't let being something like "dominant" get in the way of doing something you want, even if it does seem conflicting.

don't hold back - your thoughts, your feelings, what you want... i'm not afraid to hear them, i'm afraid i won't find them out.

be weird - because it might be the only way you'll like a person like me.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 3:38:48 AM

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found her yet?

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 4:03:27 AM

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oh i find her a lot, and i find different forms of perfection all the time. alas, if all i had to do was find them... =p

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 6:39:27 AM

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As a former Mistress I can tell you what subs told me that they were looking for in me. I fit the bill on some, couldn't on others.

Someone who is:

- understanding
- firm
- willing to take them places they've never been before, both physically and mentally
- attractive (not necessarily beautiful or having a perfect figure but physically attractive)
- a good listener
- a teacher
- creative
- more knowledable than them
- willing to let them live out their fantasies
- non judgemental

I could do those things. However, I own no latex, can't wear high heels, and am not a true sadist. I will not blackmail someone, nor burn off their balls, nor have a threesome with them and their dog (actual requests). Some want the Mistress to "belong" only to them, some are looking to sexually fulfill her, and of course each sub has his own preferences.

There is no one perfect Mistress - however there is a good chance that there is a Mistress that is perfect for you. It will help you if you know what you want going into the relationship. Feel free to email me privately if you want more information.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 6:44:24 AM

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Shes made out of chocolate. (Godiva)

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 6:52:50 AM

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For me , the perfect Mistress would be a person, first and foremost. Someone that that i can be happy doing things for just because it makes them happy. A person that can push my boundries to teach me more about myself, but also is still learning about Herself. Someone that i can go and do some things in the vanilla world with, but still serve when we get home as if the outside world doesn't exist. Beyond that, i can't say, as much would depend on the individual.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 12:15:19 PM

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Describe my perfect Mistress...

Vampchick88.

That was easy!

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 6:52:05 PM

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If, I were in a position (pun intended) and I lived closer, this is who I would consider to be a good fit for me. kc692

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 7:41:41 PM

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.... a man. *chuckle*

But seriously, everyone has a different opinion of perfection, as well as expectations. You have to start out with the fairy tale image, then delete what's unrealistic and VIOLLA! You have what's perfect... for you. That being said, why do you need to understand what others expect? Find what's inside of you, what you need, want and expect. Communicate it, and don't settle for less than you deserve.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 8:08:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo
relaxed - 5 minute shower vs 2 hour bubble bath? no contest. if there's one thing about me to know, i don't like to rush.

Sadly, bubbles don't last 2 hours. *sigh*

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 9:06:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

quote:

ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo
relaxed - 5 minute shower vs 2 hour bubble bath? no contest. if there's one thing about me to know, i don't like to rush.

Sadly, bubbles don't last 2 hours. *sigh*

Master Fire

I love bath time and shower time, but baths over an hour aren't a great idea. The water gets cold and both of us get all waterlogged and wrinkly. Of course, if we have otherwise occupied ourselves in the bath for those two hours, we might not notice those things, and we certainly aren't lamenting the lack of bubbles ;)

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 9:48:27 PM

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She would have bilateral breath sounds , and a good strong heart beat ,and would not run away screaming like her hair was on fire upon our first meeting .

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/7/2008 10:45:08 PM

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/8/2008 6:08:43 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

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ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo
relaxed - 5 minute shower vs 2 hour bubble bath? no contest. if there's one thing about me to know, i don't like to rush.

Sadly, bubbles don't last 2 hours. *sigh*
Master Fire

I love bath time and shower time, but baths over an hour aren't a great idea. The water gets cold and both of us get all waterlogged and wrinkly. Of course, if we have otherwise occupied ourselves in the bath for those two hours, we might not notice those things, and we certainly aren't lamenting the lack of bubbles ;)

there are accessories to work around most of that for the more traditional tubs, but usually i just get so comfortable regardless, that 2 hours is gone before i realize it. but if that seems over the top, the time i spend in a hot tub when i have the chance is probably borderline ridiculous. and considering the hours i often enough spend swimming, the effects of being in water that long you could say are really just not a bother to me. honestly though i've never shared a shower or bath with anyone, so i can't pretend how well that would work out~

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/8/2008 10:22:14 AM

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I could never get bubbles to last more than a half hour. That's why I got rid of her. I tried blowing bubbles once. Did'nt work because she was a female.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/8/2008 4:55:10 PM

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Bubbles last a long time in a hot tub... so long that they are all but impossible to get rid of. Hopelessly? Come on over hon, I'll let you sit in my hot tub all day long if you want. Of course in this weather you might get over heated. And when I get my pool back up and going.... well, I live in it most of the summer.

Anyway.... I have to believe that someplace there is the perfect sub for me and they will eventually think of me as perfect for them.

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/8/2008 8:04:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel
Hopelessly? Come on over hon, I'll let you sit in my hot tub all day long if you want. Of course in this weather you might get over heated.

oh i'm sure i wouldn't mind lol, i won't melt~

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/8/2008 8:12:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo

perfect mistress? i can still only describe something abstract.

female - because i'm both captain obvious and because i'm attracted to femininitity

fallible - i'm not looking for a "goddess", i like treating them like a goddess, but i love them because they are human.

understanding - yeah, i'm only human too =/

attractive - the problem is who can say what i'm going to be attracted to? i can't even figure it out.

mildly superficial - sure i'm happy if the chemistry is good, but i don't want her to say "i love you, even though you're ugly as sin, honestly... whatever you're doing... just stop... stop trying... because it isn't helping"

homo sapien - because although i ended up not being racist, i'm a species'ist asshole, and i especially hate aliens, sorry.

loving - abuse? fine... kinky? still fine... but by god i want to cuddle!

rich - because 40+ hours a week are better spent with more cuddling huh huh? hey now, come on... i can feel those harsh looks because i said the word rich, you said perfect, not me.

awesome - it's probably not as hard as you think~

relaxed - 5 minute shower vs 2 hour bubble bath? no contest. if there's one thing about me to know, i don't like to rush.

receptive - no fake smiles please, i'm trying to make you happy, so i hope you really end up being.

justified - don't let being something like "dominant" get in the way of doing something you want, even if it does seem conflicting.

don't hold back - your thoughts, your feelings, what you want... i'm not afraid to hear them, i'm afraid i won't find them out.

be weird - because it might be the only way you'll like a person like me.

Shhhh.. They'll all realize that you are really talking about me!

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RE: Describe Your Perfect Mistress - 4/8/2008 9:29:55 PM

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nah they won't. Woops did I type that?

I don't think I understand enough about mistresses to conjur up my perfect one yet, give me a few mins.

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